Pornstars now set the standard for beauty and attractiveness.
Author’s Note: This post is based on a conversation between NovaSeeker and TheDeti, and is coauthored with Jack.
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“Never dishonor your daughter by making her a prostitute, or the whole country will turn to prostitution and be filled with people who are perverted.”Leviticus 19:29 (GW)
Anyone who spends any time at the gym, or has seen a few TikTok shorts has probably noticed that there are quite a number women who don’t fit the standard western norm in terms of appearance. They actually look shapely and sexy! RedPillBoomer noticed this when he wrote,
“One thing I will say briefly about the Stacy’s at the gym, they sure now how to form fit their workout clothes to their bodies, barley anything is left to the imagination as far as what kind of curves they’re packing. No complaints, I just don’t remember those kind of gym outfits on the women back in the eighties and nineties.”
The standards changed.
Women who are “in shape” today are hotter, in terms of their bodies, because the standard changed from 1995 to 2021. In 2021, the standard is much more firm/toned/tight. Women do much much MUCH more resistance training and other routines today to make all their muscle groups toned and firm.
Why did this happen?
In my view, it’s a downstream impact of porn.
The difference between a 7 body in 1995 and a 7 body now is muscle tone/firmness/tightness. The 1995 body was more or less designed to look great in clothes, and fine in a bathing suit, but most girls did not have what were then called “bikini bodies” — even most 7s didn’t. The bikini body was a specific type of look, a much more toned body look overall than the average “hot” woman had in 1990-1995. In 1995, there were some girls who looked better with clothes than they did without, and some who looked better without than with, but since most girls wear clothes more than they are naked, most girls went for a look that looked better in clothes (including most “hot” girls in that era as well).
Along comes the mainstreaming of porn, and suddenly almost all men are looking at the kind of female bodies that look best naked all the time, in numbers that no men in prior history were ever exposed to. The women in porn are s1uts, but most of them are the kind of girls who look good naked, obviously.
Thus, the culture wide sex saturation created by ubiquitous pornography, Instagram, OnlyFans, Sugar dating, etc. is having enormous impacts on the rest of society at large, just as conventional prostitution and pre-internet pornography did.
This shifted the beauty standard for women towards “porn-worthy” bodies. Instead of a smaller portion of women having that kind of super-toned body, now all “hot” women are getting that kind of body by doing the kind of routines that yield it — which they didn’t as recently as 25 years ago. Now, a woman can’t be hot without having that kind of body — in order to be truly hot now, you have to have a porn-star body (sans the fake boobs) in terms of the body tone, firmness and so on.
Given that shift, clothing moved in the same direction. Again, that kind of body looks best without clothes. But girls aren’t going to work out naked, so …. we just make clothes that are basically like being naked while wearing clothes! And that is what was done.
Much of female “clothing” today truly is “clothing in name only”. It may cover the skin, but it reveals the body in ways that clothing previously generally did not do in the same way without revealing skin itself. Clothing has been redesigned to allow the display of an effectively nude female body while at the same time covering the skin so as to be “technically” clothing. Workout clothing has followed suit, and now there is crossover between workout and non-workout clothing for women as well.
All of this is easy to explain once you understand the porn-induced shift in the emphasis on female body tone, which has in turn resulted in a spike in demand for, and supply of, clothing that in effect displays a nude female body in everything but a technical sense.
It’s all porn now, whether you’re technically watching actual porn or not, unless you are literally blind.
The Bimbofication of Society
Something similar has, of course, happened with social interaction in general: people not speaking to people in public, not knowing their neighbors, but interacting with a large number of people virtually, on the internet, in their “tribes of choice”.
One effect is that sex is everywhere, and nowhere, at the same time – a seeming paradox. Schrodinger’s Sex Culture, if you will.
The culture is becoming increasingly sanitized of actual sexual interactions and banter between live persons. According to surveys, even younger people are having less of it than even GenX did. Even so, the culture as a whole, is marinating in raunchy sex at the same time. Sex is widely available and has never been so easy to get, yet increasing numbers of men cannot access women at all, not even for interaction and conventional dating, much less sex. Even if younger people are having less sex, virtually all women have had premarital sex. The transactional sex culture has become an entire underground culture, that more and more people are at least dabbling in, much like the rise of the Carousel in the 1970s.
The rise of the virtual is the main reason for this.
Sex is much more transactional. it’s always been the case that women expect to get something in return for sex. Used to be women would accept commitment, fidelity, a date, a free night out, and a man’s undivided attention where he dances like a monkey for her. Now? That’s not anywhere good enough. She wants cash and gifts, and she wants them now. Friend with benefits isn’t good enough. It’s not enough that you’re her friend. You’re now required to “pay” for her time with money and gifts.
Again, I point to the rise of the virtual as a main reason for this.
It’s always been the case that men were in it for the sex. It used to be that men would play the game and at least go through the motions. It used to be that men would dance the dance, run some Game, and show her a good time in exchange for at least a good chance that sex will happen at the end of the night. Whatever he has to do to get sex, that’s what he’ll do.
Now? Men’s response to the current state of affairs has been to either (1) demand sex, right now, or move on to the next woman; or (2) drop out altogether. The men who “dropped out” have an alternative now, which is to use OF (one step above conventional porn), get an escort, or get a sugar baby. He’s still doing whatever he has to do to get sex. Now, men get sex either by being so attractive as to be irresistible to a large swath of women; or offering up immediate cash on the barrelhead. Either way, he gets sex right now, no strings attached.
The Bimbofication of Sexuality and Attractiveness
The internet is having very significant changes on human life, on the margins, and it’s showing up in various ways. The impact on social life has been substantial, and in the realm of sex it has virtualized sex, to a significant degree, because the rise of the various apps and so on has made new possibilities for interaction possible for men (not just the standard porn, but now OF with its customized/tailored/personal content, interacting with cam girls, sugar babies and so on), and new avenues for gathering attention and male resources possible for women (same thing from the other side of the table). Meeting people for dating has become largely virtual as well, as we know, and this has had massive impacts, too, like excluding people who do not look very good in pictures from many dating opportunities, especially men. The internet-ization of everything is proceeding apace, and the changes are rippling through the culture faster than people can notice or assess them — it is no different in the areas of sex and men/women and we are foolish to think otherwise, in my opinion.
So it is with the amateur sex industry. Most women will not become Instathots. Most women will never become cam girls or Only Fans girls. Most women will not get into sugar dating. But we are already seeing a lot of effect on the culture at large. But there, the effect of the amateur sex industry is less on appearance and more on the way men and women deal with each other.
More generally, pornography represents a manifestation of the movement of sex away from always having a procreative element towards being primarily about shared pleasure and, if desired, the potential bonding that comes through that. Porn, of course, ditches the latter element, but under the new polysexual revolution regime, the latter element was always opt-in, just as the pregnancy element was. All you are left with is the pleasure principle, and porn caters precisely to this.
Yet with the internetification of porn, the impacts become more complex and wide-reaching. It’s correct that sexual behaviors and appearance expectations have been shaped, for both sexes — expectations about musculature of men have similarly increased almost cartoonishly, as have penis sizes, and black men have become fetishized via porn in a way that is reflected in the popular culture by such phenomena, just to take the most well-known example, as the Kardashian/Jenner crew, which just happens to feature a family of 6 white women, virtually all of whom are exclusively involved with black men, and so on.
And, in fact, the impact is even deeper than that. One of the porn world’s “dirty little secrets” is that areas like transgender erotica have, for a number of years now, and before the rise of the trans movement to the forefront of discourse, been among the leading growth areas of porn itself. More and more people have been viewing, and that means getting aroused by, transgender images, which means images of these “new, improved young trans women” than in the past, and this has also undoubtedly impacted overall attitudes towards trans persons, in particular among young people who are internet porn natives, having grown up with internet porn. The impact here is similar to the popularity of homosexual porn, especially homosexual porn depicting females, prior to the rise of gay rights, and how this has softened attitudes over the course of a generation, especially among women themselves, who became solidly pro-gay in the wake of the rise of porn. So the impact of these developments can be traced even to political and cultural movements that no-one is even thinking of when looking at porn, because people can’t connect the dots properly — the old paradigm of the harmless stack of playboys in Uncle Bob’s garage pretty much dominates the brains of most people over 45 when it comes to the topic of porn, and the mere suggestion of any broader impact gets a dismissive hand wave, if that.
Bimbofication in Personal Presentation and Appearances
Now, pornographic beauty standards have affected women’s overall physical appearance, leading to an almost comic exaggeration of feminine body traits. There is great emphasis on what I’ve called “the pornstar look” (which includes many s1ut tells): heavy makeup, sculpted eyebrows, heavy eyeliner and shadowing, perfectly manicured fingernails, and lipstick/lip accentuation. Breasts need to be shapely, and at least bigger than average. Cleavage is routinely shown in most modern dress. There is enormous emphasis on butts (J. Lo, Iggy Azalea, common porn culture, and IG photo technique). Butts have to be curvy with waist-hip ratios down to like .50. In addition to fuller breasts and butts, women want a Roman cheekbone structure, and plump lips. Women want to eliminate crow’s feet and forehead creases, We’ve long had breast implants. We now have implants for the cheeks, jaw, and chin. We now have butt implants. We now have botox injections for lips and wrinkles. Of course we have the $300 manicure/pedicure, in which a majority of women now indulge themselves, for anything from the French manicure to fake nails of all shapes, lengths, and colors. Fake eyelashes are ridiculously large and accentuated. About the only thing that’s gotten smaller about women is their hair.
All of this can be traced back to porn actress appearance and beauty standards.
But the impact is even broader than this, in odd ways as well. The desire to look like porn stars has fueled the development of technologies, especially surgeries and related techniques, to keep pace, and these are being deployed in a much larger number of women than in previous eras. At the same time, the demand from women to retain this kind of “porn-worthy” appearance until much later in life than was ever really desired or expected by either sex has fueled the rise of fitness and nutritional regimes, alongside the surgical and other medical techniques, to produce a crop of top tier appearance women in the 40-60 age range that literally never existed in the history of the human species. There simply were not women who looked like Elizabeth Hurley and Kate Beckinsale do today at their ages in the past — the “older attractive women” of the recent past — you can find their pictures on Google — like Sophia Loren or Elizabeth Taylor and so on, simply did not look like this because they couldn’t, the tech/training/nutrition regimens/etc. didn’t exist, and the average women didn’t aspire to it as well — again, because there was nothing to aspire to, since the techniques that are available now did not exist then. This has now “trickled down” from women like Hurley and Beckinsale, who are both genetically gifted as well, to the “average” attractive woman who is not genetically gifted in the same way, but can still “looksmaxx” her way to her substantial benefit all the way into her 50s with some effort and targeted expenditures. This, in turn, is changing their expectations of their own marriages, their husbands, their dating prospects outside of marriages, and, in some cases, even their earnings possibilities in industries that would pay for their appearances.
Similarly, as the rise of the gay movement was a direct consequence of the separation of heterosexual sex and procreation (which made gay sex and straight sex essentially the same thing culturally), the rise of the porn-driven beauty procedures/treatments/techniques and fitness/dietary regimens has given rise to the transgender movement, as growing numbers of young men, in particular, can use these same techniques and regimens to look more convincingly female, in a sexualized way, than has ever before been possible in human history. The fact that there is a slew of young “trans women” who simply look more feminine than any of these folks ever did in the past no matter how hard they tried has gone a long way to sway attitudes towards trans people just enough to make things that were unthinkable even a few short years ago — like trans women competing in women’s sports, or trans boys using girls locker and rest roomos — mainstream today.
Bimbofication in the Bedroom
The influence of pornography has even had a trickle-down effect into private sexual relationships.
Psychiatrist David Reuben’s Book “Everything You Always Wanted to Know about Sex (but were afraid to ask)” (No kidding, that really is the title) came out in 1969. Most of the information in there is obsolete, and some of it has been questioned by later mental health practitioners. But one of the things he wrote stuck with me: In post WWII/pre-sexual revolution America, most men went to prostitutes for fellatio, because their wives/fiancees/girlfriends wouldn’t do it. Up to the release of the pornographic film “Deep Throat” in the mid 1970s, fellatio was something that “polite” women just did not do. Or, at least, they didn’t talk about it. Fellatio was something that only low class women, prostitutes, and porn actresses did.
This attitude among women slowly whittled away with the growth of women’s sexual liberation, but was still common among a substantial minority of women in the American Midwest up to the late 1980s. They would do almost everything else, including P in V intercourse, but they would not perform fellatio. “Nice girls” in the American Midwest in the late 1980s didn’t do this. Or at least, didn’t talk about it. They were on the Pill and perfectly willing to go “all the way”, particularly if they really really liked you. But fellatio was out of the question.
Presently, it is the rare woman who will not do this, or has not done it. Nearly every woman under the age of 55 has learned how to do it and has done it. Most people trace this back to Deep Throat and the fact that men wanted their women to do this for them. Girls teach each other how to do it. Multiple articles have been written in women’s magazines on fellatio technique. There are websites and subreddits where this is talked about in graphic detail. You can watch technique “how to” videos on pornographic websites. Fellatio is talked about in film, in popular culture, and in media, in tones both serious and comedic. The internet has proliferated this. Sexual technique in general is talked about frequently and discussed, on websites, on subreddits, in online publications.
All this is true regarding anal sex as well, but to a somewhat lesser extent, I think. But nonetheless, the demand for anal, and the numbers of women willing to do it, is growing. This is in large part because of depictions of anal sex in pornography, that more women are willing to do it on camera (because it pays more), and that more men are wanting to do it or try it.
Maybe the most prominent effect is on women’s pubic hair grooming. It was the rare woman in the late 1980s who was doing anything with pubic hair other than occasional trimming. Now, women wax, shave, and trim on the regular, and almost all women do some form of girlscaping. Shaving pubic hair has become the poor girl’s waxing – it can be done as often as necessary and it’s much less expensive and less painful than waxing. This can also be traced to what porn actresses were doing with their pubic hair grooming (mostly waxing and the removal of all body hair below the waist).
It should now be glaringly evident to the reader that much of the trends we see in society, personal presentation and appearances, fitness, what is considered attractive, and even private sexual activities have been strongly shaped and contoured by standards that were only present in pornography not more than 30 years ago.
In addition to the cultural and sociosexual influences and the internet (which have been covered before), there have been advances in technology, cosmetic medical procedures, new diet plans, fitness routines, the development of anabolic therapeutic compounds that augment body building, and dietary supplements that increase weight loss, all of which have made bimbofication possible to any woman who cares to invest the time, effort, and money.
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