An exploration of Asian acculturation as it relates to western sexuality.
Author’s Note: This essay has received significant input from NovaSeeker.
Reader’s Note: The author has lived in Taiwan for almost 17 years at the time of this writing.
Trigger Warning: This article discusses racial differences.
Length: 2,800 words
Reading Time: 8 minutes
Back in January, we looked at The Rise of the Amateur Online Sex Industry. Three noteworthy case studies who were focal points of this series, Nikole Mitchell, Mikayla Samountry, and Belle Delphine, are all of Asian descent (Korean, Laotian, and Chinese, respectively). It seems like an odd coincidence that the first two women are both Amer-Asian, and Delphine is British-Asian. Honestly, we didn’t pick these examples because they are Asian. It just so happens that something very curious occurs when Asian women enter into the world of Anglo Femlightenment, and this amalgamation contributes to the fact that many of the top female stars are Asian.
So really, what is it about Anglo-Asian women that creates this star studded sexuality and overall popularity* in general?
This post will offer westerners some insights into the Asian mystique.
In the west, men are judged by their confidence and persona, and women are judged by their beauty and social status, and everybody is seen through those lenses. Granted, there are many socially acceptable “overlays” that are adopted to shroud the reality of these intersexual perceptions, but it is what it is. The Red Pill is a late attempt to remove these overlays to reveal this basic human nature to the awareness.
Compared to Anglo-Saxon culture, there is much more variation among Asians in terms of personality, values, belief systems, and socialization. In my view, Asian people in general, and Asian women in particular, run a very wide spectrum, compared to westerners. The best of them are literally angels, and these quickly get snatched up by upper echelon men into marriage. Those who are not so good (as per comprehensive MMV) tend to travel/live abroad and/or marry foreigners.
I’ve written much more about cultural differences in two earlier posts.
- Σ Frame: The Cultural Contrast between the West and Far Eastern Asia (2015 July 9)
- Σ Frame: A Historical Contrast: Western and Asian Women (2018 September 15)
There is a common stereotype in the west that “Asian women don’t get fat.”
After living in Asia for many years, I can tell you a few things about this.
When Asian women are thin, their bodies look sleek and petite. Most Asian women don’t have buxom T&A like other races (some do), but they do have flat stomachs, good proportions, and graceful lines and curves. They can be very cute, and some are stunning. But if they gain a little extra weight, that impression evaporates leaving the formless, androgenous look that is stereotypical.
Asian women can get fat, just like any other race, but most Asian women are too conscious of their appearances to let themselves go too far. Asian women are very concerned about this, and a lot of Asian women actually starve themselves to stay thin. They usually don’t allow themselves to gain weight until they’ve reached an age when they no longer care about garnering attention and making social impressions. A lot of this is due to acculturation, so Asians who grew up outside of Asia don’t place as much emphasis on this (especially American Asians). However, an Anglo-Asian woman who does make the effort to stay thin will stand out like a superstar!
Of note, cosmetic surgery is commonplace in Taiwan and in Korea. 25% of women aged 21-30, and 35% aged 31-40, had plastic surgery in South Korea in 2020. I would guess it’s about the same in Taiwan. The most common cosmetic treatments are laser treatments for skin blemishes, followed by blepharoplasty (eye-jobs), and rhinoplasty (nose-jobs).
Needs and Expectations
Compared to western white women, there seems to be a much higher percentage of Asian women who need material comforts to be happy. Also, compared to WWW, there is a lower percentage of Asian women who view sexual fulfillment/contentment as indispensable. It has been interesting for me to find that many Asian women I’ve known easily recognize and accept these traits about themselves, and the differences between themselves and WWW. To paraphrase some common proverbs, I’ve heard said statements like…
- “No money, no honey!”
- “It’s better to cry in a Benz than to laugh in a Toyota.”
- “White women can live in the woods (viz. a poor financial condition) happily as long as they have a macho man.”
- “You know how [insert other race] men/women can’t keep their pants on/knees together/etc.”
From my initial impression, I had the idea that Asian women were frigid gold-diggers. But after living in Taiwan for a while, and dating some women here, I learned that this is simply not true. They can be extremely generous to those whom they care about (freely offering gifts and spots in the low US$ hundreds range), and their sexual enthusiasm is definitely not lacking.
All of the above are due to both cultural and racial differences.
In the US, women who emphasize money and luxury are dismissed as materialistic, but in Asia, it is accepted as an intrinsic characteristic of female nature. So it is expected that a man should supply sufficient material comfort to the woman if he wants her to stick around. Actually, this is true, and it fits the Biblical concept of women.
In Asia, women who emphasize sexual fulfillment are dismissed as hedonic and/or low class, and in many cases, emotionally needy or broken. But again, it is not viewed as something dirty or abnormal as some religiously conservative westerners might see it. A word roughly translated as “chowderhead” is considered to be a more offensive insult to a woman than $1ut or wh0re, and is used for equivalent purposes. But in the US, it is accepted as an intrinsic characteristic of female nature (although it is taboo to talk about it as such). So it is covertly expected that a man should fulfill all her romantic/sexual needs if he wants her to stick around. Asian women can intuitively recognize this trait about WWW, but in the west, only the Red Pill will openly admit this.
So, it is kind of the opposite situation between the east and the west, including the openness about the facts. Asians are quite honest about human nature and they’ll joke about the bad aspects. But westerners want to paper over the embarrassing aspects, thinking it rude, profane, or non-PC to be so honest.
Case Study 1 – Nikole Mitchell
Let’s go over Nikole Mitchell’s situation again from the viewpoints of her acculturation.
Physically, Nikole is one of the few Amer-Asian girls who can plausibly hide her identity. When I first saw her pictures in that article at the NY Post, I thought she had a very attractive face and especially interesting and striking eyes, but she didn’t strike me as Asian, even in part. But … once you know she’s Amer-Asian, if you look back at the pictures … you immediately see it very clearly, and it’s hard from thence forward to not see her as Asian-American, even in terms of her appearance. She’s kind of “stealth” in that regard. She doesn’t hide it totally, to her credit, but she totally doesn’t emphasize it, either, which she can manage because of how she specifically looks, and this is likely convenient for her in terms of her cultural distancing from her Korean-ness at this stage of her life as well. Her three brothers (there is a family picture from the last few years somewhere in her Instagram feed) are all much more obviously Korean-American than Nikole is, in terms of appearance. I wonder if they are culturally as well.
To me, she seems rather “Americanized”, and far removed from her Korean ancestry. However, we do have a few clues about that side of her. Her mother is Korean, not Korean-American, but Korean. Nikole is “Korean enough” to be bilingual, and when her husband John met her she was teaching in Korea. But, unlike him, she wasn’t teaching English to Korean kids, she was teaching “real subjects” in a Korean high school. So I think she is much, much more Korean than she likes to emphasize or portray to western audiences. She is probably hiding certain characteristics and mannerisms that would give it away.
In addition to that, I think we also have to be careful to assume that Nikole’s descriptions of her own background reflect what she was being taught in the home/church about things, or rather whether they reflect the ideology she adopted when she became associated with the LGBT ideology and all of its writings. My guess is that it’s a mix of both, but some of the ways that she chooses to describe things are so textbook feminist that they can’t have been ideas she had before she read them in some feminist text. This is even doubly the case because Christianity is being made to do all the work, rather than sharing the work with her Korean-ness, because she wants to pin things on one side and not the other — because pinning it on both would be uncool in 2021.
In fact, I think a good amount of her complaints about “patriarchy”, and her angst about “roles for women” and “the role of sex”, and so on, it is directed not only at the US culture (although it certainly is directed at our culture here), but also at Asian patriarchal culture, because although her father himself is American, she grew up with Korean cultural influences in her house due to her mother and presumably extended family in Korea, and this seems to have formed cultural expectations in the home as well (which is understandable, given the role that “Tiger Mom’s” set in that regard).
Thus, when we consider how her personal issues stem from both sources, we see her behavior as being rather curious in that she only talks about one of them — she doesn’t want to talk about the Korean side of things, because that doesn’t play well in our culture, where it is not fashionable to point out that non-American cultures are less “progressive” about women’s issues. And she does that even when one such culture was obviously front and center in her life. If anything she works very hard to hide her Korean-ness most of the time, and that’s probably because of the dissonance it creates in her.
Nikole strikes me as someone who likes to tout her “biracial” background when she wants to, as an intersectional “box-checker”, like she does with LGBT. But in fact, she does not currently have anything to do with the Korean-American community, nor anything else relating to that aspect of her identity, probably because she sees it as totally unsupportive and retrograde. In that regard, in light of her current choices, she is probably correct!
We know from John that Nikole’s relationship with her family is “strained” due to her choices. This is likely from all of them, but I would not be surprised if a good amount of the reason why it is so strained is that she has done things now that are real “face”-losers for her mother and, to a lesser extent, her three brothers for the reasons cited above — Asian culture does not support a woman following her own sexual lust where ever it may lead her like American culture often does, even if the family had some financial struggles which likely reduced their opinion of John to some degree.
In this regard, I think it’s important to remember that Nikole is very *public* about what she is doing, so to the extent that the family has friends and relatives and so on, at least some of whom must be Korean, they may have (likely some certainly have) seen her Instagram, and know all the details about Nikole’s current lifestyle — if that’s the case, it’s a devastating loss of face for her mother and, to the extent they care (and I am guessing they do somewhat) her three brothers. From her family’s perspective of “losing face”, her decision is most likely seen as some form of rebellion or revenge, and I’m sure that makes repairing the breach even harder than it would be in the case of a purely “Western” family, which views conservative rebellion as more or less acceptable, or at least expected to some degree, which the culture of her mother’s family does not. It also makes it more plausible that she is as independent and isolated as John describes — because a WWW would not be so isolated, even if she made Nikole’s choices, due to the overwhelming tendency of western culture to support any choices made by a WWW.
Now that she is in the top 0.1% of OnlyFans earners, I wonder how high she would have to get, or how much income she would have to have, before her family starts to get over the shame of it all, and begin to feel like it is acceptable to them.
Case Study 2 – Makayla Samountry
Makayla Samountry was another case study we covered before. I was very curious about her surname – it turns out it’s Laotian-American. Minnesota has a small but significant Laotian community, which readers may not know about. It seems clear that Makayla is not pure Laotian, either, but like Nikole, she has a kind of ambiguous look ethnically — although she looks less white than Nikole does … perhaps more mixed Latin or something like that, but I would guess that has to do with the difference between NE and SE Asia more than anything else.
Samountry mentions in her videos that her family was not thrilled about her activities on OnlyFans, and her detailing them for the broader public on her popular YouTube channel, and about her break-up with her landlord/boyfriend which happened in the wake of her OnlyFans success, but she is much less of an open book than Nikole Mitchell is. Still, she is an example of a woman from a fairly restricted East Asian cultural background really going to the other extreme in the context of the much more permissive local culture of the United States.
The Special Recipe for Star Studded Sino Sexuality
NovaSeeker mentioned before that Sticking the Landing is for the Elite. Women who are UMC or higher, and are able to stick the landing, have the following traits.
- Attractiveness / Looks
- Intelligence / Smarts
To put this into the context of the present discussion, Asian culture, including the women, aspire to all of these things. (Intelligence cannot be changed, but it is something they value.) Money/wealth is regarded as both a motivator and a benefit.
Specifically, the shared traits of these women (Nikole Mitchell, Makayla Samountry, and Belle Delphine) include (1) being comparatively attractive, (2) disciplined, and (3) focused. These three traits line up with NovaSeeker’s first three points. And while Delphine does not appear to have attended university, both Mitchell and Samountry have college degrees).
It’s at least possible that among Anglo-Asian women there is an odd intersection that happens between Asian-sourced focus on wealth (i.e. the greedy gold-diggerness stereotype) and American-sourced sexual fulfillment (as characterized by licentiousness). The cross-cultural influences of NovaSeeker’s last two points, education and upbringing, introduce both (4) cash consciousness, and (5) sexual adventurism into the mix, and all at the same time.
Seems like an interesting combo of traits to say the least, and probably not at all the kind of combo that their parents were expecting the mix to yield. In some ways, it’s like attractive Anglo-Asian women are the “fully loaded vehicle” predators of the OASIS, possessing the perfect combination of drive, savvy, looks and materialism to propel them to extreme levels of success in a culture which has no practical limits on the ability of women with such traits to monetize them to great effect.
To be honest, the first four attributes offer a seemingly negative but fairly true description of Asian women in general. Westerners might have the notion that these traits describe a strong, independent, feminist woman. However, all these things can be positive attributes if her husband can access the benefits of those traits, as opposed to being a victim or tool of such a woman. Western men only know that it’s hә11 to be the victim of the same, but Asian men kind of expect their women to pull a little of their own weight in certain regards, and if the woman has the same mind, then these traits are considered to be positives. This may be another reason why Asian women are so highly demanded by men of all races.
* Note: The appeal of Anglo-Asian females is not limited to the Meat Market. We also see noteworthy Asian females rise to popularity in other venues as well. One example worth mentioning here is S. G. Cheah, an author at Evie magazine who writes articles that are more based than not. Take this one for example…
Evie Magazine (S. G. Cheah): The Feminization Of Men Cheats Women Out Of Our Natural Desire To Admire Strong Men (2021 January 2)**
Cheah gets a whole lot of stuff right! Except that she seems to mistakenly think that MGTOW starts with men’s unhealthy thinking, not with an unhealthy world to which those men then naturally react in order to protect themselves. So there is still that lack of ordinary women taking any responsibility for the mess they created. Apparently radical feminists and their soy boys are to blame. (It’s always somebody else’s fault!)
The article is perhaps a sign that the Red-Pill message is gaining a bit more traction, even if it is only one Feminist author who is seemingly only asking us to return to Complementarianism. The fact that a Feminist magazine published it at all is shocking. It kind of goes back to my long standing point that the most influential contributors to Based philosophy/Red Pill in the west all hail from foreign cultures.