After refusing to obey the scriptures, Christian women have the gall to expect men to marry them up!
This article was previously published on July 19, 2018 on Lexet Iustitia.
Controversy has plagued the interweb dens of many Christian women over this article written by Lori Alexander more than a year ago, “Men prefer debt free virgins without tattoos“. I encourage everyone to read the article. It has provoked disgust in women who are obviously feminist-indoctrinated.
What was the cause of the controversy? This quote:
“Do you know how much more attractive debt-free virgins (without tattoos) are to young men? Unfortunately, there are so few of these types of young women anymore because of the high costs of college (debt) and sexual promiscuity even within those in the church. As believers in Jesus Christ, we need to live in a way that is pleasing to Him because His ways are the best. He calls debt a burden and urges us to live lives of sexual purity.”
In the article, the author encourages women to
“…carefully consider whether or not they go to college, especially if they want to be wives and mothers someday. Secular universities teach against the God of the Bible and His ways. It’s far from what God calls women to be and do: it teaches them to be independent, loud, sexually available, and immodest instead of having meek and quiet spirits.”
“If they go to college, they are unlikely to stay home raising their children to pay off the debt and use the degree they spent years on.”
Even more “revolting” was:
“Young women, be wise in the path that you choose to walk on. Keep a long-term vision of your life and how you hope it will be someday instead of acting upon all of the “what ifs…?” that many will throw at you. Trust God with your life, study the Word, and take the narrow path that leads to life. Stay virgins until marriage, out of debt, and don’t get tattoos!”
The theme of every reaction is that:
- It’s mean!
- It hurts my feelings!
- It doesn’t take exceptions 4,342, or 8921(w) into account.
- I did all of that and I am still not married.
- It goes against the gospel!
This reaction might be expected, since Churchianity has watered down the requirements of the Law so much, that Churchians can no longer distinguish the difference between the carnal and the spiritual.
Never once does the article say a woman has to be a virgin in order to be married, or to be saved. She merely stated Christian men’s preferences. Also, the gospel is about salvation, not about Captain Save-A-Ho™.
At Boundless (feat. Erica Wilkinson): An Open Letter to the Author of “Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos” (2018 July 18), one commenter, Sara Brunsvold, put herself in a box with this comment.
“What MEN prefer should not be the concern of young women. What GOD prefers should be their top concern. We as women are not meant to pursue and find wholeness in MEN but rather in Our Eternal Father. And for us “big sisters” in Christ, we must remember that the most important command over our younger sisters is not to be wives and mothers, but to be lovers of God and doers of His will.”
Lori’s article was written as helpful advice to single women seeking “love” (from a man). But Sara is talking like a nun admonishing younger sisters to live a life of celibacy. (I seriously doubt that she’s a nun.)
I believe the majority of women are not called to live a life of celibacy. The only moral alternative is for them to become wives and mothers.
What exactly does God “prefer” for young women who aspire to be wives and mothers?
Lori’s message is fairly accurate, according to what the Bible says in 1 Timothy 2:9-12;15.
“…women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.
Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.”
Yet she will be saved through childbearing — if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control.”
No debt or tattoos here. Titus 2:3-5 states,
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good…
…so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”
No premarital carousel riding here. “Loving their husbands” is not quite the same thing as “loving Chad ThunderC0ck”.
Lori’s Biblical Message has been Refused
Instead of conforming to the image of a Christian woman prescribed by the Bible, modern wimmin, including many “Christian” women, have gone after being the kind of woman Proverbs 5 warns us against as “forbidden”.
3 For the lips of a forbidden woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil,
4 but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death; her steps follow the path to Sheol;
6 she does not ponder the path of life; her ways wander, and she does not know it.
7 And now, O sons, listen to me, and do not depart from the words of my mouth.
8 Keep your way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house,
9 lest you give your honor to others and your years to the merciless,
10 lest strangers take their fill of your strength, and your labors go to the house of a foreigner,
11 and at the end of your life you groan, when your flesh and body are consumed,
Proverbs 7:10-21 goes further in describing the characteristics of a forbidden woman and likens her to a prostitute.
10 And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart.
11 She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home;
12 now in the street, now in the market, and at every corner she lies in wait.
13 She seizes him and kisses him, and with bold face she says to him,
14 “I had to offer sacrifices, and today I have paid my vows;
15 And now I have come out to meet you, to seek you eagerly, and I have found you.
16 I have spread my couch with coverings, colored linens from Egyptian linen;
17 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
18 Come, let us take our fill of love till morning; let us delight ourselves with love.
19 For my husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey;
20 he took a bag of money with him; at full moon he will come home.”
21 With much seductive speech she persuades him; with her smooth talk she compels him.
These days, women don’t offer sacrifices or pay their vows (heh…), but we can see how the modern equivalent meaning might be for her to finish her work and have the weekend free. The main idea here is that she is obsessed with getting her rocks off at the soonest possible convenience — if not with one man (like her husband (or “boyfriend”) — who happens to be out of town), then it will be with another, perhaps any other man having a sufficient SMV whom she can persuade.
With most men of sufficient SMV, persuasion is not the issue. It depends on whether he has other, better opportunities with another woman whom may receive priority. So her trump card is to utilize her feminine wiles to convince him that she would be a more accessible, and more gratifying lay than the next ho down his Tinder list.
Why the Outrage?
Why are “Christian” women offended by Lori’s article?
Why are the girls on Focus on the Family‘s ministry page, Boundless, going berserk about this sound advice?
- Are they refusing to hear godly wisdom?
- Are they upset because they aren’t virgins yet they still expect top rate men?
- Why are they confusing the gospel and salvation with wisdom and prudence?
- Σ Frame: Why do Christian women have the reputation of being whores? (2019 February 23)