Stay strong and Merry Christmas!
Readership: All; Christians; Young Men;
Theme (December): Giving the gift of yourself to others.
Length: 1,100 words
Reading Time: 4 minutes + 2:12 minute video
This is the last post for 2021. The first half will summarize the highlights of this month’s theme of giving the gift of yourself to others. The last part is a brief summary of the year and a valediction.
Summary of December Posts
Deti smacked us in the face with the Kevlar glove of reality in his post, Deti’s Advice to Underqualified Men (2021-12-08). The main point was to identify your sphere of influence and be selective. This hearkens back to the importance of Identifying Your Spiritual Domain (2021-12-01). It’s all part and parcel of the same important challenge that all men face. The latter post linked to several posts from Ed Hurst, partly because of the complexity, and partly because he’s described it better than I could. In spite of the time required to read these posts and do the necessary self-examination and introspection, these posts are a must read for all Christian men.
The main point of Kumbaya (2021-12-) was the importance of humility, worship, passion, and music in a small group setting. BTW, this is also the spirit of the Christmas Season. Silence (2021-12-17) was the flip side of the coin, compared to Kumbaya. Both of these posts turned out to be rather unpopular. The first because of the cultural association of Kumbaya with Hippies, Boomers, and/or their music and political stances. The second because of the mystical approach to the ironies and sufferings of the faith. I challenge readers to look beyond their own comfort zone biases and recognize that a spirit of humility and worship, both in joy and in sufferings, will always be central to faith and human flourishing, and that one will miss out on the most memorable moments of life — and love itself — if one rejects this. For those readers who have an aversion to Kumbaya, Cheque d’Out shared this delightful carol at Spawny’s Space that carries the same simplistic worshipful joy. In these times, we need more of this spirit, if only to annoy the wokers.
Ding Dong Merrily On High / The Mediaeval Baebes (2014-11-14) Length: 2:12
Social Authenticity Proof: Giving Women Attention (2021-12-10) was a fun review of reader’s emails which told their experiences of exercising charisma around the ladies. From this review, we saw how good and how challenging it is to do something as simple and natural as giving women attention. This viewpoint was balanced by another post, Not Trusting women is Deep Inner Game (2021-12-15), which examined the pitfall of trusting women without reservations. Hence, the concomitant Σ Maxim.
Σ Maxim 19: “Do not invest attention, time, energy, or resources into any woman who is not within your domain and under your authority.”
Under the latter post, deti commented,
“This, to me, is almost Peak Red Pill – reaching bedrock. Drilling down so far there’s nothing further to drill down into. You’ve mined the seam clean; there is nothing more to be obtained, no further wisdom to be found.”
Deti’s conclusion links directly to a Σ Axiom.
Σ Axiom 20: The proper management of Trust is the central pillar of holding Frame.
Yes, Trust and Faith are the core issues underlying all things social, sexual, and spiritual. I’ve been kicking around the topic of trust for a good three years now, but there are still a multitude of nuances in which we have yet to reach the bottom. RPA has shared some further insights with me about this, so we’ll pick this up again next year.
Red Pill Apostle churned out three excellent posts this month, plus some good ideas for a few more.
- Σ Frame: Developing Masculinity (2021-12-06)
- Σ Frame: Dating in the Lion’s Den: Relying on Faith when the options are daunting (2021-12-13)
- Σ Frame: 2 Old Farts Talking About Their Wives (2021-12-20)
RPA continually highlights the importance of faith and of male friendships. Men would do infinitely better with women if we put women on the back burner and focused on building competitive partnerships/comraderie with other men. This has at least two immediate benefits.
- It helps us develop a “detached” psychological outlook with respect to women.
- It improves our standing with other men.
Both are perceived as attractive to both God and women.
Oscar mentioned this in a comment a while back.
“If women are attracted to men that other men respect it’s because those men have high status and/or socially dominant personality.”
“Agreed, but men also respect each other for other reasons. For example, integrity, loyalty, reliability, and competence.”
“Women may not necessarily find those traits inherently attractive, but women do find men attractive when other men show them respect, because that is a form of status.”
“Obviously, that kind of thing can only happen within a community. Women need to see the respect conferred onto a man in real life for it to have an effect on her attraction to him. That is yet another reason why being part of a community is so important.”
The main point of a previous post, Avoiding the Broken Window Effect (2021-07-21), was that men crapping on other men for being unattractive to women is a sin. I want to commend Red Pill Apostle for his efforts in writing posts that have moved the general attitude of the Christian Manosphere away from this perspective and towards a more generous and constructive approach to men, women, and God.
I feel proud of myself for sticking to the schedule I set forth at the beginning of the year – one post every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, with two exceptions that were more than made up for by 28 additional posts!
Here, I would like to acknowledge the authors who contributed their talents and valuable insights in writing this year: NovaSeeker (28 posts), Scott (14 posts), Thedeti (9 posts), Red Pill Apostle (9 posts), Lexet (5 posts), Oscar (1 post), and RichardP (1 post). Thanks also to those readers who invested their thoughts, time, and energy to contribute to the scintillating discussions.
I’m going to take a reprieve for the rest of the year (two weeks). After the New Year rings in, we’ll resume posting some more good stuff. The theme for January will be Marriage. Red Pill Apostle and I have some writings in the works on this topic. So tune in for more at that time.
I wish you all a joyful and memorable season with your friends and families!
- Σ Frame: 2020 Winter Solstice Hibernation (2020-12-21)