Hypergamic selection carries with it a woman’s Respect for the Tingle-inducing man.
Hypergamy is a term that has been redefined since the advent of the Red Pill, and since then, Rollo has cornered the search engine market on the term. The references to hypergamy are ubiquitous in RP venues, almost universally giving hypergamy a bad rap. However, I have come to believe there is a silver lining to women’s inherent desire to “marry up”. Consider the following expositions.
- Adam Piggott: The Definition of Hypergamy (August 14, 2014)
- Spawny’s Space: Hypergamy Unleashed — Tingles Uber Alles (December 30, 2014)
- Christianity and Masculinity: Hypergamy is good (December 7, 2017)
In the first article, Adam quotes Keoni’s definition of hypergamy. The latter part reads,
“In other words, if she does not “look up” to a man in some way, she will not be attracted to that man.”
Second, “Tingles Uber Alles” is the 3rd Titanium Law of the Manosphere. Farm Boy wrote,
“The difficulty is that for a woman to feel tingles, the man has to be dominant.”
“From a woman’s perspective, there are so very many men of the wrong type (non-tingle-inducing) approaching. These must be rejected and rejected quickly, lest they get any ideas. This was such an inconvenience. She must get on with her purpose, the tingles. This situation is bothersome, but it is the price that women must still pay.”
“The flip side of the same coin is that much of “dominance” comes from the relative status between the man and the woman.”
In the third post, Deep Strength offered this:
“Hypergamy is simply the traits in which women are sexually attracted to men: masculinity, power, status, charisma, looks, money, athleticism, talent, and so on. These are the ways that women will “marry up” because they want to be with a man who is sexually attractive to them.”
I want to offer the reader an observation about this trait of Hypergamy, and I hope I’m not stretching this a bit too far.
If a man has the ability to strike the blessed Tingles in a woman, then he has a strong, visceral power over her. Respect is the proper display of appreciation for one who has power and authority. Therefore, a woman’s desire for a powerful, Tingle-inducing man, and “looking up” to that man, could easily be conflated with “having respect” for that man.
Men can’t really identify with women’s hypergamic instincts, or their experience of the Tingles. But respect is something that men can relate to, as it is a pertinent need for men. Men need to be respected by the women in their lives. This is both empowering and inspiring to them. In this view, hypergamy offers a win-win deal for both the male and female, as it offers Respect to the male, and Tingles to the female.
If you’re following this connection, I will here propose the theoretical law that there is a high correlation between when a woman experiences the Tingles, and when she has a high degree of respect and admiration for the man. In other words,
Tingles = Respect
Of course, there is the all too common exception when the woman is too selfish, immature, or clueless to know how to express respect to the man in a way that the man can read and appreciate.
There is also the exceedingly rare exception when the woman chooses to respect the man in her life out of obedience to God’s Holy Scriptures, even though he may fail to confer the 3 T’s of Total Tingle Tantrum on her.
But other than these exceptions, this equivalency generally holds true. This knowledge may offer to certain men who are desperately in need of Respect, a greater motivation to become Tingle-inducing studs.
This interaction is a key point to understand the Tingly Respect model which I described in the last post, Models of Courtship and Marital Structure (October 3, 2018), because this is the fundamental dynamic within this type of relationship.
- Sigma Frame: Love Is As Love Does (September 29, 2015)
- Christianity and Masculinity: The influence of hypergamy on attractiveness and relationships (December 16, 2015)
- Chase Amante: Are All Women Slaves to Hypergamy? (June 26, 2016)