A reminder of what’s important in the eyes of the ladies.
Theme: Overcoming Obstacles
Length: 450 words
Reading Time: 1.5 minutes
I received a private message from a female reader on 2022-4-13. She writes,
“As an older woman who can’t sing, I would just like to encourage younger brothers that if they just try their darnedest at ANYTHING, it will probably be attractive to at least one sister. I say this reflecting on the odd variety of men I’ve found attractive in the 48 years since I hit puberty. The only thing they all had in common were that they were fit (but for their build), and there was one other thing that they were really into and really good at.
That is all. That’s what’s attractive. I hope someone finds that useful.
Now usually, I don’t take women’s opinions very seriously, especially about what they find attractive in men. However, I am more willing to accept her advice because she is an older, more mature lady who obviously means well, and I think she probably doesn’t have the ulterior motives that most younger women do. Also, she is reaffirming a couple truths that we already know, but we may not be very well aware of how they come across as important to women.
- Strength, of which Fitness is a basic prerequisite.
- Mission, of which Skill is an implicit and essential part.
If you think about it, these two traits combined pretty much sum up the core of masculinity.
Furthermore, this lady’s message reminds us of what is really important for men to focus on in the competitive meet market, and it’s not the women themselves. It’s US! This gives new meaning to the Manospherian Maxim, “Men are the prize!”
In addition to Fitness and Skill, Sharkly and Red Pill Apostle pointed out that one’s passion carries a huge influence.
If you can show that your enterprise/project/work is a source of great excitement and enthusiasm for you and others, then women latch on to that in order to be a part of that excitement and enthusiasm.
People who are passionate about their project/work/hobby/goals/purpose are attractive to others and that passion draws people in. It works in business. It works with women. Many times it’s the passion that tips the scale in your favor.
So we could add Joy/Enthusiasm to Fitness/Strength and Skill/Mission.
Staying fit and active, getting proper nutrition, fasting periodically, and developing our knowledge, skills, abilities, education, and careers along our individual life-callings are things that all men should be doing.
In sum, her message reaffirms that our efforts in these areas do not go unnoticed by the ladies.
Keep up the good work, Men!