The Vituperative Veneration of the V must be Vanquished.
Theme: Female Agency and Accountability
Author’s Note: This post expands an earlier comment.
Length: 500 words
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I don’t agree with any perspective that puts 100% of the responsibility for the success or failure of a marriage on the man as the head.
I do not agree with the notion that a woman is literally the oldest teenager in the house. That’s a humorous way of saying women get ruled by their emotions, so they aren’t really responsible for their actions. But, the fact that women let their emotions rule them does NOT exonerate them from individual, personal accountability for what women say and do.
From the very beginning, Eve was held accountable for her sin. Individually accountable. In fact, God the Father held Eve accountable FIRST, before he said, “Yeah, Adam, have a seat, because yours is coming too.” And He did not say, “Well, Eve, this happened because Adam…” He didn’t say anything other than “This is your consequence.” He imposed it on Eve, alone.
He didn’t waste any time explaining to Eve why he was imposing this consequence on her because, like the woman she was, she blamed her sin on the serpent. “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” She wouldn’t even take responsibility. “Yeah, um, I did that, but it was that serpent’s fault! Yeah, um, You caught me… but it’s not my fault!” No point in arguing with Eve what she did and that it was on her. God the Father just said, “OK, here’s your consequence.” And it was done. “You’ll have pain in childbirth. You have to submit to Adam and do what he says. And you’ll hate it and chafe under it and try to rule him.”
The point is that women have full personal agency. As such they can be held fully personally accountable. It doesn’t matter that they themselves will not acknowledge their own agency. All that matters is that they have that agency. So, if a woman will not do what she’s required to do in her marriage, then she’s accountable for it and should bear all the consequences for it. If she willfully refuses her husband’s directions, then her husband is within his rights to impose consequences. Without explanation, as God The Father did. “Nope, don’t wanna hear your rationalizations and excuses. Yes, it’s your fault, and here’s your consequence.”
So if a woman leaves a marriage, or a husband ends his marriage to her because of her willful resistance to submission, then that’s on her. The end of the marriage is her responsibility. Not his. HERS. He merely imposed a consequence upon her. Or, more accurately, allowed the natural consequences of her actions to bear their full weight on her. So for those reasons, I do not agree that the success or failure of a marriage rides fully on the man’s back.
- Σ Frame (deti): What can a husband do in response to a rebellious wife? (2022/1/31)
- Σ Frame (Jack): Did Eve have Agency? (2022/11/21)