The core essence of Game is charisma, discernment, and setting boundaries.
In a previous post on Σ Frame, On the Spiritual Significance and Social Value of Game (2019 November 3), I made the point that Game is not necessarily an anti-Christian behavior. It’s only anti-Christian when it’s used to seduce women for illicit sex and STR’s. On the contrary, Charismatic Gamesmanship may very well be the main thing that keeps a rocky marriage together during a rough patch, and it’s very common for marriages to be rough during the first five years.
Granted, this type of Game is different from typical PUA Game. We might call it ‘Father Game’, or ‘Young Husband Game’. The motives are to protect the girl’s vulnerabilities of her immature naïvety from any Satanic attacks of indignant dissatisfaction and the plunder of PUA types. Some future discussion may be necessary to further define ‘Shepherd Game’.
Looking Glass wisely writes [emphasis mine],
“The crux is of the issue that Cane [Caldo] was having is that Feminism, Chivalry, and Game act as semi-understandable “poles” within the discussion frame, which radically limits the ability to hone into the problem. This is why the undermining of language has been so important, as the inability to properly define a topic makes it fiendishly difficult to explain the problems with it. For the Christian, we are to *be* different, which should result in us acting different. This entire long discussion has simply been sorting through the definition issue, thus opening our eyes to the truth.”
To further this discussion, here I want to point out something that has been roundly neglected in the definitions and discussions of Game.
The backbone of solid Game is charisma combined with a steady maintenance of healthy socio-spiritual boundaries (AKA “detachment”). Everything else about Game can be summed up as a technique, a strategy, or an asset.
If a man doesn’t have charisma and boundaries, but he’s relying on assets and pressing hard on Game techniques and strategies, then he’s little more than a dancing monkey, as many have complained about how they feel when attempting to practice Game.
There has been some argument that Game only works for certain men, but not others. The real difference between men who are proficient at Game, and those who are lousy at it, is that the former are those men who have charisma and who are mindful of their personal boundaries, whereas the latter are those who do not. The question of whether a man can develop Game largely depends on whether he has, or can develop charisma and become aware of metaphysical boundaries. The answer to this question is not so clear, because discernment is required to maintain one’s boundaries, and charisma is a spiritual gift of the Holy Spirit.
Now, many readers might be wondering, if charisma is a spiritual gift of the Holy Spirit, then why is it that all these “charismatic” Game practitioners are using their “spiritual gift” to sin? If the result is fungible fornication, then how can it be a spiritual gift of the Holy Spirit? The answer is simply because God gives spiritual gifts to one man and not to another as He sees fit. It has nothing to do with Christianity, strength of faith, or belief in God. From what I can tell, having charisma isn’t connected to being a Christian any more than having blue eyes or having money in the bank is connected to being an American citizen.
I’m sure this news will come as a very uncomfortable truth for many Christian men. However, you can always pray for more discernment and more charisma. As the scriptures say,
“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.”James 1:5 (ESV)
It should be noted that discernment is a prerequisite for wisdom. So if you pray for wisdom, then your discernment will grow.
Here, I should caution men who pray for wisdom (discernment) and charisma. Once your discernment increases, you’ll suddenly become aware of many things that went on all around you which you were never aware of in the past. You’ll begin to sense what I call “vibes”, and you’ll detect IOI’s from more women. As a result, the temptation you’ll face will also be much stronger. So beware, it will be a shocker!
It will become unnecessary, even irrelevant, for a man to dig any deeper into the science of attraction if he can develop discernment, wisdom, and charisma, and learn to mind his boundaries.
- Σ Frame: On the Spiritual Significance and Social Value of Game (2019 November 3)
- Σ Frame: Why does Game work? (2019 December 9)