If a woman had the hots for you, would you even know it?
Readership: Single men;
Out of all the discussion of Scott’s post, Probabilities (2020-2-24), it has become evident that a man’s ability to detect and read female IOI’s is a crucial factor in determining his socio-sexual life trajectory.
Comprehensively, an IOI is anything that uniquely reveals her humility and heart-trust towards you, which are absolutely essential to establish a stable, meaningful relationship. Women feel vulnerable in this state, so they tend to think they have made their interest clear. But in fact, men are generally obtusely inept at detecting this emotional-spiritual state.
This information has been sparsely covered in the secular Manosphere, and virtually untouched in the Christian ‘sphere (to my present knowledge). So here’s a list of female IOI’s to watch out for, broken down by category.
- Acting extraordinarily clumsy, silly, or stupid, especially if she’s laughing at herself for being that way.
- Laughing or giggling (genuinely) at little things that no one else is laughing about, especially things you do or say.
- Glorification – Others may notice that she has changed as a result of being with you. If so, someone might say she’s a different person around you, or something to that effect.
- She feels embarrassed to talk to others about how she feels about you.
- Dilated pupils.
- Extended eye contact (more than 3-5 seconds). If she’s talking to you directly, the timeframe for an IOI is extended to 6-10 seconds.
- Eye contact combined with a warm smile.
- Frequent Gaze – In a public setting, you catch her staring at you from across the room more than 2-3 times within half an hour.
- Looking at you with a gaping mouth.
- S1ut Eye™ – Wide eyed, and looking like a deer in the headlights. Be sure to verify that she only looks at you this way, and not at every guy with a SMV higher than her own.
- Staring – She can’t take her eyes off of you.
Non-Verbal Communication (AKA Body Language)
- Animated antics when interacting with you, especially twisting her body in a rhythmic fashion, jumping or skipping, or lifting her hands above her head.
- Anxiously smoothing or straightening her clothing, or checking her hair and makeup, as if preparing herself to meet you.
- Loosening or unbuttoning her collar.
- Mindlessly stroking or playing with her necklace or other accessories.
- She eagerly takes advantage of an opportunity to hug you.
- She attempts to communicate with you using hand movements and/or facial expressions. (BTW, if you can’t understand it, just make some weird gesture back. Don’t ignore it or let yourself appear confused.)
- Stroking or massaging her body in an amused or nervous fashion.
- In east Asia, if a woman strokes a man’s lower leg with her foot, she’s inviting him to have a sexual relationship.
Physical IOI’s (Position, Posture, or Habits)
- Her toes point towards you when she’s standing near you.
- Her knees point towards you when she’s sitting near you.
- Her shoulders are squarely facing you.
- She moves her hands excitedly whenever she’s talking with you.
- Open body posture – She shows the palms of the hands, the inside of the wrists and lower arms.
- Flushed or reddened face, neck, or upper chest area.
- She assumes a military posture while in your presence.
- Playfully or nervously touching her hair, face, or neck.
- Breathing patterns change, either deeply, erratically, or she exhibits shortness of breath.
- Increased pulse rate. You can feel this if you have the chance to hold her wrist, or put your forearm around her neck.
- Touching your body casually – brushing against you while passing, sitting next to you with body contact, etc.
- Touching your body intentionally, especially your arms, chest, shoulders or head.
- Soon after meeting you, she starts paying more attention to her appearance, e.g. getting her hair done, wearing makeup, buying new clothes, dressing more attractively, etc.
- Chewing food with her mouth open when she’s sitting near a guy she likes at a restaurant. (To make sure she’s not an uncultured, low-IQ cow, watch how she behaves when he is not around, or ask her friends if she usually has this habit.)
- Deviating from her schedule to spend (more) time with you. Leaving work early; staying up late.
- Going out of her way to interact with you, like crossing the street, or breaking away from her circle of friends.
- Losing her train of thought while talking to you, especially mid-sentence.
- Sitting near you when given a choice of sitting elsewhere.
- Unnecessary or exaggerated acts of kindness. For example, giving you a gift out of the blue; Serving you a drink on her own initiative.
- Asking for help – Example: “Would you help me move some furniture?” or “Would you come help me bring the tea into the living room?”
- Coded Speech – She says something that has a double meaning. This falls under plausible deniability, but if she does it frequently, it’s an IOI.
- Freudian Slips (AKA parapraxis) – Casually and innocently using a word which sounds similar to the word intended, but which reveals her deeper psyche. For example, she says, “I’m twenty-sex years old… I mean, twenty-six.” Or “Would you like to go over me again?” (Using “me” instead of “it”.)
- Loaded Language – Rhetoric used to influence an audience by using words and phrases with strong connotations associated with them in order to invoke an emotional response and/or exploit stereotypes. For example, saying your name or the pronoun “you” in a drawn out, emotionally flighty, or flattering way. Or if she says “It’s sooo hot in here!” it could be an IOI.
- Nicknames – Using terms of endearment, especially pet names or flattering nicknames.
- Pointed Suggestions – Example: “I like to play tennis. Maybe you should try playing tennis (with me) sometime.”
- Secret Language – She says something that either implies something else or has an esoteric meaning known only to you, which usually brings to mind an earlier conversation or interaction you had together.
- Subliminal Speech – A language of the heart that is extremely rare and hard to explain. Only very intelligent and sophisticated women do this. I’ve never seen it described anywhere.
- Suggestive Innuendos – Examples: “Maybe I’ll see you there!” or “If you need anything, I’m just a phone call away!”
- Word Semantics – Playing with fuzzy semantics to form suggestive euphemisms. A woman will often do this to test your intelligence, your level of experience, and your awareness. For example, she just spilled her drink all over her dress. Instead of saying, I need to go clean up, etc., she says, “I need to take this dress off.”
Tips for Detecting and Reading IOI’s
- Watch for IOI’s using your peripheral vision.
- Be aware of when you can feel the weight of her stare.
- The best IOI’s from the best quality women are given when she’s unaware of sending you an IOI.
- No one woman will show all of these IOI’s. Her personality determines which set of IOI’s she displays. Extroverted personalities will be more expressive and animated, while introverted ladies will show IOI’s indicating her amusement.
- Her psychological state also has an impact. For example, if she’s sad or depressed, then IOI’s will be curtailed. Also of note, women who are intoxicated will show IOI’s more freely and be less discriminating in who they show them to.
- IOI’s that are blatantly obvious should be interpreted as a red flag. For example, I worked at a summer camp when I was in college. On one occasion, the head cook (40-ish and married) asked me to accompany her to deliver some food. On the way back, she casually asked me, “Wanna climb in the back of the truck and ride me?” I laughed it off as a joke. She was probably just checking her own SMV, but I’m sure she was half-serious.
Tips for making yourself more likely to Receive and Detect IOI’s
These achievements alone will do miracles for your ability to detect IOI’s.
- Learn to be heart-led. Don’t get lost in the vanity of your mind.
- Develop your spiritual discernment and wisdom to know what’s going on around you.
- Be consciously aware of your desire. Accept it as a part of your nature.
- Become comfortable with your body and appearance. Dress better if necessary.
- Love yourself (and her) enough to act with grace and dignity.
- Value yourself enough not to chase after low hanging fruit.
- Respect yourself enough not to waste your time pursuing any woman who is married, or who isn’t giving you clear IOI’s from the get go.
- Trust God with yourself (i.e. your sexual nature). Don’t kill opportunities before they appear.
Note: I may edit or add to this list in the future.
- Σ Frame: List of Slut Tells (2017-10-15)