If it talks like a Christian and walks like a Feminist, then what is it?

Integrity is paramount.

Readership: Single Christian men interested in women;
Theme: IOIs and Vetting
Length: 800 words
Reading Time: 4 minutes

“Believe ALL Women”?

Ye Olde Manosphere hath said, “Watch What She DOES, NOT What She SAYS.”

Even the Bible contains a few passages about the folly of taking women’s words too seriously.

Then to Adam He said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree about which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat from it’;

Cursed is the ground because of you;
With hard labor you shall eat from it
All the days of your life.

Genesis 3:17 (NASB)

And Abram listened to the voice of Sarai.

Genesis 16:2 (NASB)

And we all know how that turned out!

But are Christian men really in the habit of doing this with Christian women?

More to the point, are Christian men able to discern integrity in others?

Q: If it talks like a Christian and walks like a Feminist, then what is it?

Q: If it talks rubbish and walks like a Christian, then what is it?

Integrity?

Men are inclined to make the common mistake of listening to what a woman says, rather than watching what she does.

Occasionally, absent minded women will drop a truth bomb on social media.  But it’s what they DON’T let you know that really matters.

What really matters is her integrity — whether she is double minded and whether her mouth is where her money maker is.

Reading women can be time consuming and confusing because most women are mentally befuddled and don’t really know what they believe, although they might think they do and talk like such.  This is why most of women’s chatter is in code.  To speak honestly and plainly (without fantasy nor feminine code) is ‘mansplaining’.  Men have to accept the fact that 95% of women are a bundle of emotion with very little meaningful content coming through verbally, and what little there is, they are confused about it. Men need to learn to see through that and look at her fundamental spiritual constitution instead — and whether her actions line up with her words.

To give readers an example of what I’m talking about — that women say one thing and do quite the opposite — consider NovaSeeker’s coverage of Nikole Mitchell, who said in so many words that her sexuality is a sacred gift to men and that it was God’s will for her to be a stripper.  She said her nude photoshoots made her feel holy, liberated, sacred, and sexy.  A contrapositive example would be Louise Perry.  She claims to be a feminist, and yet, she rejects the feminist utopian ambition.  (She has a mild case of the 1,000 C0ck stare, so I assume that she’s seen her fair share of the feminine viewpoint.)  Another interesting persona is Dr. Camille Paglia, who has been a spearhead for feminism for decades, and yet she can have an in-depth conversation with Dr. Jordan Peterson and agree with him about most things.

All of this talk, no matter whether a woman is obedient (like some Buddhist women, or the theoretical virgin unicorn who claims to be an atheist), or disobedient (like Sharkly’s “Christian” ex), doesn’t give any clues as to how she’ll behave in a relationship with a man.

Don’t allow yourself to be fooled by your male brain’s desire for logical consistency

If she says she is an atheist, or a repentant Christian, or whatever, then don’t you believe it.  Her words don’t necessarily tell you what’s happening in her heart.  Her words only tell you what’s going on in her conscious mind (assuming she’s being honest).

Look for evidence to back up her claims.  Her behavior, her attitude towards men, and any IOI’s that she shows you are better indicators of what is in her heart.

The bottom line is whether she is obedient to God and to the social structure of authority in her life. So the important thing to look for is her behavior towards you (i.e. respectful submission), and her track record with the men of authority in her life (i.e. her father).  Her track record with past boyfriends is a non sequitur because if she made good on those relationships, then she would not have an ex.

Exit Questions

How else can a man identify if a woman is a true believer or if she’ll appreciate and respect a man’s Headship?

1. Many people in good marriages have said that they had a tiny glimpse of their future together, and this vision gave them the faith to enter into marriage together.  But women can lie about that too.
2. Men who are skilled in discerning integrity should try to teach other men how to do the same. (Oscar makes the impression of a man who is good at this.)
3. Readers are welcome to offer other ideas.

Answers to Riddles

Q: If it talks like a Christian and walks like a Feminist, then what is it?
A: A feminist who takes her body to church on Sunday.

Q: If it talks rubbish and walks like a Christian, then what is it?
A: A woman raised in a good home who has never heard the gospel.

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