In his latest post, Sometimes the Customer is Wrong (December 20, 2017), Cane Caldo described the fractured and isolated state of the male community, and lamented,
“Immigration, minority criminality, and white male apathy really are serious troubles right now. They are problems which are too big to be ignored in the meantime, and we each need to do our best to combat them as we can.”
Cane also points out that exclusion and isolation are the most prevalent weaknesses in male fellowship. However, exclusion is an even greater deterrent to women, if and when implemented. He describes this as follows.
“As far as I can tell there is really only one acceptable way to punish women, and that is exclusion. All mankind are social creatures and will suffer from exclusion, but because women are more sociable and more dependent they will more keenly suffer when left out. This makes exclusion more deterring, and thus more instructive, for women.”
Since social exclusion, for women, is a more powerful deterrent than it is for men, it follows that this can be a point of strength for men. For example, men can be quite comfortable in isolation, especially while working, or practicing a hobby, for instance. Thus, the ‘walking away’ part is what makes Dread Game a very effective tool in managing the drama created by a frantic female. But the problem is, humans naturally prefer the immediate comforts of spiritual adultery over the suffering of atonement, and women are obviously much weaker to this temptation than men are. So with some women, as soon as you walk away, she will seek out an orbiter to take up the slack in her Moxie, and there are ten back-up men waiting to swoop in to ‘rescue’ her from your ‘coldness’, ‘neglect’, and ‘abuse’. To this, Cane responded,
“Exactly. To even begin to address it, we must decide around what to have solidarity.”
I propose that the solidarity should be based on the shared purposes of us men, and the goals we set to achieve those purposes. So here I suggest a few shared purposes upon which to build solidarity. [Eds. note: I may add to this list, on the occasion of further developments.]
Men’s Shared Purposes
Our shared purposes are yet to be clearly defined. But I think it would be beneficial if we would all agree on the following purposes.
- The Manosphere is to spread the Red Pill Word, and to instruct and encourage other men in building Red Pill frame of consciousness, and developing Game.
- Men should accept other men, and offer them the basic forms of respect that comprise the unspoken code of honor among men. (There is more on this point, further down this post.)
- Specifically, men should give other men a decent respect by not being an orbiter to their wives or girlfriends. Other men should zero out orbiters for being traitors, and encourage those women involved to either remain true to the man they have chosen, or else, end the relationship clearly and decisively before hitting the marketplace.
- More specifically, men need to practice more solidarity by cooperating towards the enforcement of some much needed discipline, when appropriate. In other words, stop or deter the White Knighting expressed through the indulgence of women on the hamster wheel, or while they are having a pity party. Let women seek other women for mutual commiseration. (BTW, men should never seek a woman for emotional support, unless you want to get canned. Hope you already know this.)
- Men should never favor, date, or screw hard-core feminists. Instead, give them a social drought which might make them think twice about their life-decisions. (See Roosh for more on this point.)
Readers please discuss and suggest/add addendums.
Roadblocks to Solidarity
So far, at least three roadblocks have come up (that I have seen) that will need to be addressed before men can achieve a critical mass in solidarity. [Eds. note: I may add to this list, on the occasion of further developments.]
- The Need for Acceptance
These will be briefly described here.
Cane ended his post by reinforcing the exigency of man-to-man fellowship.
“But none of [these problems] will be resolved–or even meaningfully combated–unless and until men band together into significant, genuine, geographical, and exclusive communities.”
“I think most of what prevents this is logistics. People live spread apart and drive everywhere. Two hour commutes are not uncommon. (In cities,) The people you live near are extremely unlikely to share any significant beliefs with you if you are at all Traditional. Physical closeness is a necessary prerequisite for real community forming in my experience. (To wit, the only “real” community capable of exclusion that I’ve ever been a part of was in college, with the roommates I lived with and saw every day.) People you see at church often drive 30+ minutes, and maybe from the opposite direction. The barriers to community are structural. And we’re all trained from birth to be lazy.”
The fact that Red Pill men are few and far between is a great challenge to our strength at this moment in history, but it is important enough to deserve our concentrated effort in developing our social lives to include this. So I urge my readers to identify any Red Pilled men who live within their vicinity, and to make an effort to meet with them at least once a week.
Hebrews 10:24-25 [Emphasis mine.]
“24 And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, 25 not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.”
I don’t know how many times I have seen a good comment thread devolve into petty insults and infighting. Most of the bickering is about things as stupid as definitions and personal values/viewpoints, and those involved in these skirmishes seem to be easily piqued. On this topic, I want to share with my readers something I have learned, which I hope will be insightful and inspiring.
For the past three years, I have had many international students from Indonesia, which is predominantly a Muslim culture. During this time, while I was exposed to Muslim culture, I learned that it is not wise to judge any man according to, or with prejudice against, his religious beliefs.
Refraining from being critical of another’s faith is not done merely to acquiesce to political sympathies or even to maintain the peace (although it does), but rather, it is because the act of arguing against, and challenging those religious beliefs through a logical argument will rarely, if ever, entice a man to agree with you, convert, or change his ways. This is because those beliefs of faith run to the core of the man’s identity, and are not to be trifled with, out of respect to the man’s free will. Thus, such arguments are foolish and futile, simply because one’s faith is an issue of the heart, and NOT the head/rationale.
But in addition to the vanity of not being able to convince the man to your liking within an argument, it is also quite certain that you will offend the man, foolishly reveal your ignorance about his beliefs, and possibly lose any foundation of rapport that you might have formed with him. We do not wish to overtly offend any man, but to build rapport with him, “that I might win some to the gospel of Christ” (see 1st Corinthians 9:19-23).
The takeaway point here is that mutual humility and a shared purpose are the keys to any successful interaction, and that logical arguments over specific beliefs are likely to be divisive.
In view of my example, Islamic culture is very much concerned with maintaining a sense of honor, so I make a point to keep my interactions with them formal, yet sincere and warmhearted. For example, whenever one of them does poorly on an exam, I shake my head and say, “Ahhh… My son! You need to work harder!” They take this supposed ‘sonship’ to be an honor, and at the same time, they find it hilarious.
Continuing on with the story, last year, I returned to my own country, to my own church (Evangelical Protestantism), and what did I find? Men doing the exact same foolish things I learned not to do with my Muslim students – arguing, judging, and challenging each others beliefs, without the generosity of acceptance – not agreement, mind you, which is rarely achieved, but mere acceptance – consideration and respect for the heart of the man himself, regardless of his beliefs.
2nd Corinthians 10:4-5 [Emphasis mine.]
“4 For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ”
Acceptance does wonders for casting down frustrating arguments.
3. The Need for Acceptance
When I come to the Manosphere, I come to meet other men to discuss the important issues of the day. These men are MGTOW’s, PUA’s, agnostics, atheists, ‘born again’ Baptists, Calvinists, Catholics, Mormons, Orthodoxians, Unitarians… and I round out the mix with my imperialistic, self righteous evangelical flair – quite a motley crew! But I choose not to consider these differences to be of considerable import. I check my pride with my password, and log into the sphere penitently. I am willing to be corrected as much as I am willing to correct others.
Likewise, I don’t show up empty handed, but I bring a treasure from my inner chamber, which I have painstakingly prepared for the presentation – a sacrificial offering of my time, will, and energies. I recognize that other bloggers and commenters are also doing the same, and I accept (but maybe not always agree to) their input for the honest and thoughtful rejoinders that they are.
I respect each man for what he brings to the table, whether small or great, and for his purpose, purity of reason, and semblance of honorable conduct. I also respect other men in general, because that is what men need to be recognized as men. I respect others because I respect myself, and this should also signal that fact, and thereby attract respect from others. As a principle, I respect each man because he is made in the image of God, and I believe in faith, that God will do miraculous things in our society, and our individual lives, through the sharing of ideas and our testimonies, and through our collective strength.
[Eds. note: I hope that my readers will not mistake these sentiments to be merely vain hopes or virtue posturing, but that you’ll see the intrinsic value and benefits of maintaining these attitudes when interacting with other men.]
Within the Manosphere, we men meet on terms of the intellect, and the will, for the sake of common interests and purposes, and we find a fulfillment of the heart and soul through our interactions.
God, in his infinite and ironic wisdom, became a baby to reveal himself to mankind.
For since, in the wisdom of God, the world through wisdom did not know God, it pleased God through the foolishness of the message preached to save those who believe.
Similarly, God chose the Pick Up Artist (PUA) to reveal the bitterly glorious Red Pill truths to humanity – those PUA’s who were considered to be arrogant, amoral, cad pricks in the eyes of men, but who were humbly seeking and knocking on the door of Truth in the eyes of God.
27 But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty; 28 and the base things of the world and the things which are despised God has chosen, and the things which are not, to bring to nothing the things that are, 29 that no flesh should glory in His presence. 30 But of Him you are in Christ Jesus, who became for us wisdom from God—and righteousness and sanctification and redemption— 31 that, as it is written, “He who glories, let him glory in the Lord.”
In the same manner, God shall use this motley assortment of Red Pilled Cads and Dads in the Manosphere, to shape a new concept of human ontology to be implemented as future societal norms.
Take it as inspiration, if nothing more.