Single men can signal status too!
Readership: All; Men;
Length: 1,000 words
Reading Time: 3.5 minutes + 9:34 minute video
Jason (LastMod) shared this video he made in response to Ted Beale’s post at Vox Popoli, Triggering the Irrelevant (2022-3-20) and the discussion about it here under The Status Signaling Narrative (2022-3-21).
The first half of the video is a subjective exploration of Jason’s views about certain personalities, which are offered as anecdotal evidence for various points. But the larger point he makes in the first half of the video is that there is a lot of status signaling and AMOGing going on, and that the most egregious examples are way over the top, if not ridiculous.
One noteworthy example he gives (starting at the 4:54 mark) is of Bing Crosby. Bing Crosby was touted as the ideal husband and family man back in the day, but it was all a facade. In reality, he was married twice, had several extramarital affairs, and he hated his wife and children. After Crosby’s death, his eldest son, Gary, wrote a highly critical memoir with a title that has taken on a new meaning since it was written, Going My Own Way (1983), which depicted his father as cruel, cold, remote, and physically and psychologically abusive. Two of his sons, Lindsay and Dennis committed suicide.
LastMod gives several other examples to round out his argument that many men turn out to be lousy fathers, all to make the point that being a father is not the whole purpose of life for every man.
The second half of the video is about his work in property management. His main point is that he is contributing a valuable service to his community, and that he couldn’t do all this if he had a wife and family to look after.
Here I want to point out that Jason himself is engaging in status signaling, which is most evident at the 6:57 mark when he says,
“…the world needs men like me at this point and stage in the game.”
Then he goes on to describe how diligent and dedicated he is to his work. Admirable!
Following your Calling is always the right choice
IMO, status signaling is probably a good thing for a man’s psychology, and it is somewhat necessary to make one’s self known to others. The problem with status signaling comes when men begin to denigrate the status of other men as being wrong, worthless, irrelevant, inferior, cowardly, and so on.
The thing we should be mindful about is that there is Biblical support for both Jason’s and Ted’s positions. Jason’s position is described in 1 Corinthians 7:8, 25-40. Ted’s position is supported by Genesis 1:28.
Furthermore, we have this admonition from St. Paul.
17 But as God has distributed to each one, as the Lord has called each one, so let him walk. And so I ordain in all the churches.
20 Let each one remain in the same calling in which he was called.
23 You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men.
24 Brethren, let each one remain with God in that state in which he was called.
26 I suppose therefore that this is good because of the present distress—that it is good for a man to remain as he is: 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife.Excerpts from 1 Corinthians 7 (NKJV)
Verse 26 makes it rather clear that Ted is reaching past his domain of authority when he starts demanding that other men should marry and have children in order to “defend the continuation of civilized society” — a society which has created the very situation in which men are hesitant to marry.
Following the analogy given in 1 Corinthians 12:15-26, Vox is basically saying, “because I am a d!ck that F_cks and procreates, therefore the eye, ear, and hand should also be d!cks! If they are not d!cks, then they are irrelevant. The body does not need them. They should not be part of the body!”
The truth is, Ted and Jason are BOTH doing what they’re supposed to be doing with their lives, and they’re BOTH glorifying God in their own unique respective ways. I would even say that they’re BOTH pursuing their God ordained mission in life.
The measure of a Man is his readiness in taking action in obedience to His Life Calling.
We have seen evidence of both Ted and Jason taking large action within their respective spheres of influence. But yet, we see BOTH these men engaging in status signaling and passing cynical contemptuous invectives against the other, presumably for ego preservation or to receive the recognition and approval of certain men within their own microcosm of influence. A third possibility is to glorify one’s self as an idealogue hawk.
Let us not become slaves to the opinions of men.
The Christian Manosphere (of which I assume Ted, Jason, Adam, et al. are an integral part), should be leading the wider ‘sphere in the graceful display of respect to all men and the promulgation of men’s prime interests according to each man’s calling.
As I’ve stated before in Avoiding the Broken Window Effect (2021-7-21), how we treat other men is a community quality indicator. It’s also displays the community’s general stance towards male authority and headship. Ultimately, it characterizes the community’s fear of God.
Men need to defend the interests of other men, especially Christian men for Christian men.
This does not mean that we need to agree on everything in life. It means that we need to recognize each man’s contribution, including our own, and regard this work as labor for the Kingdom of God.
“Who are you to judge another’s servant? To his own master he stands or falls. Indeed, he will be made to stand, for God is able to make him stand.”Romans 14:4 (NKJV)