Simply waiting for a nebulous desire to happen won’t make it happen.
Readership: All; Men;
Theme: Redemptive Headship and Masculinity
Length: 1,000 words
Reading Time: 5 minutes
Autopilot — The Faux-Faith Default Setting
The Summary of Red Pill Redemption (2022-9-30) offered a list of the most noteworthy current issues that prevent men from finding redemption. (I had intended to organize this list into categories to see if anything more could be gleaned from it, but I haven’t had the time.)
Among these roadblocks are two of note…
11. Indecision and inaction concerning one’s purpose and place.
14. Failure to pursue a path towards Respect (as described in the last two posts). The paths to Respect that were identified include: (1) Developing Strength within one’s Domain of influence (e.g. Headship), (2) Pursuing a Calling / Purpose leading to the development of skills that are expressed through service, (3) Finding Honor / Reputation / Status through competition, courage, heroism, etc. (If possible, pursuing more than one path is better.)
There is another barricade related to these two obstructions that I need to mention, and this is to be added to the list.
In the comments, Bardelys the Magnificent wrote [emphasis mine],
“I also realized yesterday that I’ve never purposely pursued paths that lead to honor or respect. I just expected to do and it would happen.“
In the past, I’ve called this type of blind faith “running on autopilot”. The American philosopher Henry David Thoreau described this by saying, “The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation.” It is based on one being psychologically “transported” into an alternate fantasy world of one’s imagination, largely fueled by the dissonances between an unspecified desire and the drabness of daily reality. It contains a suspension of disbelief that is never explored nor tested for its truth content. It is the vanity of the mind that St. Paul describes as characteristic of unbelievers and urges us to abandon (Romans 12:2; Ephesians 4:17).
Most men are this way until something happens that shakes them out of their delusion and makes them realize that it is not enough. The fortunate men are those who get this realization early in life.
A man must employ the will in order to enact his faith, and he must make a series of decisions to work that faith into reality. Otherwise, his beliefs remain untested and his life remains unchanged.
Faith in Action in one area, Autopilot in another…
It is also possible to employ faith in some areas of one’s life, but not others.
I see this looking back at my own life. Here’s my own story about this.
When I was working as a welder in a Honda plant at the age of 22, I had this realization that, “I’m doing alright, making decent money… I like what I’m doing here… but I am capable of more. I can’t see myself working in a factory my whole life. God has something more for me in life. I’m a smart guy. I need to get an education for me to reach my potential.” I had no idea what that potential was at that time, but this vision led me to pull out all the stops that were holding me back from earning a degree.
Getting my bachelor’s was a tough haul that took 7 long years, but my Master’s was a little easier and was finished in half that time.
After I finished my masters, I was working as a researcher for the Navy. During and after the 9/11 incident, I witnessed the sheer incompetency of the government firsthand. I had that same impression again: “I don’t want to spend my whole life working with these gubmint goons, developing weapons and gunships, and having blood on my hands (figuratively by association). God has something more for me in life.” Again, at the time I had no idea what that “more” was.
A couple years later I moved to Taiwan and I found a new life. Then my Ph.D. came along rather serendipitously. Now, I’m quite satisfied with my career as a professor.
Concerning what I’ve done in the area of intersexual relationships, however, I was more like what Bardelys said. When I was younger, I just expected that I would meet someone “special”, fall in love, get married, and have a beautiful family. But of course, it never happened that way. It was as someone else here once commented, “Blue Pilled men get whatever they get, and don’t know how or why they got what they got.” Experiencing divorce wasn’t enough to wake me up. I had to get Red Pilled before I had that moment of realization, and by that time, I was already 45 years old and a year into my second marriage.
When comparing these two areas of my life, I can see how I employed faith in some areas of my life, but not others.
I had a vision for developing my career. Even though I had no idea what I was doing nor where I would end up, I kept busy at it. I accepted various challenges and rolled with the disappointments until I found contentment and fulfillment.
I had a vision for marriage too, but I didn’t do the work of making it a reality. I held back, thinking I needed to remain pure. I was waiting for a Miss Right straight out of fantasyland, and I passed over a lot of women who may very well have made a decent enough wife and mother. A lot of these women passed over me for various reasons as well. I didn’t settle into the task of working out my beliefs until after I had married much later in life, and I didn’t get an accurate concept of reality until I came across the Red Pill much later than that.
The impact this has had on my life is clearly evident.
- Σ Frame: Learning the Wisdom of Foolishness (2017-11-22)
- Σ Frame: Why Do Men Need Visions and Dreams? (2018-5-15)
- Σ Frame: Unlucky in Love? (2022-3-9)
- Σ Frame: Forming the Vision of Achieving a Goal (2022-4-6)
- Σ Frame: Infiltrating the Minds of the Masses through Suspension of Disbelief and Social Catharsis/Cathexis (2022-7-25)
- Σ Frame: Analysis Paralysis is the Gateway to the Abyss (2022-9-19)