SMV depends on the supply. MMV depends on the relative demand.
Readership: All Theme: Problems with The Red Pill / Misunderstood Models Length: 2,600 words Reading Time: 15 minutes
Economic Theory
Supply
A supply is the amount of a resource that firms, producers, laborers, providers of financial assets, or other economic agents are willing and able to provide to the marketplace or an individual. Supply can be in produced goods, labor time, raw materials, or any other scarce or valuable object.
What’s good for the goose is a joke for the gander.
Readership: All Theme: This topic is not directly related to this month’s theme, but I couldn’t miss writing a summary of this phenomenon. Length: 2,000 words Reading Time: 11 minutes
The Soft Guy Era
There’s a remarkable trend recently making the rounds on the social media platform TikTok. Men have embraced a new trend known as “The Soft Guy Era” where they humorously mimic and mock the unrealistic dating expectations placed on them by women, in videos produced by women and in IRL.
This trend is fast growing into a movement, so here I’ll quote a number of side splitting quips and break it down.
‘Drizzle Drizzle’ and ‘The Soft Guy Era’ is a response to ‘The Soft Girl Era’ of 2023. The ‘Drizzle Drizzle’ Trend finds its roots in the ‘Sprinkle Sprinkle’ phrase popularized by Leticia Padwell AKA shur7. Essentially, “Sprinkle Sprinkle” and “Drizzle Drizzle” means ‘support me’ from the female and male perspectives, respectively.
How much is one man’s view truly applicable to others?
Readership: All Theme: Problems with The Red Pill / Misunderstood Models Length: 1,400 words Reading Time: 7 minutes
Intro
The previous post, How to be Happy, No, Really (2024/4/19), discussed how the secular Red Pill subtly promises men the eternal bliss of sexual humility in the arms of an endless series of paramours.
Here is another problem that is closely related to this. It concerns the nature of a man’s role of authority over his own life, over women, and the place of humility and love in apprehending masculinity and truth.
This issue recently came to a head in a volley between Giuseppe Filotto and Adam Piggott.
Readership: All Theme: Problems with The Red Pill / Misunderstood Models Length: 1,200 words Reading Time: 7 minutes
46 So continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, they ate their food with gladness and simplicity of heart, 47 praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to the church daily those who were being saved.
The “pursuit of happiness” is wildly overrated. By making happiness a top priority, western society has paradoxically ensured there will be less of it.
This is yet another perspicuous problem with The Red Pill. The secular Manosphere flatly assumes that if a man can get his inner Game down pat, and his problems with women sorted out, and get to the point where he’s laying pipe on the regular, then, and ONLY then, he will be ‘happy’. This assumption is seldom put forth explicitly; it’s more of a software program that’s always running in the background of men’s minds. But it is giant!
Gentlemen, I shouldn’t have to say this, but these things are but a candied maraschino cherry on top of the cake of a life well lived. It is a vain effort to pursue these things without first attaining the cake. Many men don’t even have a fork or a plate, much less three to spin.
After men figure this out, The Black Pill looms large. Angst, depression, desperation, frustration, and su!c!de continue unabated among men. Hence, the challenge of transcending the abyss.
The Happiness of Knowing God
Although the problem of discontentment and unhappiness is a real concern, there is no reason why men should languish helplessly in its grip.
Anyone who would like to be more happy than you presently are should read this article.
This article lists several sources of true happiness,* listed here.
Foundation of Joy in Divine Relationship (knowing and trusting God)
Joy Through Obedience and Trust
Spiritual Contentment in All Circumstances
Wisdom and Peace as Sources of Happiness
Comfort and Hope in Trials
Fellowship and Communal Joy
Nurturing Gratitude and Generosity
Pursuing Righteousness and Justice
Finding Joy in God’s Creation
Restoring Relationships Through Forgiveness
Anchoring Hope in Eternal Promises
* Perhaps it would be more theologically correct to call this ‘joy’, rather than ‘happiness’.
The Happiness of Fellowship
In one section on Fellowship and Communal Joy, E. D. Andrews writes,
“The communal aspects of biblical teachings also promote happiness through fellowship and shared faith. Acts 2:46-47 describes the early Christian community:
“Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people.”
“The joy of this fellowship, founded on communal worship and mutual care, illustrates how shared spiritual life contributes to collective and individual happiness.”
Yes. True joy is found in sharing intimacy with others, but not just anyone mind you — only those who share one’s faith and values and in whom one can trust and be humble.
It is so simple, but yet so hard to find.
Men’s Unhappiness
In fact, this “happiness through fellowship and shared faith” is what most men are missing. Church is supposed to do this. Marriage is supposed to provide this. But from most accounts we’ve heard around here, it doesn’t. The Red Pill helps, but it’s not anywhere near enough. Even something as simple as calling your Dad or cousin would fulfill this purpose better than your church or GF / wife does.
Adam Piggott told us the sad story of a young man who got everything he wanted but was still unhappy — a cabin in the woods, a girlfriend, some dogs, and his dream job of making videos for internet consumption. The reason, of course, is that he had no recognition of God, no larger purpose beyond his own interests, and no one with whom to convene his purpose IRL. Sorry, the internet doesn’t count, fellas.
Men who refuse to consider checking out or going off-grid to be an option are engaging in gaming clubs, gym memberships, sports activities, and online forums (including sites like Σ Frame and Spawny’s Space) to fulfill their needs for confession and fellowship. Going to college is pricey and a mixed bag as far as fellowship. Personally, I found more genuine fellowship with foreign students while I was in grad school. There was a time when men would go to bars and dance halls for this, but not anymore because there are too many draining women there. The problem is, most of these social interactions don’t provide shared faith and Christian values. OTOH, fewer men are looking for faith connections any more, unfortunately.
Women’s Unhappiness
Being herd creatures, we might guess that women don’t have any problem in this arena. But that is patently false. In general, women get along with other women even worse than they get along with men. All their smiles and smooth words are a false front that hides their envy and social insecurities.
Women are especially susceptible to loneliness and unhappiness as they do not have a strong innate sense of agency, duty, honor, or responsibility. All the traditional feminine roles of helping a man, keeping a home, raising children, etc. are intended to fill this gap. Left to pursue what they want, they will rarely get what they need which is to submit to a man and become a part of his mission. They will inevitably become unhaaapy as their trivial pursuits (e.g. attention-seeking, careers, carousel, education, etc.) fail to replicate the fulfillment of a meaningful life.
Epilogue
The basic recipe for happiness is the fear / knowledge of God, activity, purpose, and fellowship. You’ll need all four.
Happiness without God or purpose is fleeting and shallow. Happiness without meaningful fellowship is hollow. Happiness without activity is laziness or worse. The state of Flow seems to be intrinsically linked with our sense of happiness. Go through Andrew’s list and check yourself to see what you’re missing. (Diligent readers will be clicking on those links!)
If you look for happiness but neglect any of these four disciplines, then you’ll never find it. But if you find an activity that you feel passionately about, something that glorifies God in some way, and you can share that activity with others, then you’re on the right track to find happiness. Just look for others who share your faith and values along the way.
And when you find it, the last thing you’ll be thinking about is your own happiness. This is NOT a coincidence gentlemen. Put that in your pipe and smoke it.
Thou shalt love and obey thy lord and master, with all thy body, heart, mind, and soul!
Readership: Christian Men with a sense of humor. Reader’s Note: This post may be offensive to liberal or feminist readers. Links to the corresponding scripture references (ESV) are provided. Length: 900 words Reading Time: 5 minutes
Forsooth, it hath been said, “Toxic is ye olde Manosphere.” Yea, verily I saith, toxic it is not, but intoxicating masculinity. But only to them who are duly trained in the righteousness thereof.
Hearken ye to that which the scriptures saith, and thy union shall henceforth be blessed.
Sifting through the language and sorting out the truth.
Readership: All Theme: Problems with The Red Pill / Misunderstood Models Length: 3,200 words Reading Time: 18 minutes
Foundations
To kickstart our discussion here, I’ll quote a passage from Rollo’s essay, Men in Love (2012/9/10), which I believe is the main focus of ArchAngel’s post, Lovebreaker (2024/3/20).
“Men want to believe that they can be happy, and sexually satisfied, and appreciated, and loved, and respected by a woman for who he is. It is men who are the real romantics, not women, but it is the grand design of hypergamy that men believe it is women who are the romantic ones.
Hypergamy, by its nature, defines love for women in opportunistic terms, leaving men as the only objective arbiters of what love is for themselves. So yes, men can’t tell when a woman doesn’t love them, because they want to believe women can love them in the ways they think they could.”
Readership: All Theme: Problems with The Red Pill / Misunderstood Models Length: 1,750 words Reading Time: 9 minutes
Love, Marriage, Sex, and Sanctification
Outside of marriage, sex and romantic love inevitably lead to heartache, bitterness, and ultimately perdition. Marriage provides the context in which sex is confined to its many purposes and is thus honorable, and love can be preserved. Therefore, we say that marriage sanctifies the individuals sharing love and participating in sex.
But today, the world believes that romantic love provides the context in which sex is most consuming, ingratiating, and satisfying, and marriage is worthwhile. Therefore, it is assumed that romantic love is what sanctifies marriage and sex. Extramarital sex is acceptable if one is “in love” with one’s paramour. Nuptial vows have been reduced to nothing more than a declaration of love for one another. When love evaporates, then it is logical to break up or divorce so that one is free to fall in love again. That is why vows are carelessly discarded on the basis of what people FEEL about the relationship.
Christian men desperately want to make this distinction, but is there any?
Readership: All; Men; Theme: Problems with The Red Pill / Misunderstood Models Author’s Note: This post contains some input from Lexet. Length: 1,200 words Reading Time: 6 minutes
I posit that the last place on earth you will find ‘Biblical Femininity’ being practiced is in an American church. I would even troll Churchians a bit by saying they produce more tr@ns wimmin than the secular world. Why? Their women aren’t being raised to be homemakers and mothers. They aren’t being raised to be quiet, submissive, and respectful. They are loud, proud, obnoxious, and immodest. They dress like men, act like men, want to work like men, and want to compete with men.
At the opposite end of the inverted r@!nb0w spectrum, whenever there is talk about ‘Biblical Masculinity’, what this often refers to is the Chivalrous, emasculated, Purity Culture / virgin-in-waiting, stultified Beta male (which is a misnomer in itself). After all, Churchianity is a Beta Factory, so it makes sense that ‘Biblical Masculinity’ is all about adopting these traits and then attempting to survive the drought without the twin sins of skin pics and choking the pigeon.
After the Great Persecution of 2018, the Secular Manosphere petered out, and then MGTOW and the Christian Manosphere were, for a brief time before secular Red Pill 2.0 swept YouTube in 2020, the only Manosphere communities left standing. Those were the days when American Dad, Christianity and Masculinity, Dalrock, Dark Brightness, Fabius Maximus, and Σ Frame hashed through the topics of Chivalry, Complementarianism, marital authority, and the centrality of respect; IGTBAM, Warhorn, et al. locked horns with Dalrock over The Dalrock Route; and Σ Frame and Derek L. Ramsey took a few writers at Patheos to the philosophical cleaners.
Immediately after Dalrock hung up his hat in early 2020, Biblical Gender Roles (BGR) methodically attacked a complex multivariate question that had sat on the back burner for a long time — Is the Red Pill Biblical? This important topic was smoking hot for a brief time until secular Red Pill 2.0 kicked in later that same year. BGRs work on this topic indirectly sparked The Great Schism of 2020, in which the Christian Manosphere distanced itself from what was left of the secular Manosphere.
In this essay, I’ll return to one topic that was repetitively brought up by BGR in this series — the difference between Christian Frame and Worldly Frame, specifically the question of whether a Christian man’s frame should be covert, and if so, then what exactly, and how much?
Readership: All; Men; Theme: Problems with The Red Pill / Misunderstood Models Author’s Note: Compiled by Jack. Length: 1,800 words Reading Time: 10 minutes
Background
Over the last few years, the Socio-Sexual Hierarchy has received more coverage and has slowly risen in popularity.
Here are a few popular articles about the Socio-Sexual Hierarchy.
Recently, Vox Day has refreshed his career as a Manosphere blogger by opening Sigma Game. In doing so, he continues to espouse and glorify The Socio-Sexual Hierarchy (SSH) — descriptions of masculine archetypes (i.e. alpha, beta, delta, gamma, omega, sigma, lambda) which he first introduced on Alpha Game back in March 2011.
Back when Lexet was working on Courtship and Power (2020/2/17), written as a response to Jack’s article, Models of Courtship and Marital Structure (2018/10/3), and a contribution to a continuation of discussions about Chivalry, Christianity, and Courtship happening on Dalrock’s blog and American Dad’s at the same time, Lexet and Jack reviewed Vox’s SSH to see how it might fit into the discussion. They could not identify any clear correlations between Vox’s SSH archetypes and the Marriage Structures and Relational Archetypes that Jack was working on at the time. However, they did come up with a list of criticisms of Vox’s SSH model. Here is a summary of their notes on Vox’s SSH.
ArchAngel
caterpillar345
Soup Sandwich
Lexet Blog
Novaseeker
Oscar
Red Pill Apostle
Jack
thedeti
Σ Frame 