What makes Plain Jane so irresistible?
Author’s Note: This post received some input from NovaSeeker.
Reader’s Note: This post will conclude this month’s theme: The Inspiration of Beauty and Nature.
In Asia, there is an idiom/stereotype that beautiful women marry rich men, and ugly women marry foreigners. It is laughed about, because everyone thinks it’s true.
But as a foreigner myself, I disagree. I think that the foreign men I know who are married to Taiwanese wives, have very attractive wives – much more attractive than the average wife in Taiwan. I always recognized this as a cultural difference. But after mulling it over, I’ve realized that Asians are judging the attractiveness of a woman by Asian beauty standards, which place more value on facial attractiveness than any other aspect of aesthetic beauty, while foreign men typically judge the attractiveness of a woman based on her sex appeal. There is a difference.
This post will take a look at a few pictorial examples and review some of these differences.
What are the markers of female attractiveness?
In my experience, I’ve seen that outstanding beauty is not strongly correlated with attractiveness, or more bluntly, sex appeal. For example, supermodels are supposed to fit the bill of a perfect beauty, but there are lots of supermodels who can’t pass a basic boner test. Then there are some women who are so average looking, not even modestly beautiful, and yet somehow, they have the ability to attract a lot of male attention, incite desire, and draw out men’s protective instinct (or maybe just from certain kinds of men). I’ve also noticed that the latter type of women usually have many of the following aspects.
- Dimorphously feminine
- All the physical attributes of fertility (e.g. younger looking, thin, large perky bust, low WHR, etc.).
- Physical attributes of good health (e.g. long, thick, shiny hair, a glowing complexion, physically fit, etc.)
- They usually have healthy looking skin, but not always. Some have very bad acne, but it doesn’t detract from the overall effect.
- Modestly applied makeup, or none at all
- A certain vulnerability in their personal presentation
- “Simple minded”, not in the sense of being dumb, but in the sense of being happy, thankful, humble, and demure. They don’t have a cynical, elaborate mental image of men and people in general.
I think something similar happens for women too, in how they view some men. I know that some women go nuts over certain men who are rather average by every classical Manospherian estimation. It’s hard to tell either what percentage of people are like this, or what percentage of people experience attraction in this way. The actual number may be larger than we might guess, because a guy is unlikely to brag about having the hots for Slow Poke Sally.
Case Study – Purple Lena
NovaSeeker brought this example on Instagram to my attention as we were working on the coverage of OnlyFans back in February. This is a university student from Germany who posts no really racy pictures — no bathing suits, no lingerie, no “covered” nude shots, etc. She has an average face at best (perhaps even below average in some men’s estimations), and doesn’t seem to even really try with her hair. (It isn’t terrible, but it isn’t like what girls who are serious about IG pics try do with their hair.) But admittedly, she has a very nice body — curvy, leggy, fairly fit, and firm, nice skin.
She doesn’t have an OF, but she has a Patreon page where she sells patronages and “VIP memberships”. She says there openly that there are no nudes or even lingerie pictures, but just more pictures than what she posts on IG, and some “behind the scenes”, and that she will read DMs. The highest level (“VIP”) costs $117 per month! She says she limits these to 10, total, but the site says only 4 are remaining — so that means she’s getting at least around $700 a month, from 6 “VIPs”, and who knows how much from her lower status levels (the next level down costs $17.50/month). I’ll bet she’s making around USD$1,000 per month. And this is by having a very small number of guys pay, and not having any nude/lingerie/sexy content (other than the “sexy” street clothes you can see girls wearing every summer in any public space), and the “privilege” of her reading your DMs. And this for a girl who is not even a minor celeb, and who doesn’t have an objectively pretty face. But obviously, there must be something about her that is considered attractive to men.
If this girl were willing to take pictures in her underwear and bathing suits, she’d probably make a few thousand USD per month quite easily, and again, she isn’t a beauty queen.
It’s really incredible what guys will pay for. There are lots of desperate guys out there driving this, no doubt. But even so, a man could, just as easily, drop his money on another girl who has a more beautiful face and is posting nudes, or else browse the perfect 10s on Porn Tube for free.
I would not doubt that this German girl is getting most of her money from German gamer dudes who have seen her on gaming streams and so on, because she says that’s how she got started posting pictures in response to requests from her viewers.
Propinquity and familiarity (or virtual propinquity/familiarity in this case) might explain this.
I’ve collected a few photographs of women that capture this phenomenon. They appear below in order of decreasing beauty and increasing attractiveness.
As you can see, some of the women pictured above are beautiful but not attractive, while others are attractive but not beautiful. The cold, statuesque image of beauty is what is toted as the ideal, but this doesn’t necessarily pass the proverbial boner test.
Moreover, I believe there is a spiritual element of attraction that has been completely overlooked or dismissed within Manospherian literature.
A part of this difference might be described as being able to incite desire without being classically beautiful. It’s hard to tell how humble these women actually are.
Exit Question: What do you think creates sexual appeal when beauty is substandard or lacking? Please comment.
- The Rules Revisited: Feminine Beauty Is Highly Controllable (September 21, 2011)
- The Rules Revisited: The Importance of Hair (March 10, 2012)
- The Rules Revisited: How to Improve Your Hair (March 17, 2012)
- The Rules Revisited: What Men Think of You Without Makeup (April 1, 2013)
- The Rules Revisited: Older Women Can Still Be Sexy (September 15, 2015)
- Christianity and Masculinity: Women Don’t Really Understand Male Attraction and Implications (April 12, 2017)
- Christianity and Masculinity: Feminine Beauty is Highly Controllable – Theory and Analysis Part 2 (April 20, 2017)
- Planners Shop: What Do Men Find Attractive In Women? (2020 November 17)