This post examines a few signs of a coming economic recession and the Biblical End Times.
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3 Now as He sat on the Mount of Olives, the disciples came to Him privately, saying, “Tell us, when will these things be? And what will be the sign of Your coming, and of the end of the age?” 4 And Jesus answered and said to them: “Take heed that no one deceives you.5 For many will come in My name, saying, ‘I am the Christ,’ and will deceive many.6 And you will hear of wars and rumors of wars. See that you are not troubled; for all these things must come to pass, but the end is not yet.7 For nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. And there will be famines, pestilences, and earthquakes in various places.8 All these are the beginning of sorrows. 9 “Then they will deliver you up to tribulation and kill you, and you will be hated by all nations for My name’s sake.10 And then many will be offended, will betray one another, and will hate one another.11 Then many false prophets will rise up and deceive many.12 And because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold.13 But he who endures to the end shall be saved.14 And this gospel of the kingdom will be preached in all the world as a witness to all the nations, and then the end will come.~ Matthew 24 (NKJV)
My father was always intensely interested in prophecies, especially Biblically based prophecies, but also any other sort of prophecy which appeared to have reasonable validity or a strong record of being true. Based on his studies of many old writings, he was able to come up with a lot of prognostications. Some of them have actually come true within our lifetimes. So I’ve always been amazed at his insight.
For example, in 1987, my Dad studied one of Nostradamus’ writings, called “Centuries” (pdf). He interpreted one of the quatrains to mean that there would be a very large explosion in the sky, in a major city along the 40th parallel. Dad concluded that it must be New York City, because it’s the only major city on the 40th parallel. Nostradamus wrote Centuries around 1555, when New York was barely a trading post for native Americans, and not considered a major city. So Dad concluded that this is the reason why Nostradamus identified the city by its geographic location. He guesstimated that this incident would happen in 1999.
As we know from history, the 9-11 incident at the World Trade Center fit this description to a T. Considering that Nostradamus (and Dad) were only off the mark by two years (out of a difference of 444 years since Nostradamus’ writings), that is an error of 0.450%. The numerology of it all, is also astounding.
My Dad ascertained another prediction from reading a lot of Jewish eschatology (rabbinical studies concerning “the End times”). The scholars (according to Dad’s account) guesstimated that “something big” would happen within a generation after the Jews “regained their homeland”, Israel. (This event happened in 1948.) It’s hard to identify what that event could be. It could be Armageddon, the Tribulation, the second coming of Christ (or the first, according to the Jews), the end of the world by fire, or something on that scale. Maybe all of these!
The generation that was being born in 1948 were the Baby Boomers (1942-1960).
Right now, members of the Silent generation (born between 1925 and 1942) are dropping like flies. My uncle died just a couple months ago, and he was (and is) Silent. (The Silent generation, AKA the Beatniks, gave the world Bebop and Rock-and-Roll.) So we are looking forward to the Boomer generation passing on within the next 20 years or so. (Sorry, that sounds bad.)
Being inspired by Dad’s comments, I studied this a bit myself, and found that, not only are there are 1948 years between the birth of Jesus Christ and the rebirth of the Jewish nation, but there are also 1948 years between the birth of the patriarch Abraham, and the birth of Jesus Christ. Again, the numerology of it all is astounding.
So will the X’ers, Millenials and Zyklon’s see “the End”?
Another clue from my Dad was based on the life-cycle of the 17-year periodical cicada, which is an insect that burrows into the ground in its larval stage, and then after 17 years, it matures, and emerges from the ground in large swarms. Dad surmised that the plague of cicadas during the years of emergence affect agricultural yields, which indirectly affect the economy of the U.S. In turn, the U.S. national economy bears down on international trade, as it is the largest influence on the world economy.
In sum, this means that some degree of economic downturn will happen every 17 years. The years corresponding to the life-cycle of the cicadas are 1885, 1902, 1919, 1936, 1953, 1970, 1987, 2001, and 2018. It seems like a long-shot, slippery slope argument, but if you examine the graph below, there was a slight dip or plateau in the U.S. GDP during every single one of these years. Most notably, there was definitely an economic crisis in Europe in 1919 after WW1, 1936 after The New Deal was implemented, the conclusion of the Korean war in 1953, 1987, when Greenspan was in charge, and a plateau in 2001 after the 9-11 catastrophe.
A lady at my church has a gift of prophetic dreams. In 2007, she had a dream that there would be an economic recession. Within a couple months after that, the sub-prime mortgage crisis hit the United States, which then rippled around the world. Recently, she had the same dream again. So if you can believe that people have prophetic dreams, then here’s your wake-up call.
So based on my Dad’s calculations, and the prophetic dreams of the church lady, we should expect an economic calamity later this year. So watch the news. Later this year, there will be a recession. I am guessing it will have something to do with the trade war that just started.
This article from Forbes wants to condemn Trump’s policies for the downfall of the U.S. economy resulting from a trade war, while painting a very optimistic outlook on the situation for Europe and Asia. But I have to pose the question: Could this kind of news article be a propagandized red herring that the Banker-Media-Industry Establishment is trying to float as truth? Would Trump’s foreign policies be totally to blame for any recession, or would they just be an incentive for the Powers-that-be to engineer a recession?
I recently wrote a post about Shifting Gears in a Career, but if you’re thinking about doing this right now, or about making a big investment, buying a house, etc., you may want to reassess your decision in light of the possibility of an upcoming recession, and do some grand mal praying about it.
On a positive note, this rollicking bull market might be a good time to sell off some stocks. On a darker note, could this coming downturn be a foreshadowing of, or possibly the beginning of the End?
This artist has some very thought provoking work. Some of the illustrations depict the mental and spiritual contrasts between different types of women, which I found to be insightful.
Changing careers can be a very difficult, yet positive, turn of events.
Readership: Men facing career difficulties.
An Unpleasant Impetus for a Career Change
A while back, between 2008 to 2012, my ex-wife had a nasty habit of trying to get me fired from any job I had. She succeeded in doing this at least three times, maybe four. For the first two jobs, she did this by spreading false rumors among my coworkers, making me out to be a grossly immoral character. (Hey, I’m just a divorced Manosphere blogger!) But with the second job, I had a very wise and insightful employer who figured out what was going on, and they let me in on what she was saying to people. So after that, I preemptively warned people that I had an ex who liked to stir up drama, and that if she ever came around, then they should just ignore her. Few people took her seriously after that. [Divorced men should take the hint to tell people.]
Then after she got turned away at the door a few times, she upped the ante by filing cases against me on trumped up criminal charges. Because of this, the police came to the school at least twice (that I knew of), and once, they even pulled me out of a classroom full of students in order to interrogate me. (Those were extremely embarrassing experiences.)
This school could handle gossip and rumors, but having the police coming around was just too much for them. So they had to let me go in the end.
After that, I took another job in another city, and I thought she would leave me alone because of the distance between us. But her strategy of calling the police turned out to be more convenient for her than instilling rumors, because she didn’t have to take the effort to befriend my coworkers, and she could still sabotage my career, even though I had moved to another city. Also, a lawsuit hit me harder than mere rumors did. Not only did the police intervention instigate damaging rumors which affected my career, but I also had to waste big bucks on a lawyer.
So because she destroyed my reputation again at that school, I lost a third job.
Redesigning a Career Strategy
After all of that mess, I knew I had to create a man-cave where it would be difficult for my ex to find me. So I rented a small warehouse (225 m2 or 2,422 sq. ft.) in an old part of the city to live in. The rent was super cheap (US$400/month), and it provided space for my car, motorcycles, industrial shop machines, and research equipment. Best of all, I had some good parties there, and my friends and especially the women I knew, loved to hang out there.
I also decided to have a few part-time jobs instead of one full-time job, so that if she ever messed with one of them, I still had the others to fall back on.
“Ship your grain across the sea;
after many days you may receive a return.
Invest in seven ventures, yes, in eight;
you do not know what disaster may come upon the land.” ~ Ecclesiastes 11:1-2 (NIV)
During this time, I was an adjunct professor at two universities, and I had arrangements to teach classes at three or four other schools. I was invited to participate in four research partnerships, and I was publishing an average of two papers a year. I also did some independent work on the side that bolstered my income significantly.
The thing I enjoyed the most about this set up, was that I had the freedom to make my own schedule, and I could accept or reject any work opportunities that came my way. If one didn’t fit into my schedule, or work out very well, I had plenty of others to rely on.
I discovered that this revised play strategy brought me a whole new life. Things went a lot smoother for me, and I soon became very nicely set up. I opened a post office box to receive my mail, and picked up my daughters at discrete locations for their visitation, so my ex never found out where I lived. She gave up trying to sabotage my career, and turned her focus onto custody issues and monopolizing visitation rights.
My daughters thought living in a warehouse was a dream come true. On rainy days, they could rollerblade and ride their bikes around the warehouse floor. They hated leaving to return to their mother.
A New Opportunity Emerges
Then in 2014, I was offered a full-time position as an assistant professor. At first, I didn’t want to take this job (which is my present job), because it was only a contracted position. I wanted to wait until I found a regular tenure-track position. But the department chairman urged me to take this job, promising that it would help me get my foot in the door to a tenured position after a couple years, so I accepted.
However, it didn’t turn out like he stated. I’ve been here for the last four years, but I have little to show for it.
The school did not give me any laboratory space, so I was only able to use what research equipment would fit into my own office space (which wasn’t much).
I applied for research grants every year, but I was only granted a partial award for one year, which was barely enough to cover my expenses.
The other professors in my department were hesitant to partner up with me, largely because our research interests didn’t overlap.
My time was consumed by teaching between 15 to 19 hours a week (which is a heavy load for collegiate level), so I haven’t had much time for doing research.
Even though I have helped a lot of students with their research projects and papers, I haven’t had any students who officially called me their advisor. Thus, I haven’t had any students to help me conduct any research.
Not so surprisingly, I haven’t had a single SCI publication since I joined this school four years ago. It’s not like I haven’t tried. I’ve submitted a few papers, but they were all rejected by the publisher for various reasons.
I was also rather bored with the environment.
No lab, no money, no partners, no time, no students, no publications, no excitement…
But the University expects me to turn out top-rate, cutting edge, research results worthy of publication in world class technical journals. So my lack of publications disqualified me from being eligible for a promotion. When a tenured position opened up, they didn’t even grant me an interview. Some of the other professionals who were vying for my position had Ph.D.’s from famous schools, and hundreds of publications on their resume. A couple of them had even published 30+ papers in the past year alone! (I don’t understand how they could do that.)
So you see, in Asia, this profession is extremely competitive, and since I haven’t published anything for the last four years, that put me at the bottom of the competition.
Publish or Perish!
In summary, my professional accomplishments at this University have been dismal, and I see that my career as a full-time professor may be reaching its end. I don’t feel regretful about this, but instead, I think it’s time to embark on a new adventure in life. So lately, I have been reassessing my career options.
Another Career Reassessment
I know I can be very good at research, but my heart is more into teaching, writing, counseling, and even evangelism when given the chance. I am most renowned for teaching students’ confidence, of all things. I know this is because I have the heart to share my faith with others, and see others come to know Christ, and grow in faith. I firmly believe this is a part of God’s purpose in my life.
In addition, both my educational training, and my Meyers-Briggs personality type, are not suited to the academic field in which I have been working for the last four years. (My lackluster accomplishments probably had something to do with this.)
Besides, when I think back to what led me to come to Asia in the first place, I know it wasn’t to be a professor. Becoming a professor is an honorary experience that I’ve gained only by the grace of God. I came to Asia looking for deep, inner peace and joy, and I’ve found that (a horrific first marriage notwithstanding).
Conclusions
My plan now is to go back to the career model I had between 2012 and 2014, except that I will make a formal business out of it. I have already attracted a few partners, and an investor. I’ve found a store-front office space in a prime location, with living quarters upstairs. I will still be a professor, but not full-time. I’ve lined up two part-time teaching positions at local Universities.
My (new) wife had hoped that I would continue on as a full-time professor, mainly because of the benefits of having a well-established employer, and the social prestige of the position. But just this week, after several discussions with my partners, she has jumped on board, and is now willing to support my small business enterprise, even though she knows it will require a lot of work, not just for me, but for her too. My partner pointed out that she only changed her mind because she really loves me and wants to support me. So I am finding that I am prodigiously blessed by God.
This coming summer, I will need to focus more of my attention on building my business, and some activities related to this. So I will be checking into this blog sporadically for the next few weeks, or maybe months. I will still try to churn out at least one post every week. It shouldn’t be too hard for me to do, because as of today, I have 174 pending posts in various stages of completion, and 314 posts left over from my old Blogspot site that I want to rework before reposting them on WordPress.
Comments will remain open, and any submitted guest articles will continue to be published. Any further questions or requests for post topics, please feel free to contact me at your leisure.
Autism spectrum disorders are on the rise. This post aims to help the average person understand the experience of being autistic, for the purpose of increasing mutual rapport.
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This article contains the following sections.
Introduction
Educational Resources
Why are Autistic Individuals So Angsty?
Angst caused by Oxytocin Deficiency
Angst caused by a lack of Theory of Mind
Angst Caused by the Misinterpretation of Eccentric Behaviors
Angst Caused by Bullying and Rejection
Descriptions of Successful Aspies
Red Pilled Aspies
Conclusions
Introduction
I think there must be a lot of guys reading Manosphere/Red Pill blogs who have some form of autism, like Asperger’s, yet no blogger ever seems to address their thoughts and needs. Considering how the population frequency of autism has been rising, at some point, they will be so prodigious that we’ll have to learn how to get along with them.
Of note, Asperger’s syndrome appears as one of the most common occurrences of high-functioning autism.
Educational Resources
If autistic individuals can be properly informed and trained at a young age, they can find it easier to adjust to normal people, and are likely to become much more successful in life, in terms of their social lives, marriages and careers.
Marc Segar offers a self-help-guide for people with autism/Asperger’s, entitled, A Survival Guide For People Living With Asperger’s Syndrome. His book, “Autism and Computing”, launched a blog by the same name, and a Wikibook, Autistic Survival Guide. If you are in constant contact with an autistic person, you may want to read through these sources to glean a few insights. The website Wrong Planet also focuses on the experiences of autistic individuals and how they might best cope with life
In a nutshell, a lot of the most helpful points in Segar’s work cover all the most important lessons that neurotypical people learn about life, such as self-esteem, finding one’s place in the right career, setting personal boundaries and respecting others’ personal space, conveying mannerisms and communicating effectively. One very interesting perspective in Segar’s work is how aspies can ‘best accommodate the apparent stupidity of normal people’.
Some other informative word studies include Monotropism, Sensory Overload, and Trolling.
“Monotropism” is when a person has a restricted range of interests and can only pay attention to one thing at a time. Researchers theorize that autistics display this behavior as a way to cope with their hypersensitivity to sensory information. Individuals with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder(ADHD) have the opposite sets of behaviors, in which they are unable to focus on one subject for very long. Both types have difficulties in performing tasks requiring attention and concentration.
“Sensory Overload” refers to a situation in which there are too many people, too much activity, and too much noise, all of which cause confusion and anxiety for the autistic individual who cannot process this information immediately through intuition.
“Trolling” Autistic individuals have an interesting relationship with trolling. For one, many immature, but otherwise normal people, find intense, but cruel entertainment in trolling those with autism. Because of their past experiences of being trolled, some aspies think this is just how normal people interact socially and therefore mimic their behavior in an effort to ‘connect’. But most aspies recognize that being trolled by others is a form of mockery and ostracization. (This facet will be covered in more detail later.) On the flip side, many aspies have been known to troll others, especially on internet forums and blogs. Aspies motives for trolling the internet may range from (1) creating entertainment for themselves, (2) experimenting with, and testing the reactions of others for their own personal education about people’s behaviors and social interactions, or (3) a kind of passive revenge for being trolled themselves, (4) a need for attention or meaningful dialogue. There may be other motivations as well.
On a side note, I have long suspected that birth control medications are somehow linked to the rise in autism. (Of course, this is probably only one out of many other factors.) The following paper explores the possibility of this hypothesis.
I have a couple friends who have Asperger’s. I know they have a very difficult life. It’s not because they’re “dumb”. These guys are actually quite intelligent, and gifted with some special talents. But yet, they find it incredibly difficult to be happy. Other people just can’t understand why they are so deeply troubled, and so they become a drag to the social scene.
I’ll briefly describe four of the most influential factors that lead to this state of angst. My purpose here is not to draw undue pity, but to simply create some empathy which might impart a greater understanding of how to get along with these individuals.
Angst caused by Oxytocin Deficiency
An oxytocin deficiency is commonly found in autistic individuals. Oxytocin evokes feelings of contentment, reduces anxiety, and induces feelings of calmness and security around other people. Many studies have already shown a correlation of oxytocin with human bonding, as it increases trust, and decreases fear. This explains why autistic individuals often appear very uptight, formal, suspicious of others, and socially recalcitrant.
This oxytocin deficiency also affects their sociosexual lives. One study confirmed that there was a positive correlation between oxytocin plasma levels and an anxiety scale measuring the adult romantic attachment.
In other studies, it has been shown that in order for a person to reach full orgasm, it is necessary that the brain regions associated with behavioral control, fear and anxiety are deactivated; which allows individuals to let go of fear and anxiety during sexual arousal. This suggests that oxytocin may be important for the inhibition of brain regions that are associated with behavioral control, fear, and anxiety, thus allowing orgasm to occur.
Angst caused by a lack of Theory of Mind
Theory of Mind is defined as the capacity to mentally represent thoughts, beliefs, and desires, regardless of whether or not the circumstances involved are real. Many individuals classified as having autism have severe difficulty assigning mental states to others, and in interpreting verbal intonation and other non-verbal expressions as indicators of specific mental states in others. This condition is often called “Mind Blindness”.
In other words, guys with Asperger’s lack discernment. They have a horrifyingly low Emotional Quotient (EQ). They truly don’t know what other people are thinking or feeling, unless those people do or say something obvious to reveal it. Because of this, it is impossible for them to know what is an appropriate response to people in a particular social setting. This condition also lays the foundational social elements of being ‘out of touch’, which then attracts taunting and trolling from others.
Marc Segal’s Autistic Survival Guide points out that autistic individuals cannot sense the emotional context of a social setting. He describes the dynamics of this effect as follows.
Non-autistic people tend to get ALL aspects of social interaction 50-99% right, ALL the time.
Autistic people can get aspects 100% right or 200% wrong, yet rarely, if ever, will an autistic person be able to achieve 50% of all the aspects.
I can embellish this assessment, based on my own understanding gained from autistic friends and students. Autistic individuals have the viewpoint that neurotypical people always make a game of judging each other by how close they can get to 100% (see Segar’s section on ‘Confidence’).
This may be at least part of the reason why it is difficult for auties to get explanations out of non-autistic people. It takes a lot of time and concentrated effort for a non-autie to transform their subconscious mental processes into socially descriptive words, it usually also exposes their basic desires and deeper motives, which can be embarrassing as well as risky.
Furthermore, normative people seem to regard an autie’s need for explicitness as an attempt to “cheat the game”. That is to say, from a non-autistic persons point of view, why would I want to go through all the hassle, risk, trouble and time necessary to give a small piece of emotional information to an autistic person who has not first demonstrated an ability to use said information discretely and wisely, and then also not betray my humble frankness?
These contrasting viewpoints reveal how tedious a social interaction can be, not just for normies, but for autistic individuals as well. Obviously, this difference in perception creates a vast barrier between communication styles, which affects every aspect of interaction between an autie and a typical person.
Angst Caused by the Misinterpretation of Eccentric Behaviors
One tragic consequence that results from mind blindness is the inability to judge the context of a social situation with enough accuracy to be able to fit in. Because of the inherent difficulties involved with understanding others, many autistics tend to give up on pursuing meaningful social interaction, and focus instead on the hard work of maintaining their own emotional balance, and obtaining peace of mind. They also fail to express this autorejection in a way that others can understand. As a result, most people misinterpret the eccentricities of autistics as rude, inappropriate, or unacceptable behavior.
The following video identifies five characteristic behaviors of autistics, and the common misinterpretation of these behaviors.
Cliff’s notes for the video are as follows.
“There is always some distress, anxiety, or obsession manifested in every ‘inappropriate’ behavior that gets misinterpreted by others.”
The most common misinterpretations of behaviors common to autistic individuals are listed as follows.
A “low tolerance for boredom” is misinterpreted as laziness.
The inability to “read” others is misinterpreted as lack of empathy.
Poor “emotional regulation” is misinterpreted as psychological instability.
Detachment is misinterpreted as narcissism.
Deficits in social skills are misinterpreted as abnormality.
Angst Caused by Bullying and Rejection
Simply put, one of the biggest problems faced by autistic individuals is social rejection. This, in addition to the frequent trolling and bullying, are the most crippling reasons why auties find it very difficult to be happy. From the viewpoint of an autistic person, nearly everyone is a bully, and this is largely because most people are careless, and often cruel.
People have a schadenfreudian nature, in which they don’t want to see someone who is socially awkward and unfamiliar with being happy, to actually be happy. *
Also, facing someone with an apparent handicap is deeply embarrassing for some unjust reason, and the average person just can’t tolerate it. So, no one wants to talk with them, listen to them, or be around them. At worst, most people talk to them, and about them (often behind their backs) with scorn and ridicule. As a consequence, autistic individuals are subjected to excessive amounts of rejection on a daily basis.
In addition, people unfamiliar with autism spectrum disorders naturally assume that autistics are capable of playing the social game (as described in the previous section). But since they can’t, those people think it’s fun, easy, and ego stroking to win a social spar against an Aspie (not to mention juvenile and cruel). To offer an analogy, if a man had polio, very few people would be so cruel and rude as to call him a ‘crip’, and kick his one good leg out from under him. But people ignorantly think it’s OK to do that, in a figurative sense, to individuals on the autism spectrum.
This video briefly outlines some of the pressures experienced by adolescent autistics.
* This social reaction is apparent, not just for autistics, but for every person with any type of disability, ingrained problem, or spiritual stronghold. At the risk of appearing too ‘liberal’, I need to say that Christian charity requires us to willfully overcome the callousness of our nature towards the neighbor who is disadvantaged. Adopting this one Christian attitude will drastically improve your relationship with an autistic person.
Back in 2015, I came across a blog written by an aspie named Penelope Trunk. At that time, I thought her writings had a lot of passion and optimism, which I found admirable, but I also found her works to lack some basic landmarks of logical purity. (Maybe that is just a symptom of being female.) Since then, she has developed a very successful writing career, and has founded a small business. [I don’t agree with many of her viewpoints, but I mention her here, because I think some people might be intrigued by her honest writings, and inspired by her professional success, while knowing that she is autistic.]
Personally, I know one guy with Asperger’s who has a professional hobby of restoring classic guitars. I’ve seen him take very valuable, but ruined instruments, and repair them. He has restored several old Gibson Les Paul’s with broken headstocks. He cuts out the cracks and splinters, and makes a jig to cut intricate splines and tenons to fit into the joint. He glues all the pieces together like a wooden puzzle and puts several clamps on it. After trimming off the glue and sanding it smooth, he paints the headstock black with a sunburst fade into the natural mahogany finish at the end of the neck. Finally, he replaces the “Les Paul” decal, and finishes it with a clear coat of lacquer. No one can tell that it had ever been broken.
This guy is happy when he is restoring these classic guitars. Many people are inspired by his work, and offer him encouraging words concerning his artistry. For him, the best part is that people leave him alone, and stop noticing his shallow breathing. He enjoys it because he can get into flow, and he makes pretty good money at it too.
Red Pilled Aspies
Guys with Asperger’s have one Red Pill advantage that I have noticed, so this takes us to the Orange Pill. The Manosphere often instructs men to not take women’s words seriously, but to examine their behaviors instead. Most guys with Asperger’s are naturals at this. * They have told me some profound insights on women. Here are a few things I’ve learned about women from Asperger guys.
The easiest way to p!ss a woman off, and set her off balance, is to look at her smugly, and give her a cold smile without saying anything. It makes them self-conscious, and they lose confidence. They will typically lash out in self-defense by calling you a pervert. [Heh… Aspies are not Alphas, you know.]
Some women get slut eye, and start chewing food with their mouth open when they have the Tingles for a man nearby. They do this (presumably) because they’re insecure and feel vulnerable. [LMAO!]
Women have the mindset that all the world is a stage, and they’re always trying to do their best act. That’s why they stay in groups, and go places (like the restroom) in groups – because they’re insecure about their act. The need to talk about each other’s performances, give each other tips for improvement, and support each other. It’s like a football team taking a break at halftime and getting a revised play strategy from the coach, and if one of them screws up their act, then the whole team gives them hell. [I thought this one was hilariously true.]
Women are always trying to make other people emotional, often in an attempt to sabojack and control the social interaction. [I was so intrigued by this viewpoint, that I studied it in a previous post, Why do Women Incite Others to Emote?(June 19, 2018)]
* The negative caveat to having this skill is that Aspies cannot detect some of the emotional information that could be beneficially associated with the obvious tells.
Conclusions
The figure above shows several challenges of personal regulation that autistic individuals face, related to the intake of sensory information, the processing of emotions and anxiety, and the willful control of attention and impulses. These areas of difficulty include,
Cognitive Flexibility: Difficulty in two skills – flexible thinking and set shifting.
Central Coherence: Not being aware of the present moment.
Executive Functioning: Not knowing what to do in a given circumstance, and after knowing, finding difficulty in the efficacious performance.
Theory of Mind: Not being able to determine the thoughts, feelings, and intentions of others.
Hidden Curriculum: Not understanding what is expected of them within a social context.
Social Pragmatics: Not knowing what will bring ‘success’ in a given social situation.
Self Advocacy: Not knowing how to express themselves in a way that others can immediately comprehend.
In addition to these challenges, autistic individuals usually experience intense levels of anxiety and anger on a continual basis, and this is because of a combination of the following factors.
A lack of trust and bonding caused by low oxytocin.
Their ‘mind blindness’ (an inability to postulate a theory of mind in others) causes them to be unable to intuitively sense the thoughts, feelings, and intentions of others. This leads to regret, frustration and disappointment.
Their inability to gauge the social context of a situation prevents them from being able to know how to respond appropriately, and blend in harmoniously.
Other people misinterpret their eccentric behaviors as abnormal, psychotic, lazy, careless, unfeeling, narcissistic, unacceptably rude, or as having malicious intent. Such assessments are not representative of the autistic person’s true thoughts, feelings, and motives.
Their general sense that the world is full of stupid, careless, and cruel people, which is reinforced by daily trolling, bullying, and rejection.
As a result, autistic individuals usually display the following characteristics, among others.
They continually experience angst, and find it very difficult to be happy.
They tend to recoil into their private inner world, where they are more comfortable.
They turn their attention to particular activities in which they are skillful.
They require a long time to acquaint themselves with other people well enough to trust them and get along with them.
People who are in contact with autistic individuals on a regular basis, and who wish to improve their relationship with the person, should remember the following.
Accept the fact that the autistic person faces great difficulties in simple social exchanges.
Adopt a formal personal presentation whenever interacting with an autistic person. This will make them feel more respected and less apprehensive.
Exhibiting serenity, reasonability, altruism, and patience, will be interpreted by the autistic person as dignity, intelligence, kindness, and acceptance, respectively.
Recognize that the autistic person lacks a great deal of emotional and intuitive information that most people take for granted. Be as verbally explicit as possible, without being condescending. Autistics do not readily comprehend sarcasm and allusions.
Autistic individuals are overtly sensitive to disorder, noise, and seemingly random displays of strong emotions. Large crowds, anger, shouting, loud noises, and abrupt changes to schedules are deeply unsettling for the autistic person.
Avoid the temptation to tease, taunt, or troll the person. Also avoid being sarcastic or aggressively angry towards him. This is very important. One slip will destroy much hard-earned trust.
Try not to presume cruel or careless intent on behalf of the person. In the event that he has spoken rudely or acted offensively, try to discuss this with him privately as a caring friend, and explain why his behavior was unacceptable. If he responds with confusion, you may also need to tell him how to respond in a more appropriate manner. If he responds with anger, you may not have yet developed sufficient standing with him.
If you can gain sufficient trust and rapport with an autistic person, you may be intrigued to discover some of his unique and useful insights on specific people, the social behaviors of normal people, and the world in general.
If a lady can learn to respect the ‘outer man’, and love the ‘inner boy’ of the man in her life, she stands a good chance of keeping his heart indefinitely.
Readership: Pink Pilled Women in a heterosexual relationship
After one of my classes this past week, I had an insightful discussion with one of my students. I would describe her as very bright, but insipidly garrulous, annoyingly outspoken, and having some strong, underlying feminist sympathies which she is apparently unaware of. However, she is not an outspoken SJW type.
She told me about her boyfriend back in her home country, and that she is expecting to get married to him after she graduated with her M.B.A. She is 23, and he is 27, and he is already established in a fairly high-paying, white collar career.
Overall, she was happy and enthusiastic about getting married. She said her fiancée loved her very much, but she didn’t love him quite as much as he did. I told her that it’s not such a big deal if she isn’t crazy about him, but what is really important is that she truly and deeply respects him. I told her that if she respects him in an authentic manner, then her feelings of love will grow over time, and so will his for her.
I was happy that she was marrying young, instead of choosing the careerist shrike path in life, and I wanted to push her further in this direction, knowing that it would likely lead to her greater happiness. I decided not to touch on the obvious issue of her materialistic motivations in marrying him. I wanted her to listen to me, and take my words seriously. If I labeled her as a gold-digger, it would only offend her and push her away.
I asked her why she didn’t love him very much. She had one main complaint about her boyfriend. She said,
“Sometimes he acts so immature, like a little boy!”
She found this trait to be so ridiculous and annoying, and she talked at some length about how much trouble it is for her to deal with this trait, and the disappointment she feels as a consequence.
After she said this, I recognized that this is a complaint that most women commonly impute on men – that all men have a ‘stupid, selfish little boy’ hiding inside them. Women usually label this incorrectly as ‘immaturity’. It is a misnomer because they are not referring to genuine immaturity, in which a man refuses to get a job and take responsibility for his life, or when he avoids dealing with his problems and blames other people instead, etc. No, they are referring to the way females regard the emotional nature of fully mature men to be as idyllic boys.
Going back to the conversation I had with my student, I told her exactly how it is with men.
“Lena, all men have this ‘little boy’ inside them. It is not a mark of immaturity. It is an aspect of being human. It is not something he will ever ‘grow out of’, so to speak. He will always have that little boy inside of him, because that’s who he really is, in an emotional and spiritual sense. But men only reveal this side of themselves to those people they are closest to, the people they truly love and trust.”
“If your boyfriend is showing you his ‘little boy’, then that means he is being completely open and transparent with you. He is showing you every emotional nuance and need within his heart. For a man, this behavior is a form of emotional vulnerability that is rarely seen because it is a deviation from the male code of conduct. To do this, a man has to put away his social image of masculinity, and that makes it the ultimate act of trust in you. I don’t need to tell you that trust is the central and most important element of any kind of relationship.”
“My point here is this – if you ridicule or embarrass him for showing that ‘boyishness’, he will recoil in self-defense. And if you do that a number of times, then he will never love or trust you again.”
“So my advice to you is this – and I hope you will listen to me very carefully and take this to heart – if you choose to marry this man, then you need to love that inner boy, and respect that outer man. You must do both. If you can do this, you will have a very happy marriage. But if you do not do this, you will have a very miserable one. Please listen to me here, and never forget this.”
Now, I know her fiancée probably has his own Blue Pill problems with oneitis, pussy pedestalization, etc., and he probably has some blind white knighting going on as well. But I can’t make the decision for them to get married or not. All I can do is make them aware of what they’re getting into, and what will be required of them.
I do think she took my words to heart, so I just have to trust that this young couple will grow into their new roles as husband and wife, as men and women have done since the beginning. I also tend to believe that getting married, as risky as it may be, is probably a better choice than postponing marriage, or not marrying at all.
Men need to help women accept difficult truths, develop faith in Christ, and find the beauty of life.
Readership: All
In a previous post about “wife moulding”, J.T. Anderson has stipulated that women need to be “sculpted into excellence”, meaning that negative qualities and attributes need to be “chipped away” in order to reveal the inner person created by God.
The Artist and His Model (ca. 1890-93), by Jean-Leon Gerome (1824-1904)
But whatexactly needs to be taken away?
“And youshall know thetruth, and thetruthshall make youfree.” ~ John 8:32
There is a relationship between truth, and freedom.
Freedom in Christ means that the believer is relieved from the encumbrances of sin: self-deception, denial (e.g. psychological projection), inner division, and psychological dissociation (AKA ‘hamstering’).
Freedom in Christ means that one is free from one’s own infelicities of disloyalty, ambition, selfishness, fear, avarice, greed, envy… enslavements that, without Christ, would alienate one from God and others.
Freedom in Christ means that one is able to experience the power of ‘worldly’ passions and desires, but is not compelled to yield to the invitation of temptations.
Thus, Freedom in Christ allows the believer the ability of willing, choosing, and deciding, but these are all under the conditions of finite freedom. There are certain things that could be chosen, that could possibly render one, or others, back under the auspicious oppression of sin.
So to answer the original question, the things that need to be “chipped away” could be any of the following.
Her ignorance surrounding the difference between the world’s pseudo-ethical system, and the spiritual truths of God’s Kingdom.
Lies resulting from her Feminist conditioning. For example, her belief that men and women are not different, but ‘equal’.
Her many false notions concerning her expectations of reality.
Voluminous inaccuracies about her own self-concept and worth. For example, accepting the worth of her substance, contribution and influence as a woman, and how it changes as she ages.
Her refusal to face her strengths and weaknesses, and take responsibility for them.
Her fundamental misgivings about the benefits of having self-centered bad habits and attitudes.
Many others…
Here, I’ll offer an analogy of finding Freedom in Christ. Believing in the truth is like learning to ride a bicycle. Once you learn to balance the bicycle by steering, it’s a skill that you always retain throughout life. Likewise, once you’ve seen the truth and learned to trust God, it’s hard to deny the resulting revelations of God’s blessings: peace, joy, love, and the other fruits of the spirit. (Satan has his own distorted version of “truth” as well, accompanied by certain “liberties”, and if one were to delve into that dark realm to a sufficient degree, it would be hard for one to then have an accurate view of God’s truth, and see it for what it truly is.)
So in summary, men, especially fathers, need to do what they can to strip away the false concepts, poor attitudes, and bad habits, from the females in their care; all that would prevent her from learning to ride the bicycle of faith, discovering her Freedom in Christ, and experiencing the joys and blessings thereof.
Image credit: The Haggin Museum: The Artist and His Model (ca. 1890-93), by Jean-Leon Gerome (1824-1904)
A little story about my Dad’s fight against Intersectional Feminism in his career.
Readership: All
The Competition for the Corner Office
My father worked for the same company for 45 years. During that time, he had several promotions, and he was also passed over for several promotions as well. As it happened, many times the management chose to give out promotions based on affirmative action, and not because of ability, which predictably resulted in the position being given to many single moms, gay blacks, and other minorities with poor language and social skills.
Every time my father was passed over for someone of lesser ability, he argued with the management about why he was a better choice. In response, the management pleaded with him to ‘play ball’, and to be more considerate to those in need. In other words, they gave out promotions based on who needed the dignity and extra income the most, and not on how much more professionalism or profit that person might bring to the company. Surprisingly, this company grew to be the leading company in its field during my Dad’s career.
The discrimination that Dad experienced wasn’t just because of the middle management. No, this discrimination was institutionalized. The company my father worked for is one of 107 major employers that are signatories on Human Rights Campaign’s Business Coalition for the Equality Act. It is also one of 609 major businesses (spanning nearly every industry and geographic location) that earned a top score of 100 percent and the distinction of “Best Places to Work for QTBGL Equality”.
But my dad could never claim to be a victim of discrimination, because he was an intelligent, white, protestant, middle-class, married man with a family – all the wrong types of intersectional lowerarchy.
The Hypocrisy of Intersectional Hierarchy
As you well know, most companies brandish a similar version of the following disclaimer somewhere on their websites, claiming that they do not tolerate discrimination.
“The United States Government does not discriminate in employment on the basis of race, color, religion, sex (including pregnancy and gender identity), national origin, political affiliation, sexual orientation, marital status, disability, genetic information, age, membership in an employee organization, retaliation, parental status, military service, or other non-merit factor.”
These companies say that they do not discriminate on age, sex, race, gender orientation, etc., but in fact, they do! The discrimination takes the form of favoring those people who belong to the same ‘intersectional hierarchy’ proscribed by Fourth Wave Feminism, and rejecting those who are white, married, qualified, and professional. I am sure this is not the first time you’ve seen this pointed out.
Obviously, my Dad’s company prides itself for ‘equality’ and ‘diversity’, but there is still a lot of discrimination. The discrimination is against competent, white, protestant males.
But this hypocritical ‘equality’ and ‘diversity’ trope only applies to the masses. It doesn’t apply to the executive board and top-tier management. At that level, the old merit system (and cronyism) is still in effect. This brings me to the next topic.
Promoted to a Position of Incompetence
My father had another observation about how promotions are handled. He noticed that people would get promotion after promotion, until they attained a position which was obviously above their capability, such that they were unable to perform well, nor feel confident about their work. Then, they would stay in that position indefinitely, because they were unable to impress their managers that they were able to handle any more responsibility. In addition to the losses incurred through their mismanagement, those employees under their management also suffered as a result of their poor performance.
So here is where the merit system kicks in – when the person is so obviously incompetent for the job, that, if not for the ‘non-discrimination’ policies in place, that person would face a dismissal.
My father’s proposed solution to this phenomenon was practical, clear and obvious – once a person has been promoted to a position of incompetence, and it becomes clear that they are unable to perform at a higher level, then they should be demoted to their previous position of competence, but should remain at the higher pay level. After this, an equivalent ‘promotion’ should be awarded by regular salary increases, instead of moving them up to a totally different kind of job.
But you know, as wise as my Dad was, no one ever listened to his ideas. Most people wanted my Dad out of the picture. When he retired, he had to go six rungs up the management ladder, well into the upper levels of administration, and then ‘go ballistic’ before he found a manager who would agree to grant him the pension benefits outlined in his contract – what he signed on for when he joined the company in 1965.
You would think that after so many years of service to this company, his life’s career, that he would be treated better. But even though Dad’s employment contract didn’t change, the American social contract did. There isn’t any social contract between corporations and employees anymore. This happened to my Dad, who is a late member of the Silent Generation. The Boomer Generation is going to discover this same absence of a social contract very soon (and social security too), and on a much larger scale.
Women are naturally drawn to create emotional responses in others. Will they choose to use this skill for the good of their relationships, or for their own destructive, egotistical self-centeredness?
Readership: All
Why do women incite others to emote?
It is well known that men are rational, and women are emotional. Just as men prefer to deal with issues using reason and logic, women prefer to deal with life from an emotional standpoint. Women prefer to deal with things on an emotional level, because this is an arena where they are most comfortable. The world of emotions is also where women can wield their feminine powers most dexterously.
As such, women are naturally and powerfully drawn to gossip, drama, and controversy. They take an extreme interest in children, who emote readily and easily, in family feuds, and in troubled individuals who are wrestling with complicated emotions. They get a sense of power when they can influence these situations, and, depending on the particular woman, it matters very little whether that influence is positive or negative. They are too focused on the emotional exchange, and the associated power play, to ever consider the long range outcome of their influence.
A woman does want to continuously elicit emotions out of her man. Women need emotional investment from men to feel cherished and valued. Women say that a man’s display of emotion proves to her that he wants her and is willing to be involved in her (emotional) life. Women are continually plagued with doubts about how much the man really loves them. Women are deeply unsettled by this doubt, and are uncomfortable with feeling this way. But it is a need within them that comes to the surface occasionally, and when it does, they need to know that they are loved, secure, and protected. To satisfy this need, women will be happy with getting any emotion out of their man (even anger) rather than silence. Shit testing, jealousy games, pointless arguments, baiting tactics, among many other methods, are all ways in which women do this.
[Eds. note: Some Red Pill theory stands at odds with the above claims from women. So these claims might be interpreted as a rationalized explanation for women’s felt need to incite emoting from men.]
If there are no emotions at hand, then they will do what they can to stimulate or incite an emotional response from others. Women have an aspect of their nature that drives them to incite others to emote. This drive is so powerful, that women will become quite confrontational and provocative in their efforts to transform the social interaction into an emotional one.
Problems that women face in their elicitation of men’s emotions
Women want to create and observe emotions from men, primarily as a means to connect with him in a way that is meaningful to her. But from the men’s point of view, they just hate it when the emotional response she is pecking at is always something negative, like jealousy, anger, frustration, etc. If a woman continues to carry this habit over the long term, it can really undermine the man’s good will toward her, and he will eventually grow to regard her as a nuisance to be avoided. Women don’t seem to realize that if she is always creating negative emotions, then the man will eventually wise up and shut her out. Instead, men want their woman to create more positive emotions in the relationship.
When a man gets to the point where he has to shut her out, in order to maintain his own peace of mind, men usually take the approach of offering no emotional response. This can be expected, because, for a man, too many ups and downs will cause emotional fatigue. He begins to see the cycle, and then writes it off as static nonsense. Then, when women realize that they are no longer being taken seriously by the man, they become disgusted and angered. This is because, not only do they feel powerless to influence the situation, but they also feel like he is apathetic towards them, and apathy is interpreted as the opposite of love. This is largely why women are attracted to troubled, dysfunctional men, and also why a lot of men who remain passively ‘nice’, calm, and reasonable get kicked to the curb, and possibly cuckolded out of spite. In short, too much drama brings a bad, long term outcome.
So, the main problem that women face is being caught in a dilemma between (1) being an attractive, sweet, respectful, kindhearted woman that a man would actually want to keep around, and (2) settling their own uncertainties (through shit testing, etc.) as to whether she wants to continue being around this particular man. It’s kind of like a push-pull game. It gets more complicated because both of these two extremes have their own unique sets of conundrums (too much to write here). Anyhow, women expect men to do the work of keeping the balance between these two extremes by flexing a dominant pimp hand. Hence, the stereotypical attraction for bad boys and AMOG’s.
Another problem that women face is that men prize having a masculine constitution at all times, and therefore scorn emotional expressions as weak beta faggotry. The code of conduct among males never allows a man to display fear, worry, or indecisiveness, much less any display of gushy verbal dribble. Any man who does so will immediately lose respect among his contemporaries. Ironically, many men also consider it to be inconsiderate to show their anger, lust, aggression, drive, or ambition around females. This belief could have been inculcated into men at a formative age, through their mother’s or teacher’s expectations for them to act in a Chivalrous manner.
The previous section should serve as a warning to ladies. In summary, men hate what they consider to be useless emoting for no rational purpose. Every single time a woman shit tests a man and forces him to emote, and he knows it’s just to pamper her own self-esteem and lack of faith, it takes him one more step towards thinking, ”Do I Really Need This Shit?”
So why doesn’t a woman emotionally test a man by initiating affection instead of initiating nagging or bitchiness? He’d have to be pretty cold to reject affection. Why not just ask for a hug? Or give him a kiss? Or speak plainly about your thoughts and feelings. All these types of approaches will build your relationship because he will know that you feel safe with him, and it will make him feel wanted and respected by you. Try to consider what you could do that would give him a positive emotional impression of you.
[Eds. note: These last two paragraphs should be memorized by young women, and used as a rule of thumb to govern their motivations and behavior in their efforts to elicit emotions out of others, especially men.]
But why don’t women take the positive path towards emoting their men?
Probably because in their mind it is easier to do things that make him mad, than to do things that please him. It’s dangerously easy for women to take the negative emotion route, and this is because it’s dramatically effective in the short term towards getting an immediate emotional payoff in response.
The positive approach does the opposite, but this requires a lot more thought, work, consideration, and effort out of her. Also, the payoff is long term, and not dramatically immediate. It would be an enormous benefit for women to take the long view, and accept the extra intensive labor involved as an investment in their future happiness. But too many women neglect this opportunity, while most other women remain ignorant of this.
There are some women who really understand that men’s opinions of them are affected by whether their emotional contribution is either positive or negative. Women who understand this, will purposely elicit positive emotions in order to obtain favorable responses from a guy.
Faithfulness Maintains the Balance
Women will say that a man being emotionally unresponsive, or ignoring her, is the best method to lose a woman. But Red Pilled men will say that being emotionally unresponsive, or ignoring her, is the best method to teach a woman. That’s quite a difference of opinion, and so the level of faith, commitment and emotional investment would make a huge difference in which of these two perspectives would actually play out to be the real case in any particular relationship interaction.
It should be intuitively clear to the reader that faith and trust are central elements of a successful relationship. I believe faith and commitment are the answers to the women’s questions of uncertainty. Yet many women continue to shit test, etc., and force men to emote, long after marriage, which obviously is a lack of faith. I mean, he’s living with her, paying all her bills, fixing all her stuff, sleeping with her every night and dishing out regular passionate orgasms… He has given up all opportunities to lay other women, just to be with her in a proper relationship. Once a woman proves herself worthy of his commitment, and he has chosen her, the book is closed in his mind. There is no going back. No reconsideration. Period. Forever. He knows his decision. This is how most men are, concerning marriage. All the evidence to believe that he loves her is there, yet, it still isn’t clear to her that he is in for the long haul. That is why I say that shit tests and forced emoting are evidence of a lack of faith.
Ladies should be warned that this lack of faith and trust, evidenced by continual shit tests and forced emoting, will start rocking the boat, and if continued unchecked, the relationship will eventually capsize. This problem is greatly exacerbated when women who cannot elicit sufficient emoting to their satisfaction from their men, then turn to their sons, neighbors, and other men in their search for an emotional response to confirm their status. Moreover, women who go overboard with the shit testing and forced emoting signal themselves as faithless, low-class, unworthy partners.
The Almighty made humans (not only women) with two natures, and then gave us the choice of which one to conform to. The feral, ‘flesh’ nature, or the regenerated identity in Christ which acts out of faith.
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment such as braided hair or gold jewelry or fine clothes, but from the inner disposition of your heart, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in God’s sight. For this is how the holy women of the past adorned themselves. They put their hope in God and were subject to their husbands, just as Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him lord. You are her children if you do what is right and refuse to quiver in fear.” ~ 1 Peter 3:3-6 (NKJV)
Every woman has the penchant to rebel from their lawful male authority and it started with Eve. The answer is quite straightforward, but difficult to apply. Women need to face the fact that their insecurities and doubts cause trouble in their relationship, and learn to counteract their natural tendencies.
In other words, women should learn to develop a sense of self-awareness and exercise their personal moral agency. If a woman knows this, then she can address it whenever these feelings come up.
Conclusions
A man and a woman in conjugal union should share the same heart and mind, and be pulling in the same direction. Regardless of how high a level of commitment is shown by the man, the partnership is doomed if one partner is constantly dramatizing, and creating emotional tension and uncertainty, just for the sake of nursing their own faithless doubts and insecurities.
Another thing to consider is this. The older a woman gets, the easier it will be for a man to give up on her and leave, whenever the woman cannot control herself, especially when the negative emoting reaches epic proportions. But it’s a lot harder for a man to justify leaving when his woman is faithful, emotionally mature, spiritually secure, and passionately affectionate towards him.
The choice is pretty simple. A woman can either (1) support the man she chooses, make him emote positive emotions, and he’ll cherish her for life, or (2) shit test him and tear him down with negative emoting, which will make either him or her eventually leave.
If you are a woman reading this, then carefully consider the results of both paths. This is the empowerment that ladies have.
Commenter Opal offers a hamsterbated excuse for why women wear makeup. SF reveals the men’s point of view.
Readership: Discerning Men
Cindy Crawford, without (left), and with (right) makeup.
Recently, I came across this query on Quora: Do men prefer women without makeup and with long hair? The answer should be intuitive, but with the current widespread corruption of beauty standards, apparently it’s not.
‘Opal Smith’ wrote the top answer, with 169 upvoters (all women, except for five White Knights, including one g@y, one Muslim, and one musician). She writes,
“It’s funny that so many men say this. It’s for a few reasons.”
No, it’s not funny, and there is just one reason, really. The reason men prefer their steaks rare is so they don’t waste their time and emotional energy getting aroused by a woman who is actually not all that great. Maybelline doesn’t make a woman any more nubile nor respectful, nor does it improve the gene pool of potential children.
“Men dislike high maintenance women because they think they’re selfish, when in fact, they just care about their appearance and love themselves. They see this as vanity when it’s just self love.”
This woman thinks ‘high maintenance’ means spending an hour to dress up her cake face. Heh… If she can’t understand what men really mean by ‘high maintenance’ then it’s definitely vanity. She should improve her posture. Moving on…
“Second, Men forget that women enjoy makeup and doing their hair. Looking our best makes us confident (not everybody enjoys it but quite a few women do).”
Confident – not because she’s truly beautiful, but because she can look better than she does without artistic fanfare, and possibly even better than her friends do – from a distance – all to bask in the limelight of attention. After all, popularity breeds contentment!
“The other issue is that men have no idea whatsoever what natural is and isn’t. Natural is uneven skin tones, dark circles, spots and sparse eyebrows that might need a tiny bit of filling in. Natural hair is plain one dimensional brown.”
That first sentence was, well… blonde, but the rest is exact! Those blotches, bags, and pockmarks tell us how many years she’s been drunk and DTF. But if she takes care of herself, there should be an absence of tribological clamshell fatigue striations, leading to a premature freak rupture at some unpredictable point in the future. You can paint over the cracks, but it won’t remove the flaws.
If possible, men would conduct a non-destructive evaluation to test for cumulative damage, such as beachmarks and striations, shown in the figure below. [I trust the analogies and puns are clear.]
Continuing on…
“Natural in mens eyes is brown mascara, light eyeshadow, slightly tinted brows and bronzer lightly applied. They think natural hair is a nice chestnut with a little bit of a lighter brown highlight. They don’t know what’s natural and think they’re being nice, but they’re actually negging you on some level by doing this.”
She has the idea that ‘natural’ is a style of makeup application. She must look pretty – pretty bad! A mere highlight is conservative in her view! No wonder she gets negged. And she’s ‘known’ a few PUA’s, or else she wouldn’t know what a neg is called.
“If a man asks you to intentionally be less confident, less happy and put less effort into your appearance, it’s a way to keep you ‘his’, and so that he is less worried about others looking at you. I see it as a strange thing. Would you ever tell a guy ‘oh stop shaving/washing your face/wearing cologne’ because it’s not ‘natural’?’’
In thinking that guys are worried about ‘keeping her’, she’s projecting her insecurities onto men. And women are known for dressing down their man, so they can feel less insecure. (Men should never take ‘fashion advice’ from a woman!) So that last line of reasoning is also projection.
“In extremes, makeup can look bad. But most guys saying they like ‘natural’ girls are full of it.”
She’s dismissing the argument because she can’t compete without a buff coat. It’s long past time for her to develop some inner beauty, if possible.
Then she offers these photos as an example.
While I will admit it is less glamorous, I feel the presentation on the left is more befitting of ‘wife material’. Opal comments,
“A prime example of natural makeup vs. no makeup. A guy who says he likes ‘natural’ girls will still go for the girl in the right. Because she’s highlighting features without being too bold or making it look like she’s wearing a lot of makeup.”
No Opal, this photograph is a prime example of a (slightly) past prime lady, which fits your case.
My readers should notice that ‘the girl in the right‘ is a Freudian slip, revealing her true Feminist preference for drag.
Even in the case she offers, a guy who says he likes ‘natural’ girls will still go for the girl on the right, but not because she looks better wearing makeup, but because she’s more likely to move fast. Whereas, a guy who’s seriously interested in a LTR will take his time to know someone looking like the girl on the left, because she’s not an attention whoring clownface.
FYI, here’s what guys mean by ‘all natural’. In case you’ve missed it, there’s a bit of youthful innocence involved. Guy’s want to see the healthy ‘glow’, and makeup only hides that.
“Do you ever watch Survivor? Everyone on that show looks better ‘au naturel’, here’s the most painful example, Amanda Kimmel, who goes from flawless and unique [on the left], to common and forgettable [with makeup]. Makeup is an attempt to hide reality with a lie. What lie could ever be attractive?”
To answer Adam’s question, there are cases when lies are more attractive. For instance, if you happen to look like this lady below, please go to your vanity chest – NOW. We will forgive you.
President Donald Trump has an iconic, hard gaze that we see very often.
This look is not one of icy hate or bitterness, as many liberals like to imagine. It is a look of determined Frame. Nothing goes past him without getting filtered through his world view.
He holds this expression whenever he is listening intently, or speaking his mind.
Trump never makes the mistake of using second person ‘you’ while holding this expression. To do so would be granting authority to the person spoken to, and would be a descent into contempt. If he does use second person, it is to put his finger on a specific motive or behavior, to make it clear that it is unacceptable and needs to be improved.
It is not a cold, heartless look. Underlying the tough as nails exterior, there is always confidence and a glimmer of hope in his eye. There is dignity and self control.
But Trump is not the only man who ever wore this look.
Put aside your political biases for a moment, and just consider Trump’s Russian contemporary, Vladimir Putin, as a red blooded man.
Putin rose to power through the Russian KGB, so we know he’s got to be one h&ll of a SOB Alpha male with a capital iron ‘A’. He also carries this steely eyed gaze.
We often find that men who have this look are labeled ‘sexist’ and ‘misogynist’. A fair translation of this femtalk would be, ‘raw, masculine power’, and of course, we know that’s ‘toxic’ to those ugly, low T underlings who seek to flex their own flab.
This is Richard Branson, the founder of the Virgin group, Virgin Atlantic, Virgin Records, etc. It’s a small wonder that he has never had a sexism charged placed against him merely by virtue of his company name. Look, he has the same look as Trump does.
Look how Branson is objectifying this poor woman! That’s some serious ‘sexism’ right there!
Well, when you’re a British Knight who’s worth 5.1 Billion, the possibility of a spurious #metoo reverse-sexual harassment is significant, except it doesn’t matter, because 5.1 Billion could cover more than 5,000 million dollar settlements. To put that into context, that’s more than a hundred gold diggers a year for 50 years. H&ll, he could pay off any one claim with pocket change! But seriously, Sir Branson has never had any #metoo accusations. Is it because he’s never been close to a woman? Heh… It’s probably because he’s a world class alpha male, with an SMV in the triple digit range.
But the Trump look is not limited to politics and business. Many of those ‘old school’ movie stars have the same appearance. Here’s Chuck Norris.
An outspoken Christian, Norris is the author of several Christian-themed books, such as The Justice Riders. His subject matter varies from martial arts, exercise, philosophy, politics, Christian religion, western novels, to biography. He was twice a New York Times best-selling author. Also in 2006, Norris began penning a column for the news website WorldNetDaily, sharing his views on politics, American social issues, sports, and health.
He has also been in a few TV commercials promoting Bible study and prayer in public schools, in addition to efforts to reduce drug use. In his WorldNetDaily columns, he has expressed his belief in Biblical creationism, that those who are troubled should turn to Jesus, and is quoted as saying ‘true patriots’ do not stay clear of discussing religion and politics.
Speaking of Patriots, Mel Gibson has been noted for having Kamikazi eyes, combined with the deranged, ‘bite your head off’ Jack Nicklaus grin. This is the warpath version of the Trump Look, which men develop when they’re marching off to conquer massive onslaughts of teeming whoards of poon. This picture was taken shortly after he made the news for making ‘anti-semitic’ comments. Obviously, he was quite proud of himself.
And here’s another movie hero who dominated politics later in life, much like Ronald Reagan did.
Schwarzenegger began weight training at the age of 15. He won the Mr. Universe title at age 20 and went on to win the Mr. Olympia contest seven times! He was said to have the most perfect body in bodybuilding history. Not only his muscular structure, but even the veins in his arms and legs were symmetrical!
After he became the Governator, he cleaned up Californian politics quite nicely. How can you trim the budget when you can’t even trim the fat off of your own @$$???
Another star, and one of my favorites, is Clint Eastwood.
Eastwood singlehandedly made the Trump look famous, even while Trump was a philandering, young business tycoon. And he clenches that cigar just as straight as his Winchester (and probably something else too).
Sir Winston Churchill, largely credited for saving Britain from Nazi Germany during World War Two, also carries the Trump look. This is the look of a man who stands up to Hitler and says,
“I am fond of pigs. Dogs look up to us. Cats look down on us. Pigs treat us as equals.”
Going back even further, we find that the Trump look has been around for quite a while.
President Theodore Roosevelt, famous for his phrase, “Get action!” had the Trump look, and beamed it through spectacles, no less. This is the President who transformed the U.S. from being a backwoods hick country, recovering from the civil war, to a major world power. He built the navy to be the largest in the world during his presidency, and paraded it around the world. He took Cuba and the Philippines back from Spain. He was also famous for his big game hunting safaris in Africa.
Can females wear the Trump look? The female actor in the Neo-Bond film, John Wick, also shows this look. But somehow, it just doesn’t work for women. The impression is there, but somehow, it’s just inappropriate – not conducive to the feminine enticement to breed.
Moral of the story: More men, and fewer women, need to develop the Trump look.
