Which way do we fall?
Readership: All; Men;
Theme: Redemptive Headship and Masculinity
Length: 1,000 words
Reading Time: 6 minutes
Brother Where Art Thou?
I put Jason (AKA LastMod) on moderation several months ago because most of his mainstay verbiage is trash talking fellow commenters — which I don’t allow.
Another part of the problem is that he’s a terrible writer. Some of his comments are rather insightful, but his ideas gets lost in the bitter garble. I always have to ponder his comments to get the gist of what he’s trying to say. Other readers don’t have the same contemplative patience, take offense, and miss his main points.
But sometimes he’ll have something really worthwhile to say. If I think one of his comments has a good point, I’ll edit it to remove the cynical trash talk and approve it. Once in a while he’ll leave a very long comment that cuts to the heart of things. For comments like these, I’ll take the time to rewrite the comment to bring out his main point, and make it presentable, readable, and understandable to the general public.
I think moderating his comments is probably the best way I can let Jason’s voice be heard in a way that other men can understand and find acceptable. I’m also hoping that through this exercise, Jason can learn how to present his ideas in a better way so that he can get some positive resonance instead of constant vitriol, and then feel what it is like to be part of the group. So far, he has never complained about being on moderation or having his comments totally reedited. I hope it’s because he sees that he is being heard.
Jason’s Problems are Rather Common
From picking through Jason’s comments, I’ve gathered that his biggest problem is that he is somewhat like Glover’s “Nice Guy™”, and being this way under the Blue Pill delusion for most of his life has led him to despair and to despise men, especially men who have a blustering charisma and irrational faith – the same kinds of men who do well with women.
I believe he despises men for many profound reasons.
- Analysis Paralysis.
- Being told outright lies.
- Confusion about the SMP.
- Misconceptions about God.
- A lack of metaphysical literacy.
- God’s seemingly erratic concept of justice.
- Being the victim of Black Knight Competition.
- Regular rejection from both men and women.
- The Spiritual confusion of clinging to the “Rules”.
- A lifetime of poor treatment, e.g. mockery, ridicule, etc.
- All the typical “man talk” makes him feel confused and/or judged.
- Being associated with Low-Lifes and the resulting Out-Group discrimination.
- Confusion about why nonChristians appear to be more kind, loving, and reasonable than many Christians.
All of this has resulted in anger, bitterness, confusion, distrust, frustration, and carrying a negative impression of others when no offense is intended.
I can understand Jason’s position because I was once a little bit like him in the past. I too was disappointed with women and the posture-posing of churchianity. I largely saw overconfident men as being immoral Chads and arrogant bad@sses, and I didn’t know how to respond to their antics, which was frustrating and humiliating. I couldn’t interpret any of these behaviors through a Christian lens.
It was a hard lesson for me to learn, when I realized that…
- Those men who have a lot of confidence, faith, and charisma are often times the least responsible with what they have been given.
- Some unbelievers are more forgiving, gracious, and kind than believers, and that it is not uncommon for God to use such people to be vehicles of His grace.
- I needed to forgive people.
- I needed to count the cost.
- I needed to get over myself, develop my ego, and learn to hold my own.
- I needed to develop some of their positive traits in myself.
In fewer words, I needed to exercise humility, clear away my presuppositions, find faith, and open the eyes and ears of my heart.
Is there Hope?
All this brings up the question, why do I care? A couple years ago, when Jason was causing a lot of commotion on Σ Frame, I prayed about how I should handle it. During my prayers, I remembered how I used to be in the past (as I described above), and the passage from Matthew 25:31-46 stood out in my mind. Since then, I’ve come to see him as a burden that must be borne (although I’m sure he would resent this sentiment). After all, this blog is intended to help men, including, and perhaps especially men like him.
Some readers have dismissed Jason as hopelessly damned and have suggested that he should be permanently blocked, as Dalrock, DeepStrength, and others have done. Meanwhile, other readers have expressed the hope of redemption for him.
LocustsPlease summarized his own stance with a recognition of the fragility of life.
“When men see they can’t or reasonably won’t get what they want from relationships they come to places like this. Nobody claimed to have all the perfect answers or that it would be fair. Being a loser in the SMP or MMP hurts. All of Lastmod’s posts show this. People think the line of incel is thick. No, it’s thin. I was a virgin until 19. Had I not known some Chad’s who knew game, I wonder exactly how long I would have gone or maybe forever? Would I be in Jason’s boat?”
Other readers have written to me privately, saying…
“I rejoice in your patience with Jason. I’ve long felt he has potential, and it’s part of our treasures in Heaven that we can bless people, regardless of how it turns out here below. It’s a point of obedience.”
“Keep up the good work. I find your answers to Jason in particular are well-considered.”
I’m pleased that Jason has made friends with Scott, or rather, Scott has reached out to befriend him. Scott is a professional psychologist and counselor who knows how to deal with him. Granted, most other men can’t do that. I do think Jason is slowly SLOWLY improving his ability to trust and respect other men (i.e. charismatic high SMV men) since he met Scott. Furthermore, Scott’s positive assessment of Jason has bolstered my confidence in accepting him, farts, warts, quirks and all.
In the past, Jason was deeply offended whenever I mentioned him in a post. We shall see how it goes this time.
Overall, this is one of the biggest problems facing Christianity these days. How can we reach and integrate all the lost and confused men who are searching for “meaning” in their lives? Jason is just one man among the multitudes.