Adultery in the military is common, but mostly overlooked, unless it erupts into something bigger.
Readership: All; Those in the military;
I was tagged in a tweet from Rich Cooper, asking how the military laws deal with adultery. The issue came up because an enlisted man caught his wife having an affair, and he wanted to know what he could do about it. I’m not a lawyer, but I can tell you what I know about this.
Adultery is rather common among the lower ranking members of the military (i.e. enlisted), and it happens at the upper echelon levels as well, but not as frequently. It happens because men are sent overseas on missions and assignments, and they don’t see their wives for months and months. This leaves the woman with a lot of time and freedom on her hands, and it’s very easy for her to engage in a tryst with very little chance of being found out by the husband.
The standard advice to men in the military is not to get married until they get out. But many men choose not to follow this advice, and then get burned when their wife has an affair or their marriage blows up.
The Red Pill wisdom says that marriage is not going to “lock her down”, as is hoped. In fact, in the case of servicemen in the military, getting married soon before a deployment seems to aggravate the possibility of cheating.
There’s a number of DOD directives that are pretty easy to find about how the military code of justice handles adultery. Basically, the way the military approaches the issue of adultery in a vacuum, is that it doesn’t.
The military would rather approach the issue under the spirit of the law, rather than the letter, and use it as a tool to deal with other kinds of issues.
The garden variety cheating couple in the military are probably never going to be charged with adultery, even though it is technically illegal.
What I found is a list, or an algorithm, that determines when and how a person is going to be charged with adultery. Basically, if the adultery causes a loss of morale, unit cohesion, mission endangerment, then being charged with adultery becomes a real possibility.
If someone gets an adultery charge, it’s only because they want to throw the book at them for a bunch of other stuff that’s going on.
For example, let’s say the commander of the unit is sleeping with specialist so and so, and the other members of the unit find out about that, then the question comes up, “What kinds of special favors is she getting out of that deal?”, and then this causes a breakdown in the chain of command. In this kind of situation, adultery will be brought up as a charge.
Basically, what will happen is that the person will be charged with A, B, C, … and adultery, by the way, because they’re guilty of that too.
But aside from a full blown scandal, adultery only comes to light under something much more egregious, like a drug operation, or a prostitution ring.
It’s very rare that someone will be charged with “just” adultery. The brass will usually be pressing charges on a lot of other things before that happens.