The most deceptive lie ever believed.
Readership: All
Targeted Audience: Single Men
Theme: The W!tchy War on Masculinity
Length: 700 words
Reading Time: 4 minutes
Marrying for love is one of the biggest cultural lies taught, and the same lie is echoed by the church. It is also a very old cultural lie, a hangover from Medieval Chivalry that is still in effect today. In fact, this is the lie that is responsible for the convergence of the church.
Young Christian singles do not marry for love. You marry the person who can fulfill his/her role as a husband or wife.
Marrying for love will result in disappointment and disaster.
Why?
From a man’s viewpoint, marrying for love means that the woman is exerting sexual authority over him such that he feels humbled. That’s what the biological / secular concept of love is all about — being humbled by your own romantic / sexual needs for a particular person. It fails because this sets up a structure of hierarchy from the start that is ungodly and unbiblical.
The Christian Man does not marry for love. He marries the young woman who willingly submits to his Headship Authority as a Christian wife should do.
There is no purple structure. If there is a doubt about this, then there will be problems later.
The Peaceful Unity Model does NOT exist where there is intense sexual mating competition. It only exists in small Christian communities that regulate sexual competition.
Do not allow yourself to be deceived into thinking that Women marry for love. Women do NOT marry for love. They F_ck for love and validation. They marry for status, security, and resources. Do not confuse the two. Do NOT think she will become submissive by giving her what she wants. These days, Women are only submissive because they choose to be. So choose one who chooses to be submissive.
Women also have sex to influence men, like convincing him to marry her. This does not necessarily mean she loves him in the Biblical sense. Do not be deceived. If you are having sex before marriage, do not assume regular sex will continue after marriage, because it won’t. If you are not having sex with her, do not assume that getting married will give you all the p_ssy you can eat. It doesn’t work that way. Women fall in love and F_ck the man who exerts Headship dominance over her. Prioritize loving dominance, Biblical style. If she doesn’t submit, cut her loose before any further damage is done. Spend your time looking for a woman who will fulfill her role as a Christian Wife.
Pagan women (and many nominal Christian women too) will engage in serial monogamy and/or F_ck Ch@ds on the come and go and thereby ruin themselves for marriage. They only consider marriage after they pass The Wall or their biological reproductive clock is winding down to an evolutionary dead end. Even then, women will only consider marriage if he passes all her filters and has sufficient status and resources to be qualified in her eyes. Nominal Christian women are no different. Look for one who has demonstrated faith by bearing the cross of our age.
Moreover the idea of marrying for love is a mass deception foisted onto men to motivate them to marry. This is a hold over from medieval times.
Establish your domain first. Love comes later. Trust me, you will fall in love with a respectful woman who willingly submits herself to your sexual authority as a matter of principle and without a solipsistic glitch. But if you fall in love with her without first establishing your rule over her, then you will lose your authority over her. That’s the nature of romantic love.
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The broadcasts I received from the pulpits were pretty much:
Marrying for Sex
However the whole misunderstanding results from Greek-Roman dualism, which is contradicted by the Hebrew bible. Applying cultural philosophy from that era (which Jesus of Nazareth never cited) church fathers and reformers misunderstood human biology as inherently flawed — while animals and plants were supposedly created perfect as they were.
The same Evangelicals who point you to to a flower blossom telling you this “can’t be evolution”, as it looks “beautifully designed” to them, tell you that your human male sex drive is a design mistake needing to be contained by church doctrine.
And this is the reason why models made up by the human brain usually don’t work at all. Biologists who prefer to work with a free agency model (called “reason”) discover that hormones do much more than what they expected. They completely change behavior, convictions and entire life scripts. Whatever or whoever made these hormones had an intention with them.
If doctrine works against that to glorify Greek philosophy it will fail.
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Excellent, Jack. Somehow I managed to stumble into this truth back when I decided to get married. I told a pastor that I was marrying for mission support, and that romantic love would take care of itself. He lamented that so few understood that. Too bad his church was too far away for me to attend.
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This stems from a BP mindset deeply ingrained into culture. A man decides what is right and good for him his whole life, regardless of what he loves. This is not something limited to him being single (or not emotionally involved). His companion(s) either support his choices or the relationship ends at that point. There is no “vetting” possible to actually predict that — life is dynamic, not static.
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