When accusations of being “racist” abound, how can one deal with the risk of being a conservative white?
Authors note: Originally written on February 9, 2019.
Readership: Corndogs; Crackers; Hillbillies; Honkys; Rednecks; Roubles; Snowmen; Turkeys; Whites;
This post contains anecdotes that are offered to help readers beleaguered by accusations of racism think about what they might do to extol a bit of character, which might help develop enough rapport to escape a dismissal.
The context is interpreted through two Frames of reference.
- The nature of an authentic confession and how it has the power to transform your life.
- The common theme behind all these stories is that there is something about them that glorifies God. I believe if a person can find a way to glorify God through their interactions with others, then they’re bound to have a more positive experience.
Disclaimer: These stories should be taken simply as inspiring ideas – things I’ve seen used with moderate success. I can’t say whether or not any of these will work for you. They might even make your situation worse. It’s up to you to discern the context of your life situation and utilize the best wisdom you can come up with to magnify your personality and glorify God.
The magic of an authentic confession
Confession plays a critical role in maintaining one’s spiritual vitality.
In the past, I’ve written extensively about confession (of sin) and profession (of faith), the subtle difference between the two, and the power that it has to transform our subjective experience of life. In spite of all that I’ve written about it, this topic never seems to get old, because every day brings a fresh experience of self-discovery and spiritual renewal.
In a few previous posts, I discussed the nature of the heart-speech connection and the impact of a confession. The reader who is unfamiliar with these topics may wish to read the following essays before reading on.
- Confession vs. Profession (2009 October 2)
- Confidence and Authenticity in Speech (2009 December 28)
- The Trouble with Resolutions, Inner Vows and Commitments (2010 January 14)
I imagine that all the abstract theories and mystical impressionism have completely snowed many of my readers. It is my hope that the concepts described in the above essays might become clearer to the reader by considering the following real world case studies, all of which are based on my own life experiences.
Case Study 1 – I used to be racist
In authoritarian regimes, such as the Maoist regime in China and the Politically Correct culture of the West, people are persecuted for political views that they are perceived to have whether they actually have those views or not. This is the true meaning of prejudice. Therefore, if someone assumes that you have X views simply because you are Y, when in fact, you do not, then you are a victim of prejudice – not the other way around. For example, if someone assumes that you are racist simply because you are white, then you are a victim of prejudice.
The question is, how can one deflect prejudice preemptively?
When I’m forced to interact with a politically diverse group of people, I sometimes say, “I come from a very racist family, so I used to be racist, but I’m not any more”, followed by an interesting cross-cultural anecdote from my past life experiences, including a statement about “how I felt loved by (someone of the race or nationality in question)”. Note: You have to insert something about your feelings, or else it won’t resonate with liberals. This effectively preempts any possible discrimination I might receive for being white. It’s a true confession. Although I do hold scientifically based beliefs concerning inherent differences among races that would be considered racist by certain others, it’s true that I am less racist than my neo-conservative cousins. I harbor no ill will towards others simply because of their race.
Case Study 2 – That’s what you get!
My cousin’s oldest daughter went to prom with a black classmate. When I heard about this, I asked my cousin,
“Do you know your daughter is going to prom with a black guy?”
He answered, “Yes”.
“Well, you can be proud that she is super popular, just like you were in high school.”
This statement gave him an ego stroke, and let him recall some fond memories. He was exceedingly popular among his peers.
“Hey, do you know what teenagers do after the prom?”
He meekly nodded his head in affirmation.
I laughed and said,
“That’s what you get for a life time of n*gger jokes!”
He was shocked at first, then he bowed his head and accepted my jovial statement of “divine justice”. After a moment, he chuckled a little bit. Since then, I haven’t heard him tell any race-based jokes.
Could it be that my cousin’s habit of making these jokes became a confession that influenced his daughter’s social interests? I believe so.
Could it be that my cousin’s daughter’s choice of a prom date was God’s way of forcing my cousin into repentance? I believe so.
Case Study 3 – Wiggers
In the U.S., southern white nationalists have the stereotype as being racist. So much so, that even the Confederate flag has become a symbol of racism to the Left. As such, those who are not from the south, but who are familiar with its history, have the general impression that such people are racists. But having lived in the south for several years, it is my impression that race relations among southerners have matured to be more normalized and gracious compared to those living in the northern cities. I knew many white southerners (and domesticated Asians too) who listened to hip-hop and who admired black athletes and performers. They proudly called themselves, “wiggers”. I could not detect any animosity from them towards blacks as a race.
I would imagine that many neo-reactionaries would say that’s a shameful displacement and loss of historic white culture. But if being a wigger is taken as a confession, it can only be interpreted as a love for black culture – not racism. White northerners, on the other hand, I have never heard identify themselves as a wigger, although they might enjoy hip hop.
If you ever have some coworkers who are making you out to be racist, try this. Play some hip-hop, do a little dance with a bit of enthusiasm, and call yourself a wigger. They’ll get such a kick out of this inversion of their prejudices, that they’ll either be speechless, or they’ll laugh about it for days. After that, you might be teased as a wigger, but you’ll never be seriously accused of racism. If someone says you’re misappropriating black culture, you could ask them incredulously,
“Did you just assume the race I identify with?”
Case Study 4 – Heaven’s Devils
I once knew a guy who hailed from L.A., and he used to be a member of a motorcycle gang. But the area where we worked together in Maryland was a very polite, upper middle class society. When he first moved to our neighborhood, he shaved off his Fu Manchu (AKA horseshoe), and he bought some dress shirts and ties. He kept his tattoos covered at all times. He cleaned up some of his off-color, non-PC speech, and presented a “nice guy” image.
After he was working with us for a few months, he started to drop some hints about “crazy stuff” he did “when he was a kid”. Those stories made everyone laugh. Then sometime later, he started showing us some photographs of his earlier years. Over time, he was able to talk more about the things he did as a member of the biker gang. At first hearing, people were shocked, but they were able to accept it because of (at least) three reasons: (1) He talked about it as a thing of the past. (2) They had already come to know him as a responsible coworker. (3) He was pretty well-liked by everyone. He gradually loosened up his speech during this time. After he was there for several months, some people who had seen his old photographs told him he actually looked better with his Fu Manchu. He mentioned this to others to gauge their reaction, and most people found this to be very interesting, and many people agreed. So then he grew a mustache first, and when everyone had gotten used to that, he let the ends grow a little longer. Eventually, he was wearing his Fu Manchu again with full confidence. After a while longer, he got out his boots and leathers, and became the person that he was before he moved to our traditional, rural Maryland society.
At some point in his transition I realized that this is who he was all along, and I was really impressed with his social wisdom. He’s not very well able to change who he is, nor should he. But he was able to present his authentic self to others in a way that they could relate to, and eventually come to be accepted and respected for who he is.
If he had made his debut into our workplace under the guise of his biker persona, he would have aroused a lot of negative stereotypes, and would have received a lot of negative attention. But by introducing himself as a regular Joe, and then gradually allowing himself to be better known over several months, he was able to bypass the prejudicial judgements of others. This approach gave him the opportunity to create authentic relationships with people he would not have otherwise been able to connect with, and to build a solid reputation among his coworkers.
Some readers may hold the opinion that these stories are “Blue Pill” because it seems to compromise or cater to political adversaries. But it’s not Blue Pill to showcase your charisma and character to glorify God – That’s Game. It’s not Blue Pill to convince other people to gladly accept your tastes and preferences – That’s imposing Frame. It’s not Blue Pill to develop a good will, a good reputation, and possibly even popularity among those you must live and work with on a daily basis – That’s Godliness.
You cannot expect others to change according to your expectations – That’s sin. You must do the hard work of overcoming their prejudices and teaching them to accept and respect you for who you really are, so that you can then get what you want or need out of the interaction – That’s Red Pill.
- Σ Frame: It’s Tough to be White (2015 January 22)
- Σ Frame: Trump Appeals to Dignity, Not Racism (2016 March 7)
- Σ Frame: Why Political Correctness won’t solve Racism (2016 September 7)
- Σ Frame: The Egosyntonic Art of Tone Policing (2019 May 31)