Infidelity is anything short of fidelity.

Being faithful is not about avoiding sin, but in Glorifying the Lord. Embracing God’s archetype of marriage is one important way to do this.

Readership: All
Theme: The Integrity and Fidelity of Marriage
Author’s Note: This post had some input from Red Pill Apostle.
Length: 1,900 words
Reading Time: 6.5 minutes

Introduction

The last post, Rights and Responsibilities within Marriage (2022-01-21), listed several characteristics of a covenant marriage to be used as a standard for those of us who are married to shoot for, to fill up that which is lacking in our faith, and to attain a more perfect sanctification by the grace of God. I concluded that the goal in marriage (as with other facets of life) is to please God. This probably comes as no surprise to any Christian reader, but it needs to be emphasized.

In this post, I’ll explain how our common understanding of faithfulness vs. unfaithfulness is based on feminized cultural norms, sin, and guilt, and not on God’s purposes for marriage. In this particular subject, we would do well to abandon such viewpoints, to concentrate on how things are supposed to be, and to examine those areas where we fall short.

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Rights and Responsibilities within Marriage

The goal is to please God, not to avoid suffering.

Readership: Those who are married or hope to be married.
Theme: The Integrity and Fidelity of Marriage
Length: 950 words
Reading Time: 4 minutes + 30 minutes (recommended) of your own introspective contemplations.

Introduction

Mogadishu Matt asked a somewhat serious question:

“How does someone measure quality control in one’s sexual marriage?”

To do that, we need to first introduce a standard by which to measure. So in this post, I’ll review the purposes, conditions, rights, and responsibilities in marriage, according to Christianity.

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Tracking Raw Sex Performance on a Spread Sheet

No F earns an F.

Readership: Married Men
Theme: The Integrity and Fidelity of Marriage
Length: 2,100 words
Reading Time: 7 minutes

Introduction

A while back, Dalrock reviewed a story at Daily Mail: Not tonight dear, I’m tired… Husband creates spreadsheet detailing different reasons why wife is refusing sex (2014 July 21). To offer the readers a quick snapshot of this post…

“Women’s sexuality has always been a primary source of their power, but in our feminist culture this has been taken to the extreme.”

“…the fear of losing power was a core motivating factor for the women involved.”

“The wife was horrified that she had over played her hand in using [i.e. withholding] sex to keep her husband firmly in her orbit.”

“Now imagine being the spreadsheet wife, who has suddenly realized that her V has lost its power through her own misuse.”

Dalrock Frigidity and power. (2014 August 3)
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Is Married Dread Game a transgression of marital vows?

Know thine adversary! Is it your self?

Readership: Men; Married Men;
Theme: The Integrity and Fidelity of Marriage
Note:
 This post explores the basic arguments between Red Pill Apostle’s comment, and Oscar’s comments (1 and 2) under a previous post, Dating in the Lion’s Den: Relying on Faith when the options are daunting (2021-12-13).
Length: 3,000 words
Reading Time: 10 minutes

Definitions

First, I’ll offer some definitions of Dread Game vs. Married Dread Game.

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What constitutes Adultery?

When sex is abused in such a way that the joy and intimacy of the sexual relationship is ruined between man and wife.

Readership: All; Men;
Theme: The Integrity and Fidelity of Marriage
Author’s Note: This is a more or less original post based on a previous comment with some added input from Jack.
Length: 2,300 words
Reading Time: 8 minutes

This post is about adultery, but instead of tackling the typical arguments about “sin”, I’m going to build this argument by going back to the foundations of marriage.

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Wives reap what they sow

The opposite of submission is not necessarily rebellion, but a heart that is miserly with affection and grace.

Readership: All
Theme: The Integrity and Fidelity of Marriage
Author’s Note: Stephanie (author of the discontinued blog, All Things Bright And Beautiful) asked me to write this post. She and I share the view that this topic is one that needs to be continually taught.
Reader’s Note: More women should read this and become aware of how they have a choice to either build up their marriages with faith, or tear it down with foolishness.
Length:
2,500 words
Reading Time: 8.5 minutes

Husbands have a long fuse, but once they blow up, they’re gone!

Stephanie, the host of an older Femosphere blog that is now defunct, All Things Bright and Beautiful, wrote an excellent post entitled, “Don’t Ruin Your Husband’s Love Toward You” (2018 April 9) (Web archive here.) I have extracted sections of this post to be quoted below.

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Towards a more complete appreciation of Sanctification

“This is my husband.”  “This is my wife.” “Til death do us part.” …and grateful for it all!

Readership: Christians;
Theme: The Integrity and Fidelity of Marriage
Length: 1,400 words
Reading Time: 5 minutes

Introduction

The dictionary is useful for defining words clearly for the purpose of forming simple arguments, but in some cases, the dictionary is inadequate. Secular English language dictionaries can’t give us an accurate account of words like consecration, covenant, defilement, iniquity, sanctification, shalom, transgression, and others. So we cannot rely on a secular dictionary to fully explain the spiritual nuances of these concepts. Even many descriptions of these terms from religious sources are confusing and/or don’t give us the full flavor.

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The Mystery of Marriage

Father Spyridon offers insights to the beauty and gravity of marriage.

Readership: All;
Theme: The Integrity and Fidelity of Marriage
Length: 1,200 words
Reading Time: 4 minutes + 6:26 minute video

Introduction

A few of our blog cohorts are Orthodox, including NovaSeeker and Scott, and I know many readers are Orthodox as well. Through coauthoring posts together, and through our correspondence in private emails, I’ve found that Orthodoxy includes many teachings that are entirely absent in the Protestant church I was raised in, most notably an explanation of the mystical experience of being a Christian. So over the past year, I have taken a dedicated interest in Orthodox theology.

The content producer of the following video, Father Spyridon, is an Eastern Orthodox priest. His mini-sermon videos are absolutely beautiful. He wears his priestly garments while standing in the woods, and his elocution is filled with great inspiration, diction, and clarity. Birds, animals, and the rustling of leaves can be heard in the background. I have gotten into the habit of listening to one of his talks every day.

This mini sermon is about the mystery of marriage, which fits into our theme this month. In it, Father Spyridon gives us a riveting message about the profound beauty and eternal gravity of marriage.

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2021 Sigma Frame Performance Report

Σ Frame’s fifth annual traffic performance report.

Readership: Anyone interested
Length: 2,100 words
Reading Time: 7 minutes

History

I started blogging on March 7, 2008, using Blogger as my blog platform.  On September 27, 2017, I transferred the best of my blog writings from Blogger to WordPress, and began concentrating on Red Pill topics.  I received more views on WordPress in the first two months, than I had on Blogger in the previous 8 years.

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The Importance of Biblical Marriage

Headship is routinely ignored.

Readership: Christians
Theme: The Integrity and Fidelity of Marriage
Length: 1,300 words
Reading Time: 4.5 minutes

Introduction

Not long ago, Mrs. RPA and I had a discussion which turned into an argument. It ended with her accusing me of treating her like a child before she stormed out of the room and slammed the door on her way out.

Why? Well, I spent the week putting together a bible study on wifely behavior, roles, and authority in the family, before talking with her about the argument to set expectations moving forward.  This endeavor took up a good bit of my time.

It seems like whenever you make a move in the right direction, you can expect to be met with resistance, and from those closest to you, no less. The irony is not lost on me either.

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