In all the squabble over power games, frivorce rights, and marriage equality, have we forgotten that God instituted marriage to glorify Himself?
While I was writing the previous post, News Flash: One year on, Men STILL Prefer Debt-Free Virgins without Tattoos! (2019-07-16), I browsed several other WordPress blogs that had responded to Lori Alexander’s article. Nearly all of them tore down Lori’s arguments with familiar narratives. Some of these arguments are worth revisiting because they don’t line up with scripture.
The Truth: We are created in His image, Male and Female
The modern doctrine of Equalism is a weak eisegesis, at best, and the doctrine of demons, at worst. Since this particular false doctrine is currently very popular, the idea of shepherding one’s wife will seem odd to those tainted by Churchianism.
One blogger named Diana Rice wrote,
“What bothers me most about Alexander’s views is her sense that women and men are not equal image bearers of God. Specifically, she quotes that “The husband will need to take years teaching his wife the correct way to act, think, and live since college taught them every possible way that is wrong.”
Of course, it would be maddening for them to admit that male-female equality is not mentioned anywhere in the Bible, neither as a social virtue nor a spiritual precept, nor are women ever commanded to go to college to be initiated into Shatan’s Shex Showowity, or… <cough> becum edgumecated, or so we are told.
However, the idea of men and women being image bearers of God deserves further consideration. God created man and woman in His image, as male and female.
27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. ~ Genesis 1:27 (NKJV)
Perhaps the one creation that best represents and glorifies the nature and personhood of God in this world is a marriage between a man and a woman – not a man and a man, not a woman and a woman, not Chivalry, not Game, not Feminism, and not MGTOW.
That said, I’ve seen some pornographic videos that are more God glorifying than some family sitcoms on TV.
A male and female joined in marital union can become an entity greater than the sum of its parts. That additional sum is the glory of God.
That’s right! Married men, you can tell your wife,
“Tonight honeyslot, you shall %*&@ your man and glorify God… and you’re going to looove it!”
However, some relationships produce unions that are less than the sum of its parts. Proponents of mirage equaluhty fail to recognize that anything that detracts from the marital union of a man and a woman, also detracts from the potential glorification of God that could otherwise be achieved.
Glory appears to be something easy to ignore these days, maybe it’s because it’s something rarely seen, or maybe it’s because we’ve forgotten the Lord.
True, humans have the self-centered disposition to think lightly of God’s glory, but it’s extremely important to God. So much so, in fact, that if you’re frustrated and having difficulties in life, perhaps it’s because you neglected to allow God to be glorified through whatever it is you’re doing.
Hey wimmin… Can’t attract a man? Can’t latch down that hawt hunk’s commitment? Maybe you’re not giving God the glory.
“But if a woman has long hair, it is a glory to her; for her hair is given to her for a covering.” ~ 1st Corinthians 11:15 (NKJV)
Take this time tested hint from the sages of antiquity. Don’t ever cut your hair shorter than your nips! That’s just one way among many, that women can add to the total sum of glorification.
Going back to Lori’s now famous article… If, because of tattoos, debt, and past sexual indiscretion, a woman is passed over for another who is without those qualities, it is to further enhance the glory of God.
The bottom line is this: Obedience serves to manifest God’s nature, love, and glory. A strong marriage is a reward of continual obedience, and as such, is a powerful way to glorify God in this life. If you want a good marriage, you have to glorify God.
If God hasn’t called you to marriage, then he intends for you to glorify Him through some other way. But if God has called you to marriage (which I believe is the majority of people), but you make other priorities in life which don’t glorify God as much as marriage does (e.g. being an underemployed soy boy, or a blue-haired feminist with a Ph.D.), then you are failing to fulfill God’s purposes for your life, one of which is to glorify Him.
The Lie: Your obedience is required by God
In another rebuttal, Pastor Chris Legg wrote,
“…there are many passages in which “obedience” is required by God.”
Legg is playing the Pharisee card by claiming that obedience is required by God. “Required” is too strong of a word here, because obedience is a free choice. Instead, I would say, God tells us the best way to go about living, but life itself challenges us to be obedient.
Why is spiritual obedience important? It can’t really improve your standing with God. It can’t save your soul. It might ease a guilty conscience. But really, what it does is allows you to become a blessing, a source of love and inspiration, to the people around you.
If we are truly obedient, then those around us should reap the fruits of our obedience. But if one is obedient only because he hopes to gain a particular fruit of obedience from God, then he will most likely become frustrated in this attempt. God doesn’t cut deals. Those blessings are given to us as free gifts, not as wages for being good or righteous, which we could never do to God’s satisfaction.
God obviously allows people to be disobedient, and if we choose to be disobedient, God will use that situation efficiently for His purposes. He often uses such an opportunity to show us the following,
- A greater depth of self-understanding.
- The nature of our misconceptions.
- A deeper awareness of what is truly important, and how things actually work.
- The benefits and blessings of obedience.
- To extol His everlasting lovingkindness and mercy.
Now, being obedient to God is perhaps the most positive motivation a man might have in opting into the wimminz-take-all institution of marriage these days. Since obedience (and marriage) is open to election, then only those men who are seeking to be obedient will care to bother with the responsibilities thereof.
For all the sacrifice and risk a man must accept in marriage, he should be holding out for a wife who is a source of companionship, respect, and regular, enthusiastic sex, as well as love, inspiration, and babies, and who is not a source of STD’s, debt, and collegiate-quality debate tactics. These latter things are absolutely worthless, if not counterproductive towards enhancing the glory of God in marriage.
Why should men be so particular? Because a beautiful marriage is what would glorify God, and that is the point that too many are missing.
If a man goes to all the trouble and risk to be obedient by glorifying God through a marriage, then you can rest assured that he’ll want to find a wife who is likewise committed to spiritual obedience – and not only to God, but also in her dealings with him as well. One might even argue that this is (partly) what it means to be equally yoked in marriage.
The Lie: What’s truly important is merely a preference
In the same post, Pastor Legg wrote,
“So, as in the case of premarital sex, God would certainly “prefer” that we all obey his teaching to wait until a covenant marriage to embrace sex!”
Here, Legg is playing the Herodian card by schmoozing holiness with obedience and claiming that sexual purity is preferred by God. “Preferred” is too soft of a word here. The verb Commanded is a better descriptor.
3 But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; 4 neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. 5 For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. 6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. 7 Therefore do not be partakers with them. ~ Ephesians 5:3-7 (NKJV)
Illicit sex is not merely an issue of casual disobedience, such as a woman cutting her hair too short or getting a tattoo. Illicit sex is an issue of idolatry. Getting free from idolatry is significantly more important than being obedient. As stated in verse 6, it is the idolatry of the thing that destroys one’s spiritual inheritance and calls down God’s wrath, and not merely disobedience. So it naturally follows that promiscuous whiminz cannot possibly be obedient to God or (future) husband, because obedience to the Tingling Ashtoreth has taken polarity.
Even if sexual liaisons were merely a preference, as Feminists would have us believe, the problem remains that there are too many Churchians who do not prefer what God requires for our own sanctification. Yet even so, many wicked women worn wide and weary by the Alpha widow makers feel entitled to have a “worthy” man (by their independent estimation) who is also impeccably obedient to God such that they may obtain all the blessings of a Christian marriage.
“Those who regard worthless idols Forsake their own Mercy.
But I will sacrifice to You with the voice of thanksgiving;
I will pay what I have vowed. Salvation is of the Lord.” ~ Jonah 2:8-9 (NKJV)
RP Translation: Whiminz who ride the Carousel forsake their chance to have a joyful Christian marriage. Sorry, NRFS!
The Big Comfortable Lie of License without Consequence
This was also written by Rice in the first post cited above,
“That fundamental aspect of our character cannot be undone by going to college, having a career, having debt, or even having tattoos. We are not less loved by God for having made any of these choices.”
Character is a result of one’s choices in life, be they good or bad. Maybe bad choices or disobedience will not cause one to be less loved by God, but it can render a woman less loved by men seeking a wife for a marriage that glorifies God.
Third Legg extends,
“…[Lori’s] article, if you aren’t careful in your reading of it, will communicate that women who are not virgins, in debt or have tattoos cannot get the best men – godly men – high quality men.
You are not “damaged goods” (or at least not any more damaged than the rest of us) or something less lovely or less pure (see above).
Good men, godly men, understand God’s value of treasure. And we make decisions based on His measurements rather than our own.
There are men who submit their “preferences” to God’s perspective.”
Here is a nice pep-talk for carnal or spiritually immature women who are feeling guilty about their choices, which may very well be most of his congregation. But Legg is dismissing the nature and consequences of idolatry. To spell it out more clearly, a disobedient woman is one marred by short blue hair, tattoos, and debt, and who holds disdainful attitudes towards male authority and masculinity. This disobedience is what makes her “damaged goods”, because she fails to bear God’s glory. However, these things can be forgiven, as Legg exerts strenuously. But an idolatrous fornicator, on the other hand, is “destroyed goods” – one we are admonished to avoid altogether, according to Ephesians 5:7.
Rice and Legg are denying reality – the reality of the SMP, the MMP, and God’s Word, which says,
“Can a man take fire to his bosom, And his clothes not be burned?
Can one walk on hot coals, And his feet not be seared?” ~ Proverbs 6:27-28 (NKJV)
Sin has consequences. If a man marries a woman who once engaged in a sexually promiscuous lifestyle, then he too will have to bear those consequences.
Ms. Rice and Pastor Legg seem to imply that good, godly men will simply ignore their own desire for marital bonding and blissful joy, and gladly accept these consequences as their duty to God to “carry their cross”. After all, Jesus’s sacrifice doesn’t cover college debt, tattoos, and the alpha widowhood associated with poor marriages. Honest, hardworking husbands must also do their part to save a ho. The problem is that men fail to recognize God’s precious pearl in the ruff (probably because it’s covered with mud from the pigsty), or they’re too lazy, or too selfish, or too wimpy to play the savior.
For those readers not following my sarcasm in the previous paragraph, we’re not talking about saving a soul here, we’re talking about saving a rebellious brat from the consequences of their actions. But how can the Word of God in Ephesians 5:5 be redacted, such that idolaters can regain their inheritance?
So Rice’s and Legg’s messages are merely a stroke of the feeelz gooed variety – which is exactly what those wimmin need to hear to keep their adulatrous hopes alive, and postpone an authentic repentance. But to the men, it’s just another smack in the face “Man up and marry that slore!” message.
It should be noted that the basic “Man Up and marry” message is an attempt to shame men into being obedient unto granting commitment, cash, and prizes to women. Of note, shaming men into being obedient, is in itself, disobedience, as it is merely a manipulative parley for damage control and indemnification. This heavy handed tactic has become necessary because all the intrinsic rewards of obedience have already been burned up and the ashes blown to the wind. Should a man marry such a woman, there is little joy or benefit, and much risk to be undertaken. Furthermore, a marriage of obedience, in this case, offers but a token gesture of hollow homage to the glory of God.
But… if every woman becomes a tattooed, debt-ridden humpty-dump, then men will have no other choice!
Everyone Woke applauds, but no one is asking, How does this glorify God?
A disobedient woman going into debt in the hopes of becoming a CEO, and postponing or avoiding marriage all together, simply will not glorify God as much as if the same woman were obedient, got married, and spent her passions on husband and children.
If a bad woman goes to the dog pound for ten of her ripest years, spends her best on the worst, with nary a thought about her responsibilities, marriage, nor family, how does her idolatry glorify God?
If you believe it does, then who is your God?
Heh… Sound check.
It only glorifies the revelries of rebellion.
Lori Alexander’s article sought to point out what would enhance God’s glory and our joys of obedience. Detractors took many approaches, including the following.
- They sought to confuse the major difference between disobedience and rebellion.
- They offered comfortable lies that prevented the Holy Spirit from speaking to the guilty conscience of individuals, thereby delaying or bypassing their repentance from error.
- By failing to divide the uncomfortable Word of Truth, they enabled the Churchian rebellion to stampede further away from truth, beauty, goodness, and the glory of God.
- The “true lie” most resorted to was the overemphasis on God’s love for the disobedient and rebellious (AKA “Herodianism”).
The Word is a living sword that divides joints and marrow (Hebrews 4:12), and so was Lori’s article, which effectively divided those in society according to their core values. God wants to separate the sheep from the goats, in order to protect the sheep and give the goats their due. Revisiting another translation of Ephesians 5:7,
“Come out of her, and do not partake in her transgressions.”
- Wintery Knight: Are men allowed to have preferences about which women are best for marriage? (2019-2-13)
- Dalrock: Marriage and Children were always her priority (2019-7-17)