Readership: Fathers; Parents; Grandparents; Christians;
The author of Biblical Gender Roles made the following statements in a comment.*
“From everything I have seen of Red Pill, it completely rejects a man appealing to a woman’s sense of duty and honor as if women are incapable of having any such sense. So according to the [secular] Red Pill, the following endeavors are utter absurdity and a fool’s errand.”
- A father teaching his daughter that it is her duty to give her body to her future husband.
- A father teaching his daughter that it is her duty to cultivate a desire for her future husband.
- A husband appealing to his wife’s sense of honor, faith, and duty to God for her to behave in a spiritually obedient manner.
- A husband appealing to his wife to willingly give her body to him as an expression of love and respect.
- A husband appealing to his wife to cultivate her own desire for him.
I’ll comment briefly on each of these applications.
The first two statements in the list concern the raising of daughters. I have written one post (so far) about how to properly discipline daughters: 13 Disciplines in Dealing with Delectable Daughters (2018 January 29). I also wrote a case study in which I moulded a neighboring divorced woman’s daughter: A Girl Becomes a Lady (2017 December 26).
Children are especially mouldable, and so parents have a major responsibility to form daughters into young women who are emotionally mature and spiritually disciplined as adults. Unfortunately, this is a lost art form. Most of today’s generation of proud, arrogant, entitled, promiscuous women were raised by a previous generation (dare I say the Boomers), who were themselves rebellious and liberal, and therefore were undisciplined in their approach to child rearing.
The last three statements in the list concern the conduct of wives and wife moulding. The application of these statements bifurcates into two general areas, according to what kind of woman we’re dealing with.
- For the wife who is emotionally mature and spiritually regenerated, it’s about facilitating and rewarding her habitual choice to be spiritually obedient (to God).
- For the wife who is emotionally immature and/or fleshly minded, we’re talking about discipline and wife moulding. This is important, because if she doesn’t get her act together, the marriage, even to a good-willed, self-sacrificing, spiritually obedient husband, is bound to fail. Also, if she happens to be one who lacks self-control, then the marriage is incalculably unstable. In this case, the husband will need to utilize some game to satisfy her needs in order to decrease the chances of her spilling the pudding.
“But we know from history that women, when properly trained in their faith, can actually have a great sense of duty and honor. In other words, if a woman truly loves God and his Word she can and will love her husband. A woman can learn to give her body, even when she does not desire it, from a sense of duty and honor. This is all foreign to Red Pill from what I have seen.”
I agree that women can have a great sense of duty, honor, and even loyalty, but this is habitually overlooked in most secular Red Pill literature. I believe this omission is partly due to the fact that this kind of woman is exceedingly rare, too rare to put any faith in finding one by chance, and partly because this knowledge is essentially meaningless to the secular Manosphere’s target audience – younger men looking to score.
It is an omission now being covered through this response to BGR.
First, consider this proverb.
“Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” ~ Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV)
Of course, this also applies to female children.
Based on this verse, I postulate that such women worthy of marriage might increase in number, provided they have a suitable education and training. I am not referring to a liberal arts degree in gender studies (unless it’s hosted by BGR). I mean, having an upbringing filled with continual education and training on how to be responsible, faithful, and dignified wives and mothers (as opposed to irresponsible, unfaithful, and indignified wimminz).
The historical importance of Finishing School
In times long past, wealthy families used to send their daughters to what was known as a “finishing school”. (Think “finish”, as in being thoroughly prepared and ready for use, like a glossy oil finish on woodwork.) Finishing school taught young ladies the arts of home economics, cooking, cleaning, mending, child care, as well as proper etiquette and social graces. But that’s not all. From a Red Pill standpoint, it also taught women to be self-aware, humble, respectful, deferential, and self-disciplined. Finishing school, for women, was as emotionally and physically taxing as basic training was for enlisted servicemen. This is why many families believed that finishing school was absolutely necessary to prepare a young woman for marriage life. The qualification of having completed finishing school also served to help young women who aspired to land high (or higher, according to her hypergamic filters) MMV husbands. For many families of refined taste, a young woman was not considered eligible for marriage unless she had attended finishing school, and by doing so, had diligently prepared herself for married life. In recent times, the influences of feminism have all but eradicated the practice of finishing school.
I’m still searching for a finishing school in Switzerland that goes by the name of Chateau Heartiste. I know there’s got to be one there somewhere!
In my opinion, finishing school was for parentally lazy fat cats who were too busy working, traveling, and making money to spend the time and effort necessary to educate their spoiled rotten children themselves. You don’t need to have such opulent means to train your children well. I suggest that parents should be teaching their children (not only daughters) on how to be finished individuals. In addition to this, churches and other social organizations could offer the equivalent of finishing school to young people in their congregations.
Home schooling is a necessary daily exercise
I know this connection (that disciplined daughters become faithful wives) is highly theoretical, especially since we never see this happening anymore. But I am convinced it is true. Parents need to teach and discipline their children, both boys and girls, and start from a young age.
Consider this passage from the scriptures.
4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one! 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.
6 “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” ~ Deuteronomy 6:4-9 (NKJV)
When I look around, I don’t see any Christian parents who are in the habit of even mentioning anything about the Bible outside of chirtch. Tsk, Tsk…
Later in this passage, it gives the reason why we must teach God’s statues and commandments to our children.
24 “And the Lord commanded us to observe all these statutes, to fear the Lord our God, for our good always, that He might preserve us alive, as it is this day. 25 Then it will be righteousness for us, if we are careful to observe all these commandments before the Lord our God, as He has commanded us.’” ~ Deuteronomy 6:24-25 (NKJV)
This same command is reiterated again five chapters later.
16 “Take heed to yourselves, lest your heart be deceived, and you turn aside and serve other gods and worship them, 17 lest the Lord’s anger be aroused against you, and He shut up the heavens so that there be no rain, and the land yield no produce, and you perish quickly from the good land which the Lord is giving you.”
No wonder! This is already happening to the U.S. and Europe. Tsk, Tsk…
18 “Therefore you shall lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 19 You shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. 20 And you shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, 21 that your days and the days of your children may be multiplied in the land of which the Lord swore to your fathers to give them, like the days of the heavens above the earth.”
The message for Christians (I believe) is that (at least some) women have the potential to become virtuous (i.e. righteous), but it all depends on whether we as a family, and as a society, want it desperately enough, and whether our daughters are able to accept our teaching, and the testimony of our lives. It follows that such a woman must then enter into a redemptive life experience which can set her on the upward path – such as home schooling or finishing school.
22 “For if you carefully keep all these commandments which I command you to do — to love the Lord your God, to walk in all His ways, and to hold fast to Him — 23 then the Lord will drive out all these nations from before you, and you will dispossess greater and mightier nations than yourselves.” ~ Deuteronomy 11:16-23 (NKJV)
Think about that last verse for a moment. If your main concern has only been that your daughter might get pregnant out of wedlock, then your mind is in the gutter. It’s time to recalibrate your mind and set your sights higher.
If you think I’m toting some version of a prosperity gospel, then you’ve missed the point. The point is that getting involved is going to improve your life, and your children’s lives too. Talking to your daughter about various things on a regular basis is going to improve her future.
In conclusion, the parents’ faithful discipline and teaching their daughters (and sons) during childhood and adolescence, produces emotionally mature, responsible, and faithful wives (and higher quality men).
If the nuclear family and the church community cannot offer the necessary teaching and discipline, along with a meaningful social structure and a clear life path for young people, then we’re unwittingly handing our children over to the tortuous and destructive devices of this world. Satan will always be willing and waiting to entice our daughters to explore the SMP, exercise her feral hypergamy, transform her into a highly educated wh0re, and then whip her hopeless heart senseless. Those women who fall for the ploy are eventually forced to become cruel, heartless b!tch!z (AKA a Strong Independent Woman™) in order to secure resources and affirmation for themselves, before retiring as burnt out felinephiles. Tsk, Tsk…
Fathers, don’t default to stand-by mode while your daughters are growing. We must take some kind of action. Make it a daily activity, not just an alarming one-off lecture with disheartening gravity. Write it on the doorposts of your house! Also consider home schooling, or finishing school, or a similar training program for your daughter.
* BGR’s statements have been paraphrased for the sake of clarity and conciseness.
- Study in Switzerland: Finishing Schools In Switzerland: Everything You Need To Know (2019 March 12)
- Bible Reasons (feat. Fritz Chery): Teaching Children (2020 January 7)