The west takes a walk on the wild side!
Author’s Note: This post is based on a conversation between TheDeti and NovaSeeker and is coauthored by Jack. Links to original comments are listed under References.
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In The Sexual De-Evolution (2021-07-28), Jack reported that Americans are having less sex on average, but there is a growing segment of the population that is engaging in sexual relations with multiple people. This post will take a look at how this segment has gained momentum.
Lightning Fast Changes over the Past Half-Century
I learned in high school in the mid-1980s that a historian maxim is “Change always happens slowly”. The history discipline might need to rethink that philosophy. Things have changed more rapidly and deeply in the past 30 years than they had in the previous 200 years, and more than at any other time in human history.
Much of this change is a result of the digital revolution.
For example, the way people buy and listen to music has been revolutionized several times over the past century:
78 rpm phonograph record (early 1900s to mid 1940s)
33 rpm vinyl LP record (mid 1940s to mid 1980s)*
8-track tape (mid 1960s to early 1980s)
cassette tape (early 1970s to mid 2000s)
CD (early 1980s to late 2000s)
MP3 (late 1990s to mid 2010s)
iTunes/Spotify/YouTube (mid 2000s to present)
* The LP record, in combination with vacuum tube amplifier technology, has slowly made a comeback among audiophiles due to its excellent analog sound reproduction.
This is phenomenally rapid. Within my own lifetime, I have bought music on 4 different mediums!
We have also seen a lot of changes in law and politics as well. In just 17 years, SCOTUS went from “It is NOT unconstitutional for a state to criminalize homosexual conduct” (Bowers v. Hardwick, 1986) to “It IS unconstitutional for a state to criminalize homosexual conduct” (Lawrence v. Texas, 2003). For constitutional jurisprudence, this is incredibly rapid change – a 180° reversal in 17 years! Supreme Court decisions just do not go 180° oppositely that fast.
Well, they do now, and apparently once they do, they accelerate with lightning speed. Because in 12 years, we went from “It is unconstitutional for a state to criminalize homosexual conduct” in 2003, to “The Constitution guarantees same sex couples the fundamental right to marry” in 2015 (Obergefell v. Hodges).
Historical framework has lost all credence to the present jurisprudence. It has become unreasonable, or even a joke, for a lawyer to pose an argument on grounds of legal precedent.
The manner of sexual interaction has also been fundamentally transformed. Before the mid 1960s the typical course to intercourse was…
- Date seriously
- Date exclusively
- Get engaged
- Get married
- Have sex
Sometimes the last two were flipped.
Since the turn of the century, the manner of sexual interaction has been…
- Meet online
- Meet in person
- Have sex
- Decide if you want to keep seeing each other. If not, then go to step 9.
- Date seriously
- Date exclusively
- Get engaged/married OR move in together OR break up
- Lather/rinse/repeat (serial pseudo-monogamy)
Having children is entirely optional to the woman and never to the man, and is possible anytime after step 3 is completed.
The Advent of Sexual Permutations
As you can see from the last list, sex has been moved up to the fore of the interaction. This is exactly what NovaSeeker described in his post, The Centrality of Sex in Western Culture (2021-02-08). Essentially, what has happened is that the recognition of others as unique individuals has been suspended in favor of objectifying others for the sake of maximizing sexual fulfillment. In other words, we value the opposite sex for their sexual market potential (or for QTBGL, their sexual identity), and we no longer value them for being made in the image of God. Thus, we tend to view the opposite sex as potential lays, and we no longer see them as human beings. The entire SMP has become a de facto eugenics program.
Once this intrinsic element of humanity is extracted from our consciences, and our psychological value systems have adjusted, the current transmogrification of sociosexual intercourse will have introduced the normalization of all manners of “alternative” lifestyles: polyamory, polygyny (e.g. soft harems), polyandry, gender fluidity, demisexuality, pansexuality, transgenderism, etc. This is painfully evident in the QTBGL crowd, who place their gender identity above all else, and demand others to recognize and accept this new identity.
The next wave of change will be p3d0philia and p3d3rasty.
We are already well down the road for poly/pan/demi/trans sexuality, and the last 2 will not be far behind.
In fact, Cambridge, Massachusetts now recognizes polyamorous partnerships,* thereby becoming the second municipality in the U.S. to legalize domestic partnerships between three or more people. The reason we didn’t see this on MSM is because TPTB know the wider populace is not ready for this… just yet… But wait…
Polyamory is already mostly accepted among the younger opinion making class. It will never be a majority practice, and it seems unlikely to me that it will get the same push for “equal rights” as QTBGL did, because there really isn’t a similar (if dishonest) “born that way” argument to be used to squeeze this into the race jurisprudence like Gay, Inc. managed to do for itself. The change here will be more social acceptance which, again, is already mostly there generationally. It’s possible we will see a push for poly marriage, but I don’t see it coming soon — most poly people don’t seem very interested in it, at least not anything like the energy there was behind QTBGL, probably because they are not into traditional arrangements by definition.
Polygyny is currently entrenched as the core feature of the SMP. Polygyny runs rampant in the form of soft harems**, but simply goes undiscussed. Leftist Liberal Robert Wright was already calling the post-sex-rev situation “de facto soft polygyny” back in the 1990s, before he was quietly told to STFU by his political fellow travelers, which he dutifully heeded, switching his lens to other topics since that time. Women don’t mind soft polygyny at all, which is why it isn’t a topic of critique. Hard polygyny, yes, that is disliked (which will also work against any momentum towards formally recognized polyamorous couples), but soft polygyny has been the dominant force in the SMP for decades now and is firmly entrenched. People just don’t use the word for it, often out of ignorance.
Polyandry is definitely a rising star to keep an eye on. If men’s ideal is the polygynous soft harem**, the female’s ideal is simultaneously having desire sex with hot alpha males while having a dutiful, loving, supportive beta male as a (backup) breadwinner, housemate, and co-parent (possibly as a human kleenex, but not a bedmate in the long term). Historically this hasn’t been realizable, pretty much at all, by women outside of hidden adulteries, because the beta husbands would not play along with that role.
However, that is changing somewhat. This is the “other side” of polyamory that no one ever talks about. When you do see poly couples in the media (in the obvious “trial balloon” articles that periodically appear at CNN’s site or elsewhere in the MSM about poly people), they are never polygynous and always poly-female — either polyandrous (H, W, and W’s BF) or poly-lez (two women and a man, but they hinge on the wife, not the husband). That is, the wife has a relationship with H and LezLove, but H doesn’t have sex with LL at all or, typically, even with W very much. In some cases H is merely a jealous, emasculated, throbbing-heart spectator brought on set merely to amp up the titillating prurience of the lecherous lesbian version of cuckoldry.
So poly stuff is growing, however small, so it shouldn’t be overstated in significance. The OASIS stuff Jack and NovaSeeker discussed (e.g. Instagram, OnlyFans, etc.) is much, much, much more significant than this is. But it is growing and therefore now is the time to become more aware of it and to observe it to see if it continues to grow. The limiting factor is obviously the willingness of men to “play ball”. With the increasing emasculation of younger generations of men becoming ever more obvious, it isn’t too much of a stretch to see this kind of thing continuing to grow on the margins. Again, something to keep an eye on.
Gender Fluidity is also growing, as masculinity continues to be attacked, and trans or “enbi” is becoming more commonplace. I do not think that this will ever displace typical gender expression, but I do expect that there will be an ongoing significant minority of non-conforming gender expression, and that the people who are “normies”, in terms of gender expression, will continue to be hectored by the culture making class as yet another means of fostering division among their “lessers”.
* H/T: Shadow to Light: Who is Pushing Polyamory? (2021-07-26)
** Soft Harem: A situation in which a man is bedding multiple women within the same time frame, either with or without their knowledge.
Rapid Vapid Change is the New Norm
We live in interesting – and rapidly changing – times.
The pace of change is breathtaking. So much so, that now we almost take it for granted. The young certainly do. That is, they do not expect anything but constant flux in all areas of life — how we live, relate, make money, interact… Even social norms and morality are subjected to post-truth subjectivity.
Men and women, people of all ages, will have to be agile, proactive, and immediately responsive in all areas of their lives, especially sexually and relationally. We can expect constant change, even constant disruptive change, in all of these areas, and on an ongoing basis.
Members of the younger generation who are growing up in this kind of environment are getting the implicit message that nearly anything goes. As such, young women, being the “gatekeepers of sex” that they are, have a smorgasbord of options to choose from. In our next post, Jack and I will be examining women’s responses to the influences of this culturally imposed sexuality.
- TheDeti’s comment 5550
- NovaSeeker’s comment 5556
- TheDeti’s comment 5559
- TheDeti’s comment 5560
- NovaSeeker’s comment 5573
- NovaSeeker’s comment 5574
- Σ Frame: A Study of Open Relationships (2015-09-08)
- Σ Frame: What is the difference between Open Relationships (OR) and Friends With Benefits (FWB)? (2015-09-10)
- Σ Frame: Why do humans conceal mating? (2021-01-27)
- Σ Frame: Revealing the motives behind unconcealed sex and nakedness (2021-01-29)
- Σ Frame: The Future of Intersexual Relationships is Transactional (2021-03-12)