A reader shares his technique: Cut, Open, and Proceed!
Readership: Men in relationships;
Length: 900 words
Reading Time: 3 minutes
In the emailbox, a reader describes a technique he learned about how to deal with his girlfriend. Not all of his thinking is true to Red Pill lore, but he’s found what works for him, and that’s what matters most. Judging by his English, I take it that he’s not a native speaker. It logically follows that he’s not dealing with a western woman. So this should be taken into account in our critique. I’ve broken his message into sections and edited the worst spots for clarity.
I know it seems like the entire global population is nearing it’s final point of extinction, and reading the news these days only seems to confirm this impression. But there is no sense in accepting this as my personal reality. I pledge you, it’s actually not. I was in the precise same affliction many years back and I want to tell you about 3 excellent details that I did before to get my personal ex-girlfriend to tumble back excited about me.
I attempted your approach of “making demands“, and it did not work for me because she expected my request for better “bids” to be interfering in her mind. But by doing this, I did find that her mind is the wall around her heart which must be broken down. After a time, I found that this wall is actually distrust. But it was not easy to see, because she did not behave in the typical withdrawal method when distrust is present. Then I understood what you wrote about “head trust” versus “heart trust“. I had to find a way to adjust the trust she was giving me to get more “heart trust” and no wall of “head trust”.
The single most important step in getting your ex back, and often times determines whether the relationship is any good, is what I will call, “Cut, Open, and Proceed”. To do this, go like this.
- Cut — “Cut to the chase.” Cut the bad pattern. Cut away the distractions and objections. Cut out the excuses and justifications. Cut into the real issue.
- Open — Open up an alternative style for her to view the situation. Open her mind to see why it is better.
- Proceed — Assume she will accept your alternative style, and then proceed along that way. No waiting for her agreement.
I can tell you, this method works!
The past me was perpetually apologizing! There are some things that deserve an apology and a few that will not, but in either case recently, it is not actually the time to apologize, but to follow “Cut, Open, and Proceed”. When this is in place, I set myself up to create our starting point to enter a better interaction. Only after this is done, then I will want to read whether the time is right to commit my apology.
The past me was reluctant to stop sending text messages! It seems that text messaging is indeed so easy and affordable to let her know I care, but then again, I stop to say to myself, “It’s not improving your position!” Sending drop text messages to my ex is simply just a venture of suffering. It is time to “Cut”!
Ever since I stopped sending texts, she begins to text me. “Now why won’t you text me anymore? Are you gonna be ignoring me from now on?”
Now it is time for “Open”! “No time for texting anymore. But if you care to see me, I will be running in the park on Saturday morning.” No further response is necessary.
Now it is time for “Proceed”! On Saturday, she came to the park ready to run, and after that, she is willing to follow me. Now I am running my girlfriend out of the park every Saturday!
Everyday, people need what they can’t bring. We men naturally assume we should have a girl on our arms, and perhaps you are thinking that this girl is the final thing you need to make the life complete. It likely should be. Nonetheless, truth be told, most people have a hard time coming to arrive at some of the basic property [character?]. I’m talking about the frame of mind to carry out the necessities of life. It completely goes against all that our logical system tells us to carry out, but nevertheless, on the contrary, bringing “Cut, Open, and Proceed” into your life does the job. Follow these steps as received from me, and you will also be on the new way, and also, you’ll get your ex within order to decrease the lazy and back to crazy about you.
Of course, it’s not possible to match all break ups. Even so, you have to accept one thing in particular and also understand it. You’ve got to tell her how you think, and show her she can say “yes” to your way. Moreover, it is advisable to give her your location and direction in life, and then make the effort to perform like it. But do not reveal your position when it is usually harming you. You are lucky if the pair of you are isolated so no one can break your relationship!
If other men become familiar with the guidelines I had been using, they can present themselves as reliable to trust and make a quicker progress. It would’ve beyond doubt saved me several lost years at the same time! If you could write a post for my method, readers can leave it bookmarked for their moment of defense.
Consider this and employ it to your benefit!
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