Does your significant other start a fight every time you walk out the door?
I have decided to do some live-stream/call-in stuff on my YouTube channel, because it seems this is the best way I can reach people who need what I can offer.
To start with, I want to talk a little about personality disorders, and some other psychopathology that Red Pill YouTubers sometimes don’t have the clinical expertise to deal with on their shows.
So here’s my first video.
In this video, I’m covering another video about Narcissism from a popular YouTube personality, Richard [couldn’t catch his last name].
One important distinction that Richard makes is that there is a popular but false notion that culture has become narcissistic.
“If you look at the mass of people… our culture has become narcissistic. But if you look at the traits for classic grandiose Narcissism and compare them to the traits of Borderline Personality Disorder, we’ve actually become far more Borderline than we have become Narcissist.”
He goes over the nine traits of BPD with some interesting amplifications. But in this video, I’ll just cover the first one: “Fear of Abandonment”. As Richard says, this is actually better described as a soul-numbing, world-stopping “abandonment terror”.
If you meet up with a person who has abandonment issues, I’d advise you to pass.
But if you decide to pursue that relationship with the confidence that you could be the person who could deal with that, or if you are already joined to such a person, then I have some professional advice for that.
What can I do?
First of all, you have to identify the problem correctly.
Sometimes, people with this issue will usually announce to you pretty early in the relationship that they have abandonment issues, and they can even pinpoint the exact childhood event that triggered this pathology.
But in general, the person is either unaware of their pathology, or they are unaware of its effects. They don’t understand that no one actually causes you to feel anything.
What does it mean to have abandonment issues?
It means, if you leave on a business trip for a few days, then she’s going to start a fight. She does this because she cannot handle the idea of abandonment, so she will auto-reject you in order to avoid the possibility of you leaving her first.
Picking fights before a time of separation indicates that the person has not yet overcome their pathology.
How do you deal with this?
You have to ask the person…
- Can you describe what your abandonment issue means to you?
- How does this manifest in day to day living?
Then you have to honestly ask yourself…
- Am I going to be able to deal with that?
On my YouTube channel, I will continue to go over some case studies of guys dealing with women with abandonment issues, so if this is of interest to you, then you can subscribe to my YouTube channel and stay tuned.
For professional advice, you can call me at 406-594-1168, or write it up in an email, and send it to…
For guys who are reading and commenting here, I’d like for you to think about relationships that you’ve been in in the past, with girls who have said they have abandonment issues. If you have a story to tell, this would make for a great discussion towards increasing our general knowledge of the topic.
- Σ Frame: A Study of Borderline Personality Disorder (2016 May 30)