Category Archives: Vetting Women

Infidelity is anything short of fidelity.

Being faithful is not about avoiding sin, but in Glorifying the Lord. Embracing God’s archetype of marriage is one important way to do this. Continue reading

Posted in Adultery and Fornication, Agency, Attitude, Authenticity, Boundaries, Child Development, Choosing a Partner or Spouse, Churchianity, Conserving Power, Convergence, Courtship and Marriage, Desire, Desire, Passion, Discerning Lies and Deception, Discernment, Wisdom, Divorce, Education, Enduring Suffering, Female Power, Feminism, Forgiveness, Fundamental Frame, Glory, Handling Rejection, Headship and Patriarchy, Holding Frame, Influence, Introspection, IOCs, Leadership, Love, Male Power, Maturity, Personal Growth and Development, Models of Failure, Models of Success, Moral Agency, Perseverance, Personal Presentation, Power, Purpose, Relationships, Respect, Sanctification & Defilement, Self-Concept, Sexual Authority, SMV/MMV, Stewardship, The Power of God, Trust, Vetting Women | 4 Comments

Wives reap what they sow

The opposite of submission is not necessarily rebellion, but a heart that is miserly with affection and grace. Continue reading

Posted in Agency, Choosing a Partner or Spouse, Complementarianism, Conflict Management, Convergence, Courtship and Marriage, Discernment, Wisdom, Disorders, Divorce, Enduring Suffering, Female Power, Feminism, Fundamental Frame, Generational Curses, Glory, God's Concept of Justice, Headship and Patriarchy, Holding Frame, Influence, Introspection, Love, Models of Failure, Moral Agency, Organization and Structure, Psychology, Purpose, Relationships, Respect, Sanctification & Defilement, Self-Concept, Self-Control, Solipsism, Stewardship, The Power of God, Trust, Vetting Women | 35 Comments

Towards a more complete appreciation of Sanctification

“This is my husband.”  “This is my wife.” “Til death do us part.” …and grateful for it all! Continue reading

Posted in Adultery and Fornication, Boundaries, Building Wealth, Choosing a Partner or Spouse, Churchianity, Courtship and Marriage, Discernment, Wisdom, Divorce, Forgiveness, Glory, Headship and Patriarchy, Identity, Introspection, Joy, Love, Models of Failure, Moral Agency, Mysticism, Personal Presentation, Purpose, Relationships, Running the Gauntlet, Sanctification & Defilement, Self-Concept, SMV/MMV, The Power of God, Vetting Women | 10 Comments

2 Old Farts Talking About Their Wives

More thoughts on wife selection and wife moulding. Continue reading

Posted in Agency, Attitude, Choosing a Partner or Spouse, Conflict Management, Courtship and Marriage, Determination, Discernment, Wisdom, Discipline, Enduring Suffering, Fundamental Frame, Game, Game Theory, Headship and Patriarchy, Holding Frame, Influence, Introspection, Leadership, Male Power, Models of Success, Moral Agency, Organization and Structure, Perseverance, Personal Presentation, Persuasion, Power, Purpose, Relationships, Self-Concept, Stewardship, Strategy, The Power of God, Vetting Women | 16 Comments

Dating in the Lion’s Den: Relying on Faith when the options are daunting

Thoughts on wife selection and wife molding. Continue reading

Posted in Agency, Attitude, Building Wealth, Choosing a Partner or Spouse, Communications, Courtship and Marriage, Determination, Discernment, Wisdom, Enduring Suffering, Fundamental Frame, Game Theory, Headship and Patriarchy, Holding Frame, Introspection, Male Power, Maturity, Personal Growth and Development, Models of Failure, Models of Success, Moral Agency, Perseverance, Purpose, Relationships, Sanctification & Defilement, Self-Concept, Stewardship, Strategy, The Power of God, Vetting Women | 75 Comments

Deti’s Advice to Underqualified Men

Identify your sphere of influence and be selective. Continue reading

Posted in Attitude, Attraction, Authenticity, Building Wealth, Charisma, Choosing a Partner or Spouse, Confidence, Conserving Power, Courtship and Marriage, Determination, Discipline, Enduring Suffering, Fundamental Frame, Game Theory, Handling Rejection, Holding Frame, Identity, Influence, Inner Game, Introspection, IOI's, Male Power, Maturity, Personal Growth and Development, Models of Success, Moral Agency, Perseverance, Personal Presentation, Persuasion, Power, Purpose, Questions from Readers, Relationships, Respect, Self-Concept, Sexual Authority, SMV/MMV, Vetting Women | 47 Comments

Kumbaya

Translation: “Come by me (my Lord)” Continue reading

Posted in Attitude, Authenticity, Child Development, Choosing a Partner or Spouse, Collective Strength, Discerning Lies and Deception, Discernment, Wisdom, Faith Community, Fundamental Frame, Glory, Holding Frame, Identity, Introspection, Joy, Leadership, Maturity, Personal Growth and Development, Music, Purpose, Sanctification & Defilement, Society, The Power of God, Vetting Women | 5 Comments

No More Mrs. Hot Mess!

Women’s Version of the Covert Contract. Continue reading

Posted in Answered Prayers, Attitude, Boundaries, Communications, Conflict Management, Conserving Power, Courtship and Marriage, Discerning Lies and Deception, Discernment, Wisdom, Education, Female Power, Fundamental Frame, Game, Game Theory, Headship and Patriarchy, Health, Holding Frame, Influence, Introspection, Leadership, Male Power, Maturity, Personal Growth and Development, Models of Success, Moral Agency, Persuasion, Power, Psychology, Relationships, Self-Concept, Solipsism, Stewardship, Strategy, The Power of God, Vetting Women | 115 Comments

The Art of Thankfulness

Why are some people always negative, while others are grateful? Continue reading

Posted in Agency, Attitude, Building Wealth, Choosing a Partner or Spouse, Collective Strength, Conserving Power, Courtship and Marriage, Decision Making, Discernment, Wisdom, Elite Cultural Influences, Freedom, Personal Liberty, Fundamental Frame, Generational Curses, Health, Holding Frame, Hypergamy, Influence, Introspection, Maturity, Personal Growth and Development, Models of Failure, Models of Success, Moral Agency, Power, Psychology, Purpose, Relationships, Sanctification & Defilement, Self-Concept, Stewardship, The Power of God, Vetting Women | 13 Comments

Moral Guidance Based Feedback vs. Sexual Attention

Both are necessary for redemption and sanctification (in marriage). Continue reading

Posted in Agency, Attraction, Boundaries, Charisma, Child Development, Choosing a Partner or Spouse, Collective Strength, Communications, Courtship and Marriage, Decision Making, Discernment, Wisdom, Discipline, Fundamental Frame, Game Theory, Headship and Patriarchy, Holding Frame, Influence, Inner Game, Introspection, IOI's, Leadership, Love, Male Power, Maturity, Personal Growth and Development, Meet Cute, Models of Success, Moral Agency, Personal Presentation, Power, Purpose, Questions from Readers, Relationships, Sanctification & Defilement, Self-Concept, Sexual Authority, SMV/MMV, Stewardship, Strategy, The Power of God, Vetting Women | 3 Comments