…is in the freshly F–ed Aura!
Theme: Dating and the SMP
Length: 1,000 words
Reading Time: 3.5 minutes
The Spiritual Force of Preselection
Preselection is a phenomenon in which women are magnetically drawn to men who are already taken. Preselection is known to impose an extremely heavy bias in women’s psychology in sizing up a man. It is so strong that if a woman sincerely believes a man is taken, then she will feel more viscerally attracted to him, whether he is actually taken or not. For this reason, PUAs will often claim to have a wife or girlfriend, will wear a fake wedding band, or carry and show off a picture of himself with a beautiful woman who is purported/presumed to be his significant other.
I’ve noticed a phenomenon that is similar to preselection, yet it has nuances that cannot be explained by our current understanding of preselection. Allow me to explain.
The Spiritual Force of one’s Sexual Aura
The Manosphere’s long-time understanding of the phenomenon of preselection is ostensibly based on whether a man is taken or not. But as we can observe from the examples of PUAs, a man doesn’t need to be in a truly committed relationship for preselection to kick in. In fact, if a man has regular p00n at his disposal, women can sense this, and they find it sensually alluring. Likewise, if a man is NOT getting laid on the regular, women can sense this too and are repelled.
I’ve experienced this myself. There’s been times in the past when my wife was upset about something and avoided having sexual intercourse with me for a couple weeks. During this time, it seemed like it was not only her who was repulsed by me, but all women in general seemed to regard me with disdain and hold me at arms length. They wouldn’t come near me. They wouldn’t talk to me unless it was of pressing importance. If I approached a woman to talk with her for whatever reason, then she was apprehensive and anxious to end the discussion.
At other times, my wife and I have cuddled and canoodled in cooperative coitus early in the morning after awakening, and this transformed my entire day. When I went out afterwards, women young and old were giving me sexualized attention. Female strangers gave me that intense gaze. Some couldn’t break eye-contact. Others would break eye contact, but then I’d catch them looking at me again a moment later, and then again later on… They’d brush up against me as we passed each other on the sidewalk. I’ve even had some women feel my butt while I was pressing my way through a densely packed crowd!
The women I was well acquainted with were even bolder. They would stick around to talk with me as long as they could, IOIs galore, touching my arm or shoulder, or trying to hug me. I’ve even had women make innuendos and cat calls to me while standing outside of church with my wife standing next to me! (My wife would have b!tch-slapped those women if I did not restrain her.)
So how can having sex with my wife in private make such a big difference in my life in public?
Many of these women know that I am married, and those who don’t know me personally can see me holding hands with my wife, but they treat me differently depending on whether I’ve inseminated my gism in her chasm that day or not. It’s not the way I dress or anything else I am conscious of. I’ve dressed to kill, wore cottons, and went out in my athletic attire in both states of being well laid or not — all with the same results. I’m convinced that women can somehow sense that I’ve had sex, or I am sexually content, or feeling loved, or… or something… But I can’t tell what or how. I don’t know, maybe they can smell the pheromones.
I think this difference is not strictly determined by preselection as we currently understand it, or maybe it’s a metaphysical nuance of preselection that has not been fully explored in the Manosphere.
What is happening Spiritually here?
Sex contributes to a man’s confidence and sense of detachment, which masturbation alone doesn’t accomplish. But it goes deeper than this. Having access to sex and sexualized attention, and experiencing love, bonding, and feeling accepted and blessed, are not a direct result of having sex per se, but rather an inherent result of being humbled and opening my heart, which is the overall effect that having sex has on a man. I could even believe that my wife’s eagerness to engage in sexual relations with me was also a response to me being in this same state. It is confounding because I am not very well aware of when I am in this state.
I made a statement to this effect to my pastor once, when he asked me, “How does your sex life affect your relationship with God?”
I told him, “It’s very clear to me that my relationship with God, and with other people too, is MUCH better when I have a regular and fulfilling sex life.”
He said I had the correlation right, but the cause-effect relationship wrong. IOW, he was arguing that one will have a better sex life when one has a better relationship with God, as one is then humble and open-hearted. I told him that I see what he’s saying, but it is sexual expression that causes one to become humble and open-hearted, so it’s a two-way street. If being closer to God really produced a better sex life in that order, then the church would be thronging with people trying to get closer to God.
He was very annoyed by this, but said nothing more about it.
Questions for Discussion
- What is your experience with this phenomenon?
- How does your sex life affect your relationship with God?
- How does your relationship with God affect your sex life?
- In your view, what is the cause-and-effect relationship?
- Σ Frame: How is illicit sex related to one’s spiritual state? (2019-05-22)
- Σ Frame: The Objectification of Reproductive Potential must deliver an Ego Rush or else it is Chauvinistic. (2020-11-18)
- Σ Frame: Does Masturbation improve Preselection? (2022-2-16)