It’s not for the charity, but for the inner peace and purpose.
Readership: All; Younger Men; Single Men; Christian Men; Women interested in getting along well with a man;
Theme: Feminine Submission
Length: 600 words
Reading Time: 3 minutes
I received an email from a female reader in response to Red Pill Apostle’s post, The Value of Feminine Humility (2022-10-4). She points out that a truly submissive wife is not motivated to be that way because of all the benefits that RPA wrote about, but rather because she identifies as the wife of a husband with a mission and she recognizes that her best service to God is in helping her husband.
“A woman [who is humble and submissive] has the best chance at getting a husband that would do everything in his power to give her everything she wants and anything he thinks she might want.”
“While I agree this may be the RESULT, as a Christian wife that should not be my INTENTION.
Christian wives are called to be “helpmates” to their husbands. By being his encourager, respecting him, submitting to him, supporting him and being loyal… that is my DUTY as his wife.”
“1 Timothy 6:6 says, “Godliness with contentment is great gain.” How my husband responds is not the point. Whether my husband responds by giving me what I want is irrelevant. If I am not his “helpmate”, then I have failed in my DUTY and I am answerable to God for it.”
“Though I agree with you that usually the results are quite positive.”
She goes on to explain that the real benefit of feminine humility is not the charitability of her husband (although that is a nice bonus), but the glorious shalom of being a Godly woman. She cites this passage…
…rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.1 Peter 3:4 (NKJV)
“The value of feminine humility is that it is, in the sight of God, a great and precious trait for a woman to have. And for a Christian woman, finding favor in God’s eyes is a supremely satisfying JOY.”
“The question is, do I want to please God? If yes, I please Him by following His Will and design for marriage. And for a Christian wife, that means I am to be my husband’s helper. Anything that takes me away from ‘helping’ my husband — criticism, discontent, disrespect — these are all SIN. Sin has to be acknowledged, confessed and turned away from.”
If I’m reading her right, she’s saying that humility and submission to her husband gives her a sublime sense of self-esteem and self-worth that remains undisturbed by anything of this world. If there is any perceived lack of care or generosity from hubby, then this doesn’t detract from her joy.
Tying back to RPA’s essay, the valuable takeaway here is that a joyful woman will naturally receive much better treatment from her husband and others as well.
In the final, this is exactly what Christian husbands want from a wife — a peaceful spirit, gratitude, joy, thankfulness, and making a willing effort to fit in to the larger scheme of things without making waves. Her humility and submission are the keys for her to get in this door. This is not required by husbands (as it is often purported), but by God Himself. Men simply recognize that these traits are important for a woman to have.