Mount Moriah – The Place Where You Meet God

Mount Moriah, in Jerusalem, is the most historically valuable piece of Real Estate on planet Earth.

Originally written on Saturday, April 7, 2007

Could all these events have possibly occurred at the same location?

  1. God promises to make Abram the father of faith.
  2. Melchizedek blesses Abram at Salem (an old name for the city of Jerusalem).
    • Genesis 14:18-20 (NIV) – “Then Melchizedek king of Salem brought out bread and wine. He was priest of God Most High, 19 and he blessed Abram, saying, “Blessed be Abram by God Most High, Creator of heaven and earth. 20 And blessed be God Most High, who delivered your enemies into your hand.” Then Abram gave him a tenth of everything.”
  3. Abraham offers Isaac on Mount Moriah.
    • Genesis 22:1-19 (NIV) – “Some time later, God tested Abraham. He said to him, “Abraham!” “Here I am,” he replied. 2 Then God said, “Take your son, your only son, Isaac, whom you love, and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on one of the mountains I will tell you about.”…”
  4. Jacob’s dream occurred on Mount Moriah, according to Rabbinic scholars.
  5. Ruth comes to Boaz at the threshing floor.
  6. The Lord God appeared to David.
    • 2 Samuel 24:18 – “And Gad came that day to David and said to him, “Go up, erect an altar to the LORD on the threshing floor of Araunah the Jebusite.”
    • 1 Chronicles 21:18 “Therefore, the angel of the LORD commanded Gad to say to David that David should go and erect an altar to the LORD on the threshing floor of Ornan (Araunah) the Jebusite.”
  7. 840 B.C. – Solomon built the First Temple on Mount Moriah, Jerusalem.
    • 2 Chronicles 3:1Now Solomon began to build the house of the LORD at Jerusalem on Mount Moriah, where the LORD had appeared to his father David, at the place that David had prepared on the threshing floor of Ornan (Araunah) the Jebusite.”
  8. 586 B.C. – Solomon’s Temple on Mount Moriah, Jerusalem was destroyed by the Babylonians under Nebuchadnezzar.
  9. 520-515 B.C. – The Temple was rebuilt on Mount Moriah, Jerusalem under Zerubbabel.
  10. From 37-11 B.C., Herod the Great added to Zerubbabel’s Temple located on Mount Moriah to such an extent that this Temple became known as “Herod’s Temple.” This was the Temple of Jesus’ day.
  11. From 26-29 A.D., Jesus Christ appeared in the temple as the Son of God, and as God’s Word to men, declaring himself to be the new temple, and preaching and teaching salvation for all.
    • John 2:19-21 – “Jesus answered and said to them, “Destroy this temple, and in three days I will raise it up.” Then the Jews said, “It has taken forty-six years to build this temple, and will You raise it up in three days?”  But He was speaking of the temple of His body.”
  12. In 70 A.D., the temple was destroyed by the Romans, under Titus.
  13. In 135 AD, Hadrian, the Roman, completely removed all the ruins and traces of the second Temple.
  14. In 625 AD, according to the Muslim faith, Mohammed left the earth from Mount Moriah.
  15. In 635, the Muslims conquered Byzantium, and took control of Jerusalem.
  16. In 685, a Moslem mosque, called, “The Dome of the Rock” was built on Mount Moriah.

Future Events at Mount Moriah

  1. Scripture describes events of the Temple that have not yet come to pass. Therefore, the temple must be rebuilt at some point in the future. Many Christians and Jews believe that The Dome of the Rock will be destroyed, and the Jewish Temple will be rebuilt after the Ark of the Covenant is found.
  1. When the “abomination of desolation” is brought into the holy of holies, the end of the world will come.
  • Daniel 11-12
  • Daniel 12:11 – “And from the time that the daily sacrifice is taken away, and the abomination of desolation is set up, there shall be one thousand two hundred and ninety days.
  • Matthew 24
  • Mark 13
  • 2 Thessalonians 2:1-4 – “1 Now, brethren, concerning the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ and our gathering together to Him, we ask you, 2 not to be soon shaken in mind or troubled, either by spirit or by word or by letter, as if from us, as though the day of Christ had come. 3 Let no one deceive you by any means; for that Day will not come unless the falling away comes first, and the man of sin is revealed, the son of perdition, 4 who opposes and exalts himself above all that is called God or that is worshiped, so that he sits as God in the temple of God, showing himself that he is God.”

Present Application

  1. Since Jesus Christ came and paid the ultimate sacrifice for all time, there is no longer any need for a temple. No longer do we need a place to offer sacrifices.
  • Mark 12:33 – “And to love Him with all the heart, with all the understanding, with all the soul, and with all the strength, and to love one’s neighbor as oneself, is more than all the whole burnt offerings and sacrifice”
  • Hebrews 7:26-27 – “26 For such a High Priest was fitting for us, who is holy, harmless, undefiled, separate from sinners, and has become higher than the heavens; 27 who does not need daily, as those high priests, to offer up sacrifices, first for His own sins and then for the people’s, for this He did once for all when He offered up Himself.”
  • Romans 12:1 “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.”
  1. The Lord no longer uses Mount Moriah as a holy place of interaction with the human race. After Jesus finished his work on earth, the door was opened for God to relate to each man personally.
  • 1 Corinthians 3:16-17 (NIV) – “Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you? 17 If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him; for God’s temple is sacred, and you are that temple.”
  • 1 Corinthians 6:19 – “Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own?”
  1. God appears to us personally in a certain holy place in our hearts. It is important to nurture our relationship with God in this place.
  • 1 Corinthians 7:17-23 – “17 But as God has distributed to each one, as the Lord has called each one, so let him walk. And so I ordain in all the churches. 18 Was anyone called while circumcised? Let him not become uncircumcised. Was anyone called while uncircumcised? Let him not be circumcised. 19 Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing, but keeping the commandments of God is what matters. 20 Let each one remain in the same calling in which he was called. 21 Were you called while a slave? Do not be concerned about it; but if you can be made free, rather use it. 22 For he who is called in the Lord while a slave is the Lord’s freedman. Likewise he who is called while free is Christ’s slave. 23 You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men. 24 Brethren, let each one remain with God in that state in which he was called.”
  1. If you are seeking God, look for Him in places where you have found him before. If you seem to have lost God, go back to the place where you last remembered Him and experienced His presence.
    • Luke 22:39 – “Coming out, He went to the Mount of Olives, as He was accustomed, and His disciples also followed Him.”
  2. Once the Lord finishes his work in a place, he will never again be found in the same place, in the same way. To seek him in the same place is to insinuate that God did not finish the work He came to do.

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Yankee Stay Home!

What is the real purpose of building the wall?

Readership: All

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Anti-American intervention protests in Venezuela.

American Thinker (feat. Elad Hakim): For Trump, Pelosi-Schumer clown show is the gift that keeps on giving (January 10, 2019)

“Tuesday night, President Trump delivered a powerful speech from the Oval Office regarding the need for strong border security.  During the speech, Trump laid out specific facts explaining why the country needs to secure the border and how his plan would accomplish this.  According to Fox News, at one point during the speech, Trump directly addressed his colleagues, stating, “Wealthy politicians … don’t build walls because they hate the people on the outside, but because they love the people on the inside.”  The speech was effective and convincing.”

Let’s reinterpret that quote from Trump as it applies to the common American citizen.

“The wall is not meant to keep illegals out… it’s intended to keep Murican’s in!”

Right now, the squawk is over “undocumented” immigration eroding nationalism and the source of violent criminals, like MS-13.

For their part, the Democrats are theatricising a controlled opposition to the wall, to rally public support for the government-wide plan mandated by the Deep State.

So the current puppet show makes it appear as though building the wall is a Republican project. Not so! This is a recent development since Trump took office.

The time will come when there begins a reverse osmosis of human flow at the wall.

What, pray tell, would be a reason why anyone would want to leave the U.S.?

More Americans agree that this is an excellent time to go live abroad.

Delete Farcebook while you still can. The time is coming when your smartphone will be used to monitor your every word and move.

The writing is on the wall, although what it says, exactly, is different for each person.

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Where is your life headed?

Think about where you stand in the order of things. Is it where you want to be?

Readership: Men

Larry, from Larry’s Musings, left a heavyweight comment under an older post, Profile of an excellent leader (December 22, 2014).

“The post above raises the issue of people deciding (choosing) which groups and/or individuals to associate with and follow. This is important. What we see today in many Western societies is many individuals not consciously and rationally thinking about their choices, but acting rather emotionally and thus following “leaders” because of their appeals to our emotions.

It does not help that our educational system is currently one of indoctrination, and does not work to develop the pupils’ critical thinking skills. Add to this the propagandized nature of our history text books and our media, and we see that so many people really are lost and in ignorance. We need true leaders to help liberate the people of their ignorance.

The post above seems to have an emphasis on a leader’s role in the business and corporate world, but leaders in other walks of life also play critical roles in our societies.”

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Here follows an abridged section of the post he is addressing.

“People don’t have hope, but they need to have hope. Leaders bring hope that lies within a purpose – something that people can sincerely believe, and work patiently for it to come true.

We should ask ourselves, “Is this purpose really true, right, good? Is this what I want to become?”

The purpose is to find meaning in the somewhat imminent future (few months to a few years). This purpose requires some time, effort, and maybe even some $$$ to reach it.

We need a small group of people working together as a team to reach our purposes in life. Part of your choice is in the people you associate with. With the right combination, one can achieve great things.

We all need to feel like we are an important part of something larger than ourselves. (This is why some people join street gangs.) We have a responsibility to ourselves to choose what we want to become and make it happen. To this end, a leader offers a viable and wise course of action.

It is necessary for one to agree and follow the leader of a group, in order to be a part of a group. So we should ask ourselves, “Can I trust this group of people? Can I trust this leader? Can I sincerely believe what they believe?” If trust is not important, then why not join a street gang, just to find hope and purpose in life?

Do I have value? What is my value? Who am I? How do I maximize my self-worth? A leader offers answers to these questions.

I also hinted at this idea in a recent post covering the witches brew ad from Gillette,

“…don’t ever send your resume [to a converged corporation], unless you’re an upper level manager who plans to reorganize the structure. It’s time for America to realize that an employee of a company does the bidding of his overseers, for better, or for worse. So choose your employer wisely, and know your life purpose before accepting any job offer.”

Listen up fellas, because I know what I’m talking about here. I used to be employed in a Top Secret government job in the defense sector. There was extravagant waste of hard earned tax dollars. There was cronyism in the arrangements made on research contracts that had absolutely zero scientific foundation. If you made a mistake, people died. In fact, people died even if you did your job well, as mass carnage is merely a presumed byproduct of any military aggression. And make no mistake, any armed offense is aimed at asserting power and control over others. It’s the old, “You will obey my will… or you will die!” routine.

But no one really cared about all of this. You see, the matrix asserts various “patriotic” buzz-moxies, like “defending our country”, “preserving freedom and democracy”, and “liberty and justice for all”, which are merely cathetic motivations held by those who enjoy the comforts of lies, and who have never looked down the barrel of a gun (one way or the other). So there were few people who saw it like I did. Instead, my coworkers spent most of their time drinking coffee and boasting about their children’s career accomplishments, or the vacation cottage in which they planned to retire after they had put in their 20. This insular corruption went straight up to the top brass, and even they felt helpless to change it. So I knew there was nothing I could do to change this place for the better.

After enduring this working culture for only a few months’ time, I had an existential crisis. I couldn’t focus. My mind kept wandering away to thoughts like…

“Is this really what I want to do with my life? Stuck in this carpeted cage as a genteel wage slave… Fabricating weapons of warfare… Supporting engagement campaigns that I really don’t agree with? Always waiting for the news of another kill?

And these people! Do I really want to spend the next 20-40 years commingling with these people? I could foresee that I would become just like them after 20 years. Do I want to be like them? A gubmint wanka?

I took this job because I wanted to do something great for my country, but actually, there’s no honor there, nothing to be proud of… It’s not the 007 secret agent James Bond assignment that I had imagined…”

govt employees after shutdown

My conscience wouldn’t let me sleep at night, so I resigned. Many of my coworkers feigned tears of despondency over the news, but their micro-expressions [YouTube tutorial] told me they were glad to see me go.

After that, I spent a couple years in an urban wilderness, wondering, “where is my life going?” But then, on a whim, I decided to get out of billville and start seeing the world.

I never regretted it. I’ve traveled around Asia since then, learned a little Kung Fu, met some terrific people (and women too). I found much greener pastures. Best of all, I got out from under the Feminista Thumbrella™ of the Globalist sociopathology.

In conclusion, if you’re in a place where you never feel confident about your work, or get a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction, you know you’ll never reach your potential, and maybe this post has been shouting at you, then it’s time for you to make your move.

A leader – be one, or choose one!

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Time Frames for various forms of sexual bonding and maturation

A timeline for sexual bonding and sexual maturation.

Readership: +18

Most people want to have sex, or more sex, but in their zeal (or frustration), they seldom recognize how their sexual experiences (or lack thereof) change the constitution of their personality. This post is intended to provide a brief summary of how the sexual experience typically affects individuals and relationships.

For younger people who have no experience, this should give you an idea of how fragile our sexual nature is, and how quickly certain things can progress.

For men who are settling into a new relationship with a woman, the following bulletin should give you a better idea of how experienced she is.

  1. Instant (upon awareness) – Visual attraction, vibes, tingles, chemistry.
  2. A few seconds, up to a few hours – A decision is made whether to pursue a sexual relationship or not. Non-deliberative (feral, instinctive) decisions are made sooner.
  3. A few seconds, up to 1 minute – Penetration, loss of virginity/purity.
  4. 5-10 minutes of sexual intercourse (or orgasm) – Sanctification/defilement/alpha enwidowment. A deep sexual bonding forms.
  5. 2-3 months of regular banging – The dopamine/endorphine/oxytocin “high” associated with “falling in love” begins to abate.
  6. 8 months to one year – The initial feelings of love and attraction subside.
  7. 1-2 years of regular sexual intercourse (certain individuals may be shorter or longer) – Sexual maturity, familiarity with the processes leading to sex, and the sexual interaction develop. Individuals are learning to trust one’s body and control one’s sexual desire (sexual confidence). The development of trust in one’s sexual nature allows responsibility and personal agency to fully take root. Younger women are especially vulnerable to sexual exploitation before this phase. This is also when individuals “bloom”, and become sexually attractive to the opposite sex.
  8. 2-5 years – Head Trust develops with the attrition of Heart Trust. Cognitive knowledge of the sex act, and related activities, leads to sexual saturation. Individuals learn to objectify sex and sexy people. Feelings of predictability, annoyance, or even annui, commonly set in here. Most affairs and divorces happen in this stage. Women who have significantly negative experiences may grow to despise men and male desire during this phase. If not, they learn to be content with themselves and the man they have chosen.
  9. 5-10 years – Deeper personal understanding, friendship and affection gradually grows, producing more contentment and satisfaction in the relationship. For poorly adjusted individuals who may choose to stay in an unhappy union, sexual deployment and displacement may dominate their lives.

Males and females both experience similar time frames of bonding, but the emotional experience is usually more intense for the female.

From this itinerary, it can be seen that sexual bonding happens quickly, but usually sublimates and fades within a year. Since it is rather difficult to establish a monogamous, LTR, a deliberate effort and planning is required to form a stable long term union, such as marriage.

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On the discernment and wisdom of true morality

Morality is always subject to the faithful discernment of context, and altruism can become a Pharisaical objective.

Readership: All

Modern confusion about morality

The concern for morality is the cognitive mind’s natural response to the problem of sin and evil.

Throne and Altar: Moderns starting to realize how inhumanly difficult their morality is (December 17, 2018)

“Modern morality is often thought of as a deliverance from the harshness of past moral codes.  But that’s only because we don’t take it seriously.  If we do, then it is absolutely inhuman in its demands, a spirit-crushing, insatiable monstrosity, whether modern morals are taken in their Kantian-personalist or, especially, in their utilitarian form.  Can you imagine being required to maximize the total happiness of mankind, never treat anyone as a mere means, or value everyone on Earth’s happiness equally with your own every moment of every day?  Every human good would be strangled, and no one could ever be happy again.  One begins to appreciate that the legalism and casuistry of pre-modern morality functioned not to burden mankind but to deliver us from the hell of unbounded altruism.

This has not gone unnoticed by the moderns.  See this review of Susan Wolf’s “Moral saints”, namely an argument against trying to become one.  Wolf appeals to all the “non-moral” goods that can only be preserved if we limit our commitment to modern morality.  Interestingly, the reviewer, Daniel Callcut, points out that one way to escape from the dilemma would be to return to pre-modern virtue ethics, in which an altruism restricted to neighbors is held in balance with other goods as parts of a comprehensive good life, and he notes that Wolf rejects this option.  Wolf is left to construct a solution which limits universalist altruism while granting it the monopoly on morality it has had in modern thought.  She must claim that we should be somewhat altruistic but that we should not aspire to “moral sainthood”, i.e. allow the admitted demands of morality to entirely structure our lives and crowd out other goods.  Indeed, I agree that one should not allow utilitarian ethics to ruin one’s life, but I see no way to coherently assert this while admitting utilitarian ethics.  One is applying to a “should” which is more authoritative than the “should” of morality, but such a thing cannot exist.  The ruling “should” is one’s true morality, and it’s better to make it explicit.”

Bonald has made some excellent points here.  But there remains a more fundamental error of omission concerning any argument about the practice of morality, and it is that the philosophical transformation to generalized postulates leaves out any in situ sources of information that might be obtained through the discernment of the context.

Discernment is the operative word here. Without discernment, one is unable to respond to a circumstance in an appropriate and purposefully effective way.

  • Discernment is the soul’s radar of good and evil – a hedge of safety in dangerous circumstances.
  • Discernment is what delivers morality from becoming a hell of unbounded altruism.
  • Discernment is what liberates the soul’s experience from the spirit crushing monstrosity of canonical law, AKA moral legalism.

To give the reader a taste of what it feels like to experience spiritual discernment, watch this classic scene from The Lord of the Rings, in which the hobbit, Frodo Baggins (feat. Elijah Wood), discerns the approaching presence of the evil Black Rider.

In case you missed it, the moment of Frodo’s discernment occurs at the 2:00 mark. Note that discernment is experienced as a perceived distortion of time and space, and this perception kicks in just moments before the Black Rider becomes optically visible.

It should be duly noted here that without discernment, it would have been impossible for Frodo to know whether to bid a good day to the passing equestrian dressed in the coolest goth cosplay, or to warn his friends to run for their lives.

Without discernment, one is relegated to be either a foolish laughingstock of a believer, or else, condemned to a mediocre existence of fellowship among the wicked. At worst, capture, destruction, defeat, and extermination are palpable.

Discernment is the foundation of true morality

“But solid food is for the mature—for those whose senses have been trained to distinguish between good and evil.” ~ Hebrews 5:14 (HCSV)

The New Covenant of faith in Christ transforms the very nature of the Old Mosaic Law Covenant, in that the 10 Commandments and other such “requirements” under the Law are no longer seen as checkpoints that necessitate one’s intentional volition to agree and conform, which can never be done by an act of the will alone. Instead, the Law is regarded as a promise from God that we will naturally live in harmony with God, not only lawfully, but also joyfully.

Hence, the new Morality in Christ requires the faithful exercise of discernment, and not in how well one can conform to the rules.

Mentioning the rule of law, English-speaking culture, which poses a sense of morality on an itinerant conformance to the legality of a thing, is especially susceptible towards seeking to attain righteousness through the law. This cultural weakness is becoming more obvious as western laws inch closer towards condoning what God’s laws forbid.

The appropriateness of the moral decision lies in the detection of either spiritual confederacy or enmity, and the assertion of the most effective course of action, AKA wisdom.

In other words, developing and exercising discernment is the quality that makes one a moral agent. It is not any particular system of philosophical beliefs, or one’s conformance to a set of rules concerning social interaction behavior.

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How can a man develop his sense of discernment?

Discernment can only be gained through a fear of God and a continual awareness of one’s human nature.

Discernment is a quality that is only possessed by those who have been made righteous in Christ.

Maintaining a posture of humility is also a necessary ingredient for discernment. You must be mindful of your vulnerabilities, weaknesses, and needs.

For some odd reason related to human frailty, beauty can enhance one’s sense of discernment.

If you’re feeling a pang of panic, and asking yourself why you don’t have a sense of discernment, all is not yet lost. Those who lack discernment can pray, and ask God to increase their wisdom. If God grants you wisdom, your sense of discernment must necessarily increase, because wisdom is strongly dependent on spiritual discernment.

“If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.” ~ James 1:5 (KJV)

upbraid: to forcefully or angrily tell someone they should not have done a particular thing and criticize them for having done it.

But why doesn’t James 1:5 urge us to pray for discernment first, before asking for wisdom? This is apparently a crucial missing link in modern western theology. Personally, I believe the “fear of the Lord” is related to discernment. (I suspect that something may have gotten lost in the translation.)

“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,
And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.” ~ Proverbs 9:10 (NKJV)

Connecting this concept to “upbraid” in James 1:5, why might a person think God would chastise him for having discernment, which seems to be what James is addressing.

I have one guess about the answer. Personally speaking, whenever my discernment is enhanced, the temptation I experience grows more intense. This happens because an increase in my discernment amplifies my awareness of those moments and circumstances when I could “get away with it”.

Discernment also indicates to me which women are “willing and eager”. It’s like I suddenly notice a longing hollowness in the eyes of certain women whose hearts are held captive by my aura. They gaze on me with an edgy breathiness, and this is accompanied by a certain urgent tenderness in the touch of their hand. I digress…

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Ahem… yes, discernment causes the level of temptation that I face on a daily basis to skyrocket.

Back to the question. Should I be upbraided for becoming any more aware of the fact that certain situations can be misappropriated for selfish purposes, or for being aware of when certain women want to bed me? No, that is merely temptation. Upbraiding is only required at the point when I abandon wisdom to pursue my sinful passions.

During my younger years, I had the notion that when my discernment/temptation intensified, then I was moving away from God, mainly because my senses and visceral experiences became prescient in my conscious awareness. During graduate school, I discovered that I was wrong in assuming that the temptation associated with discernment was synonymous with backsliding, and that the opposite was closer to the truth. I was actually moving closer to God, but the consciousness of my own sinful desires, and the fear of being tempted past my threshold, not to mention the dullness of discernment that resulted from actually succumbing to various temptation, all remained as a wall that kept me from accepting this truth, and advancing farther down this path of holiness.

It seems like frustration just can’t be avoided in this life. The lost are frustrated because they lack the ability to obtain their selfish desires. Those who are in the process of regeneration are frustrated by the volatile infidelities of their own sinful nature.

The benefits of developing discernment

Having a sense of discernment is a mark of righteousness. Indeed, discernment is one of the fruits of the Spirit within Orthodox and Catholic catechism. Those who have it, possess it in varying degrees, in various areas. Those who have an extremely exceptional sense of discernment in a particular longitudinal area are often considered to be virtuosos, or even Prophets within that particular discipline.

  • When discernment is present, wisdom and authenticity can develop, which allow the true expression of morality.
  • Having a healthy ego is associated with positive morality, and this is contingent on, and supported by discernment. If a man has very poor discernment, or a weak ego, it causes other people to be generally unaccepting of him.
  • As a man’s discernment grows, he becomes more in touch with his emotions, like anger, fear, sadness, etc. Awareness of his emotions can help him know himself better, what he truly wants, what he likes and dislikes.
  • The information gained through discernment improves awareness which can help a man navigate through any particular social context with greater authenticity and finesse.
  • A better sense of discernment helps one to be better able to empathize with the emotions of others, and interact with people in a more efficacious manner.
  • The process of vetting a friend, girlfriend, wife, or business associate goes a lot smoother and easier.

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What causes a lack of discernment?

A lack of discernment is a real killer, not only of one’s spiritual life, but also of the social, and sexual. It detracts from feelings of empathy and bonding. It prevents one from knowing important information about others, which leads to miscalculations and poor decisions, and therefore prevents one from extolling in situ wisdom. In short, it erodes the very foundations of Frame with caustic venom.

The following things may hinder the development of discernment, or can dull any discernment already achieved.

  • In general, acts of spiritual disobedience, especially sexual sins, will kill one’s sense of discernment just like idolatry kills the imagination.
  • Extended, intense frustration, including a preoccupation of wrestling against one’s desires, i.e. sexual urges.
  • False generational guilt leading to unmerited self-condemnation.
  • An inordinate temptation.
  • Various fears, such as a fear of social scrutiny or rejection for expressing one’s self in an authentic way (lacking confidence); fear of gaining specific forms of knowledge from discernment, especially knowledge that exacerbates a fear of danger, temptation, sin, or requires extra efforts in taking responsibility for a difficult situation; fear of making a bad decision, or of using one’s personal charisma (power) for wrong purposes.
  • Having a healthy discernment is strongly dependent on having a healthy ego. If the ego is prideful, warped or poorly developed, then discernment will lack prescience.
  • Having an avoidant attachment style can undermine one’s posture of humility, which is necessary for building discernment. The emotional independence associated with this style can significantly change the subjective context in which discernment might be experienced and utilized. Namely, it reduces one’s ability to empathize with other people’s moods in the present moment. (This may appear to others as selfishness.)
  • Asperger’s, or other similar learning disorders, can severely hamper theory of mind and the development of discernment.
  • I don’t have any evidence for this claim, but I suppose that people with clinical personality disorders would be excluded from developing discernment.

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A dull shave gets tossed

Gillette is choosing suicide by a thousand cuts.

Readership: Regular Readers

I want to thank Gillette for their recent commercial, a showcase of their misandrist Feminist propaganda. Grateful really, because it is now all that much clearer for regular citizens to identify Gillette as a Globalist racketeering corporation to be avoided, just in case any decent person had missed that.

Gillette is owned by Proctor and Gamble, and has many subsidiaries, including Braun and Oral B. So it might be difficult to avoid every single product from P&G, but cutting down consumption would be in order.

But for sure, don’t ever send your resume there, unless you’re an upper level manager who plans to reorganize the structure. It’s time for America to realize that an employee of a company does the bidding of his overseers, for better, or for worse. So choose your employer wisely, and know your life purpose before accepting any job offer.

As Spawny’s pointed out in Collective Guilt (January 16, 2019), the chief complaint of the me-too movement primarily concerns the abuse of power. Granted, the abuse of power is a legitimate complaint at its core, but as several Androspherians have examined in the past, the actual power play is not what the mass media leads one to imagine. Men, and masculinity in general, have been lambasted and rejected as “toxic”. As a result, men now have a minimum token power in Western society. Most men are lost and living without purpose. As such, the me-too complaint has been sorely abused by disappointed social climbers who tried to sleep their way to the top, and has been hijacked by the feminist propaganda machine to push their globalist agenda of destroying Western Society. Remember Kavanaugh… That is the true abuse of power here.

In addition to the purported power play between the sexes which has been instigated by the powers-that-be, there is a grander power play based on the demographic profiling.

A minority group needs to achieve an 8-10% critical mass before they begin to influence the larger culture. Blacks and Hispanics have already surpassed the 10% threshold, and have left their mark on American culture. For the most part, American’s appreciate their contributions to the Arts, especially blacks in the music industry. However, the QTBGL community, at around 4.5% (2018 estimate from Gallup), has not yet reached the critical mass necessary to affect American society. However, their purposes have been pressed fast forward by controlled media and education, which makes it appear that they have gained a dominant place in society. But the last time I checked, American culture is still predominantly white, straight, and nominally Christian (~65%), and as long as this continues, we’re not going to see a major power shift without a fight.

Feminism, on the other hand, has stolen a much larger slice of the pie. According to a survey from YouGov: Compared to 2016, more women now say that they’re feminists, but they’re still outnumbered (August 9, 2018), the number of people who identify as feminist is slowly rising to lie between 38-46%, but the number of people who strongly oppose feminism has quickly grown to similar numbers. Across the pond, Britons are more empathetic towards feministic ideals (at 61-72%), but fearfully shy away from the label (7%).

The social engineering minions at Jillette must have come to the conclusion that now is a crucial time to press for a final victory over public opinion, by using propaganda in an attempt to convince the majority that the values of a minority are a plurality. But the deluded trendsetters at Gillette failed to consider the de facto cultural anthropology… and the moral fortitude of their opposition.

“Toxic masculinity” is a bluff that is now being called. American society is fed up with the propaganda, and the kickback is culminating. There’s a limit to how much BS that people can swallow with a grain of salt. Gillette just passed that limit, and it’s triggered a gag reflex.

An off topic, but interesting trivia: Decades ago, many razor blades were made of a platinum (Pt) chrome steel alloy. In those days, platinum was a junk metal, because there was no demand for it. But since then, platinum found many applications in various industries (especially the automotive catalytic converter, which was/is required by law), and the price of platinum has skyrocketed, even surpassing the price of gold, and has since been removed from the metallurgical composition of razors.

So if you ever find some old safety razors (or catalytic converters) lying around, you might want to hang on to them. They may have a $uffi¢ient platinum content to make their re¢y¢ling worthwhile.

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I was first alerted to the Gillette commercial hysteria from Patriactionary’s post: If they hate men, why are they selling to them? (January 14, 2019). I immediately recognized this as being worth an analysis, but by the time I’ve gotten around to write about it, there has already been an amazing backlash from the Androsphere, as well as from society at large. The number of online articles about Gillette’s commercial is approaching landslide proportions!

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How to play off the “I’m a lesbian” line

A commentary on The Other McCain’s article about dealing with pseudo-lesbians in Day Game.

Readership: Single, self-aware men

Single guys looking to develop their Frame need to check out this article from The Other McCain: Lesbian Is a Synonym for ‘No’ (Or: Guys, Please Leave @LayneMorgan Alone) (January 13, 2019).

McCain highlights a Twitter feed story about a guy approaching a girl wearing pajamas and Birkenstocks at CVS. She gets the creebies and rebuts with the line, “I’m a lesbian”. McCain goes into a classic Manospherian styled monologue about all the ins and outs of the interaction (or the reasons for the lack thereof), which is quite insightful.

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Later in his post, he cited the value of having a sense of humor and a Sigma Frame as vital equipment necessary to roll with the Feminine punches of life. Of note, McCain writes that CVS boy’s biggest mistake is that…

“He never once made a joke.

Mister Idiot’s failure to display any sense of humor during their exchange is what makes me think this guy might be somewhere on the autism spectrum, because one of the basic traits of autism is a lack of self-awareness, and any emotionally intelligent guy would have acknowledged the absurdity of his situation. I mean, a guy works up the courage to try the cold pickup and his random target turns out to be a lesbian? What a perfect opportunity to employ self-deprecating humor!

Guys, pay attention: Learn to laugh at the tragic aspect of your plight.

Why? Because chicks dig it, that’s why. Every decent, intelligent and rational woman understands how tough it is for the average guy to muster the courage to make a move, knowing full well he’s going to strike out 99% of the time, because the average guy is merely average, and women are not attracted to average guys. Mister Idiot — the guy who made his move on Layne Morgan — must not be particularly attractive, or otherwise he wouldn’t be hitting on strangers at CVS, right?”

Right! So if you don’t rely heavily on humor in Day Game, you’re asking for a SMV demotion, in terms of confidence.

I’ve read dozens of articles about running Day Game on Return of Kings and other Manosphere sites, and the importance of humor is excessively understated, if not neglected altogether. Humor taking the form of confident, ZFG self-deprecation is especially powerful in getting chicks to laugh and open up.

But the point of developing and using humor is not to entertain others, or make people laugh, although that is certainly one benefit. No, it’s about enjoying yourself, taking things as they come, and displaying a positive attitude when the world is trying to kick you down.

Whenever the proverbial sh!t hits the fan, you have a choice.

  1. You can lament your loss while feeling sad and sorry.
  2. You can take it with a grain of salt, laugh it off, and make up your mind to do better.

The second choice will build character, and provide an indomitable Frame.

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Now, if it were me trying to pick her up, and she tried to play me off by saying she was a lesbian, I would have responded in mock seriousness,

“No kidding! I used to be a lesbian too, before I went trans! Now, I have a LOT more women available to me… <pause and insert sleazy smile and a wave of the hand> …and only the bad ones KNOW <flash of the eyes>, if you KNOW what I mean…”

Note: This approach adopts Agree and Amplify, along with mirroring techniques, which build rapport.

Her response to such a statement would be very telling.

  1. If she were a real lesbian, she would either become very intrigued or very suspicious, and probably ask me to tell her more of “my story”. Then I would have a really good time making up some crazy anecdotes, and it’s hard to tell where that would lead to. If she was buying my story, then at some point, I might ask her if she cared to “go to the next level”, and try on a “woman” who has a “transplanted tool that can please”.
  2. If she were only using the lesbian line as a pseudo-polite, but firm, “no”, then she would be shocked sh!tless, visibly mortified, and run away. She would be much less likely to use the “Sorry, I’m a lesbian…” line again in the future.
  3. If she were sufficiently self-aware, and actually recognized that I was contriving a huge practical joke, this would show her that I’m a fun-loving guy, and disarm her defenses. She would walk away thinking I was the coolest guy on the planet (or the most twisted perv, which is still good). There’s a chance that she might even get the mini-tingles from this, and then talk to me a little longer. There’s a long shot she might even give me her number or see me again. (The guy suggested “having a beer”, but that seems out of place in this context.)
  4. Even if she only slapped my face, and labeled me with derogatory insult, I would still have the laugh of the century, and a good story to repeat for a decade.

Any way it plays out, I’ve called her out, asserted my Frame, and made a memorable impression on the girl.

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Concerning the longitudinal strategy of the interaction, McCain writes,

“One of the keys to success, playing from a Sigma Frame perspective, is to think in terms of the process of elimination. There are 3.5 billion women on this planet, and all you have to do is find one. By trial and error, you can learn to distinguish between the few who might possibly say “yes” and the vast majority who are a definite “no.” Once you accept the implications of the One-in-Seven Rule and recognize that you aren’t part of the lucky 15% who can win no matter how they play the game, you’ll increase your likelihood of winning simply because you understand how much the odds are stacked against you. And it’s important for young men to recognize this reality at a young age, or otherwise they might become the kind of loser who’s 25 years old with no girlfriend, and no idea of how to get one other than approaching strangers at the CVS.”

McCain is exactly right. The first key to success is knowing who you are, what your deal-breaker requirements are, and where you stand in the hierarchy. The second step is in finding a woman who matches your personality and your requirements. As long as a young man continues to chase after an ideal (woman in this case), and fails to consider his identity and purpose, he’s setting himself up for a bitter failure.

Get your own life together first, and once you’ve made some progress on that, certain women (not all) will notice and start being attracted to you. Make your selection from this pool of women, and be careful to choose one that shows genuine respect towards you. Don’t be fooled by fake respect, which she might only show if she wants to play you off as a Beta chump, to exchange ego fluffing attention (which is equivalent to the Friend Zone), or transactionally extract resources from you.

Some sure signs of true relationship potential are as follows.

  • She either chokes up or mindlessly rambles on whenever she’s talking to you.
  • Her eyes light up, and her jaw drops open whenever you give her individual attention.
  • She’s excessively animated and expressive, she fidgets and can’t sit still.
  • She can’t take her eyes off of you.
  • She smiles, and/or touches her face and/or hair whenever she’s talking to you.
  • She laughs at everything you say.
  • She returns your calls and texts immediately.

A young man would be wise to show special consideration to those women who display these behaviors, even if they happen to be women who don’t give him an instant hard on. Best of all, it will be easy to make her laugh. Use these opportunities to hone your skills and build your confidence.

Don’t go after women whom you are attracted to, but who are NOT attracted to you. At best, that’s a recipe for rejection and failure, and at worst, you’re facing a risk of a harassment charge.

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The Tone Police – to protect and serve the rabble

A vituperating description of how churches converge, and an explanation of Pastor Wilson’s middle-of-the-road-stance.

Readership: Christians

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The Dalrock Route

Of prime interest over the holidays, in an answer to a letter from Keith, Pastor Douglas Wilson finally defined what he means by “the Dalrock Route”. (Scroll waaay down this page, or just search for “Dalrock”.) To quote Wilson,

“Keith, from what I have seen, I would describe the Dalrock route as over-realized patriarchy. This is not the same thing as extreme patriarchy (the toxic kind), and it is not the same thing as my own version of (amazingly balanced) patriarchy. I speak as a man, as Paul might say, and that’s the problem, as RHE [sic] might say. Over-realized patriarchy has a tendency to assume that the complementarians who gave away the store (and I agree with Dalrock that many of them did give away the store), did so on purpose. In other words, what they tend to describe as conspiracy, I would describe as a mix of conspiracy from some and confused foolishness from others. This also has had an impact on how Dalrock has interacted with some of my stuff, looping me as one of the conspirators to feminize everything. Since I know that he is persistent in reading me incorrectly, eventually I quit reading him.”

I informed Dalrock in a note, and he’s yet to give a response to Wilson’s description of him.

Gunner Q offered his take on Doug Wilson Multi-Cucks (December 22, 2018).

Wilson – a typical, Churchian pastor

From his anecdotal Civil War story, it is clear that Wilson is trying to maintain his balance on the fence between various intradenominational factions in order to passively retain an image of innocence and impartiality. Pastors are like politicians – they have to be smooth and “proper” at all times, just to prevent the proverbial ship from rocking.

An unfortunate consequence is that Pastors will rarely tell anyone the raw, ugly truth, even if it will help them, even in private counseling! In my opinion, this is the greatest shortcoming of the profession.

Wilson’s best defense is claiming that his first and foremost priority is the unity and continuity of the entire congregation. But he lacks wisdom and humility in claiming that his version of “Patriarchy” is the best. An anonymous long time reader left a fair assessment of Wilson.

“[Wilson’s attitude is like,] “If you aren’t acting like me you are Doing It All Wrong”. In the 8 or more years I’ve participated in the Androsphere, I’ve seen that plenty of times, often from some aging Boomer who married in his 20’s and has zero clue what men under 40 have to deal with. They know everything except when they don’t.

Anonymous Age 60-something at the late Spearhead commented that when he ran groups for divorced men back in the 1980’s it was a regular event, some new man would join and immediately inform him “This is all wrong, listen…” and would suggest something that had already been tried and found to not work.

Careful reading of the article [like the one] above by Wilson reveals zero Bible quotes, zero actual concrete criticisms of the “this will not work” variety. It appears to be more about tone. Dalrock and the rest of us might as well have been caught wearing white shoes after Labor Day, or a straw hat before Easter, or failing to open a door quickly enough for a delicate flower of womanhood along the lines of Andrea Dworkin. Social faux pas’, poor tone, but no actual, actionable, critique.

In the comments, a couple of persons who have done drive-by-run-away trolling here showed up (Katecho is a prime example.) with more of the same attempts at tone-policing. So once again, it’s not about something concrete such as Proverbs 14:1 or Ephesians 5:22 or 1 Peter 3 or even Proverbs 21:19, it’s about “tone”. The “tone” of this site and the commenters here just aren’t up to snuff, humph, harumph, HARUMPH! Plus, we made one of The Ladies sufficiently unhappy that she developed the vapors!”

Like Wilson, most pastors see their main role, not as a defender of the Kingdom, but as being the Tone Police – to protect and serve the rabble.

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How the church converges their doctrinal stance along the heretical viewpoints of the world

Over the last decade, we’ve been seeing an acceleration of headlines like the following, which are slowly spelling out the disintegration and/or convergence of the Church.

It is easy to put our finger on pastors, but the problem is bigger than merely spineless leadership. All of society is drifting towards the abyss, and most church goers are getting swept away with the current.

In my experience, the majority of people who are regular church goers are very odd people. The Bible does describe Christians as being a peculiar people in 1st Peter 2:9 (KJV), and being peculiar ascribes them dignity as being a member of the Body of Christ. But most churchians are not peculiar, they are just too odd to fit into society.

And they’re not even Christians!

A bold claim you say? I’ve heard at least two pastors tell me in confidence that only 5% (from one pastor) or 15% (according to the other) of their congregation “have Jesus on the throne of their life”, meaning that they are truly seeking after God.

The rest of the people, comprising an average of 90% of the congregation, might have a plethora of reasons why they go to church, including comfort, routine, pity, handouts, ego stroking, virtue posturing, vainglorious posing, and social acceptance. But whatever those reasons are, they are NOT earnestly looking for God. They do NOT want the gospel. They do NOT want to have their minds transformed. They do NOT want their lives to be drastically rearranged for the glory of Christ.

No, they are merely looking for a solution to the soul warping dilemmas created by their sin, so that they can go on to the next step of getting what they want out of life. But they will NOT address the real cause of their frustrations as being sin. They are NOT looking to repent from their problematic mindset. The idea of finding a whole new life in Christ is little more than an inspiring platitude.

Given the fact that these people are the oddball outcasts of society, suffice it to say that most of them are “problem people” who come to church looking for the condolences and assurances offered by the sympathetic, kind-hearted church people. The church is the only place where they can be “accepted”. So the average church becomes, what my old college roommate used to call, “a $h!t magnet”. Pardon the language, but you get the idea.

Out of thousands of followers, Jesus only chose 12 men to be his disciples. They were deplorables by the world’s standards, but Christ saw potential in their humble sincerity.

Does the modern Church select members according to their authenticity? No, they will accept anyone who breezes through the foyer. Some churches present some hoops to jump through, but not the kind that would analyze the state of one’s connection to the Holy Spirit. Consequently, the true Kingdom seekers get lost in the crowd, and many of these Christians go looking elsewhere for fellowship. As a result, attrition sets in to many churches.

It’s waaay too easy to be a churchian. I’ve said this before: To become a popular member of any protestant church, all a person needs to do is show up every time the church doors open, and talk the churchian language using religious jargon. Anymore, the churchian language is not far removed from the mainstream narratives offered by the Left. So it’s really not hard for any average person to integrate.

Furthermore, those members who act as the gatekeepers of the church are not necessarily those of outstanding faith and service, as it should be, but instead are those with dominant, charismatic personalities.

As a result, the social atmosphere of a converged church represents a microcosm of bizarre, hidden values which are a composite of all those held by members of the congregation. On the surface, it might appear that these values are aligned with scripture. But in practice, this may be far from the case.

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Enter the Pastor, Stage Left

Now that I’ve offered a provocatively revealing snapshot of a typical protestant church, it’s a little easier to consider the pastor’s place in this mess.

A scripturally hard core pastor would very clearly wield the divisive sword of the Word contained in the scriptures, and in doing so, most of the riff raff would be “offended” and stop coming to church.

But most pastors are unwilling to do this for a variety of reasons. Instead, they choose to allow their church to converge with the un-Christian majority of attendees – the oddballs of society who show up at the door – and in doing so, become less of a Christ centered Church.

What about that slim minority of the faithful? Those 5 to 15% who come to church looking for a place to worship, instruction from the Bible, spiritual growth, and fellowship with other like-minded Christians. It’s hard for them to find these things, when 90% of the congregation only comes looking to strike a pose and stroke their ego’s.

Worse, Pastors seldom address the needs of these true Christians in the church because they are more concerned with the social management of the masses. Tending to the spiritual growth of individual members is far down their list of priorities. Some pastors even consider personal ministry to be a burden above and beyond the call of duty, which they will only undertake if and when it is absolutely necessary. Consequently, those genuine believers who are truly seeking to revitalize their lives are relegated to the back burner.

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Conclusions

Dalrock serves us well by picking out the big names, like Chandler and Wilson, to address doctrinal inconsistencies. But the real problem is that churches are like banana republics, in that they have the leaders they want and deserve. Those churches could, at any time, discharge one pastor and hire another of their choosing. So pastors are more likely to fit the mold proscribed by their congregation, than for their congregation to jump on board with a bold, new pastor’s ambitious plans for church growth.

Update: The resignation of Pastor Justin Hoke at Trinity Bible Presbyterian Church in California is a typical example of this dynamic. H/T Vox Day: The Call of the World (January 13, 2019).

This is why contemporary churchianity is a religious circus, complete with a freak show and live entertainment! And the grand majority of churches are not that different from churchville.

It’s no wonder young Millennials have all but abandoned church altogether.

It is well known that Churches, such as those in China right now, grow under persecution. This is partly because people who are not truly drawn by the Holy Spirit will not come to church because of the persecution they would receive. As a result, the riff raff chaff is blown away, and the church is no longer weighed down by the bulk fluff and posture posing of false Christians who infiltrate the church for self-centered reasons. Christ becomes the center of the action, while the importance of trust and fellowship is emphasized, thereby producing exponential growth.

Why should we wait until tribulation strikes, before we embrace real fellowship and growth by thinning out the rabble?

The head pastor at my church has dealt with this problem by having two services – one for the rabble, and one for the Church. The service for the former is open to the general public, and meets late in the morning. The sermons utilize well known popular and psychological concepts that can be understood by the Bible illiterate, to highlight the deeper questions surrounding various life conundrums. The purpose of these sermons is to uncover the listener’s need for God. Those people who can face their personal issues are urged to contact an elder for personal counseling. The one-on-one interaction with the elder through counseling is intended to foster the newcomers faith, and it also serves as a “membership filter”. Those who pass through the “filter”, are then invited to attend the other service which meets at a more discrete location early in the morning.

For the authentic Christian lay person, it’s not as difficult as you might imagine. Just open your mouth and speak God’s Truth, man!

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The Question Apology Game

This article reviews and discusses how males should be more proactive and inquisitive when dealing with females.

Targeted Readership: Hen-pecked (married) men

Gender Specific Propensity Towards Talking

There has been a lot of research and discussion on the question of which sex talks more. Back in the 1980’s an oft cited study showed that, on the average, men speak 7,000 words a day, while women speak 20,000. Since then, the debate on the subject has resurfaced, with liberal sources claiming that the earlier statistic was not well founded, and is therefore invalid.

Regardless of these studies, it seems intuitive knowledge that the natural default setting is for men to remain silent, while women talk incessantly. This goes back to the fundamental nature of the sexes. When women get into a bind, they impulsively call other women and ‘talk’, while men in a crisis tend to withdraw and contemplate. It is also easy to believe that women, who are more insecure, may use superfluous verbosity as a modicum to attract attention and affirmation.

In sum, women don’t need any instruction on how to talk, but only about how to talk properly. But boys and men need instruction and encouragement to speak out.

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The Question Apology Game

In one of my favorite posts from Roosh, Don’t Let A Girl Assert Frame Over You (January 29, 2018), he examines a particular power play within relationships. He describes the dynamic like this.

“Within every interaction is a frame where one person does the evaluating and judging while the other does the satisfying. The person with the higher value will naturally fall into a frame of evaluation while the person with the lower value will fall into a frame of trying to prove or appease.”

He rightfully labels this as asserting Frame, but to put a finer point on this particular tactic, and to avoid confusion, I will call it the Question Apology Game (QAG).

Definition: The QAG is the use of astute questioning which steers the direction of the conversation, and establishes a hierarchy in which one person assumes the role of a Dominant Supervisor (DS), and another person assumes the role of a Submissive Paeon (SP).

In the QAG, the DS calls out a particular aspect of the SP’s work, behavior, decision, performance, etc., and reviews the value of the SP’s contribution. It is assumed within the nature of the interaction that the SP must give an account of what he/she is doing, and why. Motives and priorities are called into question, and reviewed under heavy scrutiny.

Through calm inquisition, a man can fashion the topics and questions in such a way as to control the dynamics of his conversations with others. This can take several forms, depending on the context.

  • He can pose questions to divert the topic.
  • He can inquire about the nature of unwanted behaviors, and ask for an adjustment.
  • He can use questions to examine the value of her contributions, and ask for a realignment with their shared goals.
  • He can offer questions as a form of interactional bidding, and ask for improvements in the way she treats him.
  • He can use questions to place a speculum on her motives and character, thereby encouraging her to adopt an introspective stance and assume agency, rather than resorting to calumniation.

Doing the above will make the woman more self-conscious, and cause her to lose confidence. As a result, there is a power shift to the man. You can expect lots of resistance from her on this, but the benefits are astronomical.

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Notes on playing the Question Apology Game

Roosh’s article describes different contexts and aspects of the QAG, and the main points are summarized in the following bullets, with my comments after.

  • Many people are eager to prove themselves when asked a question, but in doing so they almost always accept the viewpoint of a SP answering to a DS.
  • Men should not give serious answers to women’s inquiries, and offer jokes instead.
  • When the man assumes the place of monitoring and critiquing the woman’s performance, this dynamic creates attraction, because it establishes the male as the dominant figure.
  • “Why…?” questions are asked by superiors. “How…?” questions are asked by subordinates seeking instruction.
  • Beware of people (i.e. women and co-workers) who ask small favors of you that escalate over time.

In doing so, they are attempting to inch their way closer to a position of dominance over you.

  • Apologies and excuses should be used sparingly by men, as they are only appropriate for one in the place of a subordinate.

There are moments when a man can use apologies and excuses to soften a hard hearted woman. Discernment and wisdom are necessary to know when this is the case.

A woman who apologizes easily and frequently can be surprisingly easy to get along with, and if you’re in tune with her, charmingly easy to love as well. Ladies should take note of this skill and use it. Men, you may like to suggest or point out to your girl that her apology will smooth out your disagreements in a jiffy. But if she is the proud, contentious type who intentionally seeks argumentation, it may not be wise to clue her in on this.

  • Justifying your actions will quickly cause you to lose Frame, and put you in the place of the subordinate. Of note, Alphas do not justify their actions.
  • If a man lets a woman attain a position of dominance over him, she will slowly drain his power, and either use him for attention, or to establish firm control over his behavior.

In sum, he yields himself to do her bidding, which is an inversion of the God ordained hierarchy.

  • Men who are frequently hen-pecked by their wives fail to utilize the QAG to their advantage.

After several years of marriage, harried husbands become emotionally fatigued to the point where they allow their volitional will to become exhausted, such that they regularly succumb to the Dominatrix Conversation from their wives.

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Don’t be like this guy. Put the focus back on her, by asking her some difficult questions!

Playing the Question Apology Game can enhance relationship contentment

In an earlier post, I studied the preferred conflict structure leading to marital satisfaction, in which the man is the person who brings up an issue and asks for a change, and the woman is required to respond somehow. Famed marriage researcher, John Gottman, proved that the vast majority of marriages are happier when the husband has the habit of initiating conflict, while the wife plays the role of the harmonizing respondent.

I tested this dynamic within the setting of my own marriage, and I had spectacular results which I covered in the post, Disciplined, Submissive, Happy Wives (February 15, 2018).

To correlate Roosh’s claims against Gottman’s work, we must presume that the dominant person is the initiator of conflict, and the submissive person is the respondent. Indeed, they are nearly identical roles, and this comparison gives us a bigger picture of the structure.

In this view, the QAG dovetails perfectly within this conflict structure, as it offers a reliable vehicle for a husband to assume a dominant role. Thus, if the man does the majority of the questioning and scrutinizing, a more positive and enjoyable relationship can be expected from both partners, over time.

Conclusions

Women find it easy to express their preferences and concerns, but men need to take a bit more effort to make their views and opinions more frequently known.

Getting hands-on instruction from other men who are more adept in managing women can speed up the learning curve.

A man can employ the Question Apology Game as a tool to help him maintain Frame, and achieve his proper role as a Dominant Supervisor, rather than a Submissive Paeon.

Using the Question Apology Game on an ongoing basis can shift the power structure of an interaction, as well as the conflict structure, to enable the man’s authority, leading to a more satisfying relationship for both the male and female.

Driving probing questions will make the woman more self-conscious, and cause her to lose confidence. You can expect a fight, but the benefits to your self-esteem and marriage are well worth the trouble.

Women will object to male dominance all the way, but once they get used to it, they feel quite fulfilled, even if they will never swallow their pride enough to admit their contentedness with the arrangement.

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2018 Sigma Frame Performance Report

Σ Frame’s second annual traffic performance report.

Readership: All

Overview

I started blogging on March 7, 2008, using Blogger as my blog platform. On September 27, 2017, I transferred the best of my blog writings from Blogger to WordPress, and continued from there. It was a good choice. I received more views on WordPress in the first two months, than I had on Blogger in the previous 8 years.

Goals and Purposes

My goals and purposes in blogging are summed up in my About page. I value easily readable, and high content quality posts that stand the test of time – writings that would be of value to readers even decades from now.

Methods

During the early part of 2018, I approached blogging by reading a few posts and internet articles every day, and if I found something of interest, I saved the link with a brief description in a word file. Over time, I would see themes emerging, and then I selected the related sources and used them to form the backbone of a new piece of writing.

Later in 2018, I changed jobs and opened up a small business. After that, my mindset changed, and I started interacting more with other bloggers to come up with topics for my posts.

Themes

As you may have noticed, I seldom write about cutting edge topics in news or society, and I only cover politics or history occasionally. Instead, I focus more on deeper issues, and the cognition and processing of such issues, hence, the word ‘Frame’, in the blog’s title. These issues include some of the following.

  • Applications of faith and evangelistic outreach.
  • Archetypes and Typology.
  • Biblical exegesis, eisegesis and hermeneutics.
  • How to interpret facts in order to arrive at a more logical and truthful conclusion.
  • How to understand and build effective processes of interaction with others.
  • Renewing the spirit and improving the experience of life.
  • Strategies for building and implementing Frame.
  • Testimonies and other true stories.

Projects

I studied two major projects in 2018:

  1. Discipline in Marriage
  2. Courtship Models

Noteworthy Posts

In the post, Buckle Down for the Ride of the Centuries (August 9, 2018), I predicted an economic crash later in the year. Two months later, on October 10, we saw the first sign of a bear market.

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Statistics

Here are the 2018 stats for Σ Frame.

Traffic

Number of followers joining in 2018: 82
Total number of followers (on WordPress): 94

Number of views in 2018: 42,186 views
Total number of views (on WordPress): 46,632 views

Number of visitors in 2018: 15,073
Total number of visitors (on WordPress): 16,162

Average views per visitor: 2.8
Average views per day: 116

Most popular day and hour: Monday, 8:00 pm

The best day for views ever: 491 views on November 21, 2018, as a result of fellow blogger Adam Piggott’s post: A follow up on the things we like in chicks. (November 20, 2018)

The top five countries with the most viewers:

  1. United States: 26,299
  2. Canada: 2,625
  3. Australia: 2,275
  4. United Kingdom: 2,202
  5. Germany: 785

Note: All of these countries are well developed, democratic, capitalistic societies that are being smothered by post-modern, feministic social ideologies.

Total number of viewing countries: 148

The top five search engine terms leading people to Σ Frame:

  1. “sigma frame blog”
  2. “slut tells”
  3. “irresistible feminine quality”
  4. “sigma frame”
  5. “irresistible woman traits”

Note: It appears as though I’m known for knowing women.

Odd search terms which have led people to Σ Frame:

  1. asassin’s creed odyssey
  2. dogs that don’t shed
  3. hyperpigmentation
  4. literotoca
  5. normal dd

The top five incoming referrers (other than search engines and readers):

  1. Boxer: 461 (from v5k2c2.com); 134 (from Gravatar)
  2. Gunner Q: 468
  3. Adam Piggott: 444
  4. Spawny’s Space: 354
  5. Russian Faith: 354

The top five blogs receiving the most traffic from Σ Frame:

  1. Boxer: 1,173
  2. Spawny’s Space: 840
  3. Gunner Q: 786
  4. Saving Eve: 677
  5. Notes from a Red Pill Girl: 641

Posts

Total number of posts published in 2018: 88
Total number of posts published in 2017: 38
Total number of all posts: 194

The top five most popular pages/posts (other than the Home Page):

  1. What To Do When A Girl Tries To Make You Jealous (April 22, 2018): 4,151
  2. 16 Qualities of an Irresistible Woman (December 1, 2017): 1,857
  3. Sexual Market Value (SMV) vs. Marriage Market Value (MMV) (July 27, 2017): 1,238
  4. List of Slut Tells (October 15, 2017): 1,201
  5. Discipline in Marriage (Page): 848

The top five most popular Tags & Categories:

  1. Models of Success: 444
  2. For the Married: 339
  3. Male Power: 338
  4. Strategy: 262
  5. Holding Frame: 235

Likes and Comments

Number of likes in 2018: 314
Total number of likes: 343
Number of comments in 2018: 625
Total number of comments: 1,014

The top five posts with the most comments:

  1. Ladies Should Respect the Man and Love the Boy (June 28, 2018): 31
  2. Leaving a Legacy to Future Generations (December 5, 2017): 30
  3. Psychological Projection and the Mirror Effect (December 9, 2017): 24
  4. 16 Qualities of an Irresistible Woman (December 1, 2017): 22
  5. How to Understand Guys with Asperger’s or Autism (July 1, 2018): 19

The top five most prolific commentators (excluding myself):

  1. Earl: 60
  2. Ame: 55
  3. SFC Ton: 44
  4. Stephanie: 36
  5. Lexet: 26

That’s all, folks!

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