This post covers loopholes in the social mechanics that might allow crafty, determined men to get a middle leg up, and keep hypergamy in check. Doing whatever it takes to reach a predetermined, targeted life goal, this post explores the ‘Orange Pill’ in greater detail.
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Many men living in western culture today are deeply disappointed with what life has offered them. Concerning relationships especially, men are frustrated with the ‘liberated’ females around them, starved for sexual fulfillment, and hopeless about making any changes.
Yet, there must be something that a man could do to achieve a greater sense of purpose and achievement in his life. Sitting at home, watching pron, playing video games, etc. is not in any sense, progress. A man must always keep himself on the edge of a challenge, no matter how great or insignificant it might be.
If a man is unable to change the current social order to his liking, then he must find, or create, a different social order or dynamic, at least within his own life, and within his own vicinity. Thus, if a man doesn’t like, or can’t compete in the challenge at hand, then he should switch up the game, such that he is playing a life game better suited to his purpose and interests, and is in an appropriate match for the competition.
This post examines some possibilities and alternatives.
A Computer Simulated Study of Hypergamy, and an Interpretation of its Significance
Chateau Heartiste’s post, Technology And Female Hypergamy, And The Inegalitarian Consequences (January 4, 2018) offers an insightful commentary on an earlier post from Selonomics (feat. Martin Petrović), How Does Technology Affect Which Men Women Choose? (November 8, 2017).
Using computer simulations with data models, Selonomics confirms the expression of hypergamic tendencies in various Female to Male ratio scenarios, and offers impressive graphs to illlustrate how women’s hypergamy truly steals the show, as Manospherians have long suspected. Chateau’s post makes the point that women’s hypergamous nature or wishful intentions, do not necessarily correspond to a real world fulfillment of the same. In effect, there is a difference between implicit female hypergamy and ‘runaway’ female hypergamy. Thus, we have identified a glitch in the Matrix.
Exceptions to the Rule Pose Opportunities for Men
Developments in the western social scene over the past few decades have indeed made it quite challenging for a man to find contentment. However, I will assert that a sufficiently determined man can search and search until he finds what he wants. Giving up is not considered an option. A corresponding definition of the measure of a man has been stated in popular culture.
“It is not the violence that sets a man apart. It’s the distance he’s prepared to go.” ~ Forrest Bondurant, in the feature film, Lawless (2012)
A man has the time to do this (but women don’t). So in the interests of such determined men, this post puts the finger on the fact that there ARE cracks in the system which can be exploited, and will offer some examples in which solutions might be found.
CH points out that there are many loopholes in the social mechanics that keep hypergamy in check, and allow men to retain a seat of power. Here, we explore these noteworthy points in greater detail. The first five are gleaned from Chateau’s post.
- Game, e.g. dread, push-pull, displaying high value (DHV), disqualification, outcome independent mentality, assuming the sale, etc.
- Genetically determined preferences for monogamy, i.e. ‘nature’.
- Formal social regulations and informal cultural regulations, i.e. ‘nurture’.
- Cultural and geographic constraints, i.e. ‘propinquity’.
- Grass Roots Reform, e.g. Trump’s election and the ‘angry young man revolution’, i.e. ‘autocorrection’.
- Others? [Eds. note: I may add to this list upon future revelations.]
- A combination of the above.
From these points, we hereby concoct the “Orange Pill”, a sort of Adderall for the Attention Deficit Hypergamic Disorder, widely prevalent in today’s society. This is good medicine for those men who lack determined intent, and who are chronically insensitive to the demands of ‘fitting’ within one’s chosen social environment. These are briefly discussed as follows.
For the past decade (since the debut of RP awareness), Game has been the single most endorsed tool available to (most) men for dealing with women. The whole PUA industry is built on low to mid SMV guys learning Game, so that they can compete with higher value guys in the SMP. Some might argue that only a very small number of men have been successful with this, but from a woman’s perspective, learning even some modest Game can take a guy from a 5 to an 8, and get him through the bedroom door.
I think the most efficient form of game that any guy could adopt is DHV. If a guy starts working out at the gym, gets a promotion, or has an investment that plays out well, this can take his confidence to a new strata. Yes, these things are difficult or unlikely, but it’s a LOT easier for a guy to gain 3 SMV chips by getting a promotion (i.e. playing the Status card), than it is for a woman to gain 3 points by doing… whatever. Losing weight, maybe? A man could simply wear a blazer and a pair of Johnston & Murphy’s, and bump himself up a notch. Seems like too few men are aware of this. Even guys who choose to snub women (i.e. MGTOW’s) would fare better in their careers by adopting certain aspects of Game that are relevant to their position.
I know some Delta guys at church who are (to be brutally honest) pretty low on the SMV totem pole. However, they have stable jobs and great personalities, so they have a much higher MMV. As a result, they have reasonably stable marriages to wives who are 3-5 points above them on the SMV scale. This sharply counters the hypergamous model (which means they’ll probably remain Blue Pill), but I think this is largely because there are a lot of women who place a higher value on comfort and stability, and are not that into drama and sexual variety. I should also mention that many of these wives are Asian and/or they married young, which supports Heartiste’s claim about these preferences being genetic. One scientific study by Cheng and Smyth  revealed that Chinese nationals strongly prefer monogamy as a source of subjective happiness.
From an evolutionary perspective, hypergamy is an important mechanism which serves to improve the quality of the gene pool over time, and we’re talking several generations here. But genetically determined propensities for commitment and monogamy are going to weed out the gene pool of women who rely heavily on birth control and postpone marriage and childrearing past their ‘educational’ phase, and this will happen within only a generation or two.
3. Social and Cultural Regulations and Traditions
One’s social environment is a huge influence over what one accepts as the norm, especially those experienced during one’s formative years i.e. adolescence. Commenter Don Quixote added a statement on Deep Strength’s site, which illustrates an example of how social and cultural regulations can produce top grade men.
“With regard to #1 Mr. Success. Often these guys are second generation Christian, and got off to a good start from their parents, especially if they are clerics. These guys have kept themselves from evil and reap the benefits, they are prone to fall into the trap of excess wealth, and I have encountered these guys in the past.”
”Usually they sympathise with the frivorced types but they are clueless beyond their own church’s policy on the subject, so they will point you to a counselor, and hope you will be ok. This is usually a bad idea.”
Parents have a great responsibility to diligently teach and discipline their children towards this end. Parent’s hard work in this area contributes to their children’s joy and successes in their life, thereby becoming a generational stronghold.
4. Geographic Propinquity
Concerning point four, CH mentions how ambitious, hypergamous females recognize their lack of sociosexual opportunities and flock to the coastal metropolises to maximize the high horse they get off of their addicktion to chance choice.
I say, men can do the same!
Young men opting for a college degree should choose their school carefully. For those men who are interested in partying and soft harems, choose an educational institution with a high female to male ratio (i.e. more females than males). For men who are interested in a more conservative experience, and who wish to meet better quality women and possibly a wife, they should choose a school with a low female to male ratio. At these schools, the majority of men (not feminists) call the shots, while coeds tend to be higher quality and more selective about men. However, you will have more competition too. I know that seems backwards, but that’s how it works. If you want something in between, go to a place that is around 1:1. I have no idea how truthful or accurate it is, but here’s an interesting link on this subject. In summary, when there are more women than men, hypergamy abounds, and this agrees with Selonomics’ study.
Those men who are being strangled by the laws and social norms of Samerica can Google search, scope out, and tour (if possible) domestic geographic locations and/or prospective foreign cultures which might offer them more of what they’re looking for in life, whether it be gaining life experiences, padding a resume, developing a career, sexcapades, or even finding a traditional wife. If young thots/future cat ladies want to go to Grand Canyon University (sex ratio = 2.9:1, and quite a fitting name!) and take ‘missionary trips’ to Sierra Leone, then we should expect young men to respond in turn. Thus, we have the current mass exodus of sufficiently discontented males going to traditional, patriarchal societies (e.g. eastern Europe and south-east Asia), to quench their appetites for a taste of normalcy, as well as to escape the blue-haired, fish-mouthed crazies. Yours truly included.
For those men who are interested in exploring their opportunities in foreign cultures abroad, an overview of the cultural anthropology of a few other world cultures are described in the following posts.
- Sigma Frame: Foundations of Cultural Ethics and Chivalry (February 18, 2018)
- Sigma Frame: Cultural Ethics, Patriarchy, Chivalry, and Christianity (February 24, 2018)
My advice is for you to review these cultural characteristics carefully, and do a little bit of your own research, with the mind to identify a culture possessing an ethical structure that you think would most appeal to you. Then decide whether it would be advantageous to your best interests to travel there, with the intention of determining whether it might offer what you are looking for in life.
5. Grass Roots Reform
Recently, the rise of MGTOW has revealed that society, and feministic women in particular, are deeply terrified by the power of men in creating a shift in society that threatens, nay promises, to derail their apocalyptical train of alpha ecstasy and government enforced subsidies. Occasionally, the news reveals signs of the Feminist hiccup.
For example, this article from the Guardian (feat. Rebecca Solnit): Don’t let the alt-right hijack #MeToo for their agenda (December 10, 2017), expresses an inherent fear that FemLefties cherish, concerning the erosion of Matrix supremacy. This fear indicates a power that men have, which they are not totally aware of – the fact that they are the inventors, movers, builders and loin shakers of society – not women, as much as feminists would like to believe.
In other words, men are the ‘big gears’, and when big gears move slow, the little gears spin wildly. This phenomena is apparent in almost any female-male pairing, although many Blue Pilled men attempt to tone it down. Moreover, women depend on men for sex, security, sustenance and quality of life. In fact, this basic ontology has been the root complaint of feminism since its inception. When men realize that they have strings to pull, they will slowly develop control over the interaction, which women have monopolized in the past.
By presenting these cases, I am in no way saying that women don’t have any latitude or adjustability to their SMV/MMV/hypergamic advantages. To be sure, hypergamy has the upper hand, and this is a regular topic of discussion elsewhere in the Manosphere. This article only points out a few ways that men can deal with hypergamy in ways that soften the agony and abuse. Of note, it helps to remember the following.
- A man’s overall value is not linearly dependent on his SMV, as it is for women.
- Men have different experiences in life, compared to other men.
- Men who are in different phases of life, with different experiences, have different goals and mindsets.
- A man’s present experience changes slowly over time, often for the better.
- Men have more time, a cornered market on resources, and thus, more power in the game.
- Men can look for pockets of exceptions having the potential to offer opportunities to get around the stacked system.
- A diligent and resourceful man can find a life that works for him.
- Finding a good match and fitting the bill is the real challenge.
- It’s up to each man to decide what he wants, and to do the searching.
- Often times, a man has got to make some tough decisions about what is most important to him.
- A mismatch or failure only indicates that one must continue searching further.
Best wishes to all my readers!
 Zhiming Cheng, Russell Smyth, “Sex and Happiness”, Journal of Economic Behavior & Organization 112 (2015) 26–32.