Another article from Elite Daily displays the profound disrespect that women give men these days.
Readership: Discerning Men, Pink Pilled Women
I got a “Pop Up” advertising this article from Elite Daily. I’ve got to admit, they certainly know how to tap into the frustration that has become common (anything for a clique), but it’s still feminist drivel.
Elite Daily (feat. Lauren Martin): Why Women Need To Start Asking Men Out… Because Men Have No Balls (September 10, 2014)
[Eds. note (October 23, 2018): Link updated. This article was originally entitled, “Men are Pussies! Women need to start asking men on dates!”]
Ms. Martin writes,
“There’s no door-holding, no hand-holding and definitely no free drinks. There’s no taking off hats or courting through invitations. There are no smooth moves, no jackets to dinner. There are no flowers, no tables by candlelight. But, most importantly, there are no dates.”
Gee, I wonder why?
So far, this is a pretty accurate description, but as we read on, the falsely attributed causes become apparent.
“If you’re a single woman, you probably envisioned your twenties as a roaring social scene full of expensive dinners and lavish nights out. You probably thought you’d have a boyfriend, or at least a few dates a week.”
Here we find a dichotomy between the outcome goals of dating, between men and women. Men see dating as a path to establish some sort of a relationship, but these days, women see dating as a path to debauchery. Men take dating seriously, considering the suitability of this woman, the risks of pregnancy, and even marriage, but women only want to have fun… With lots of men. This seems to be a classic role reversal, compared to the dating scene of decades past.
But later in the article, we find the real reason for men’s reticence.
“After too many nights spent in bars and one too many phone numbers given out, you’ve probably realized the sad truth of the situation. You’re not going on any dates or being courted in any type of manner because, unfortunately, men these days are cowards.”
In this paragraph, we see the whole problem in stark detail. What kind of man would seriously court a woman who frequents bars and gives her phone number out to every man? What kind of man would want to date a woman who believes all men are cowards?
“They’ll make eye contact with you in the bar, but never come over. They’ll get your number, but never call. They’ll offer to buy you a drink, but never pay.”
They know they could buy drinks for you all night, only to see you walk out the door, never to see you again.”
“They’ll say a girl is hot, but never hit on her. They’ll text you for a week, but never ask you out. They’ll do absolutely everything but make a move.”
They’re still looking for evidence that this woman is worth all the effort, and become disappointed in only a few days.
“I’ve watched men pine over women, talking about them like future wives, yet after staring at them for two hours, let them walk away.”
Man can dream, can’t they? But they know it’s not going to be what they want.
“I’ve watched men chase women down for their phone numbers, yet wait a week to text them, acting like it’s something they simply forgot about.”
Sorry babe, there’s too many other women who gave me their phone number. You’re further down the list somewhere.
“I’ve watched men spend an entire night talking to a girl, yet never get up the nerve to ask for her number.”
Once a woman decides she’s ready to roll, she thinks it’s a done deal, becoz… “No red-blooded man would ever turn down a ‘gorgeous princess’ for sex, right?” But ever increasingly saavy men are still reviewing the contract. This worm waiste just isn’t juicy enough to bite.
“We’re dealing with a new breed of men here and it’s not the kind we grew up dreaming about. It’s the want-what-I-want-but-don’t-know-how-to-get-it type;
Men are also dealing with a new breed of women here and it’s not the kind we grew up dreaming about either. It’s the men-are-as-disposable-as-the-condoms-they-come-in type.
“It’s the sweet and cuddly mama’s boys who grow up terrified of making the first move”
Who is going to make the first move on a woman who thinks men are ‘Mama’s Boys’?
“It’s the guys who have so much to say but don’t know how to say it.”
Men clam up fast when they know they’re going to be judged on every word that comes out of their mouth, and ridiculed accordingly. Isn’t it apparent why he doesn’t want to continue with you?
“Now, the unfortunate paradox for a woman is that she must be the chased and the chaser. She must be the target and the shooter. She must play coy and simultaneously pursue him.”
Too much effort required? A little bit of responsibility is too much to ask of you?
“Anyone notice the problem here? Yet again, women are left to do all the work. We’re left playing both sides of the game because they’ve simply forgotten how to play.”
You’re wanting to be played by a cad, and then you’ll whine and cry after getting screwed and duped. Decent men don’t play that kind of game.
“It stems from a number of factors, but most prominently from the fact that men don’t know what the hell they want from us. They want the virgin and the whore. The want the slut and the good girl. They want the girl who’s hard to get, but they don’t know how to get her.
So you say. You really don’t understand men at all. It’s too much work for a decent man to date you, and you’re definitely not marriage material.
“Because they don’t know what they want, they end up chasing nothing. It’s the dilemma of the overcrowded buffet. There are too many options so they choose an empty plate… or something they don’t even like to begin with.”
This statement stinks of psychological projection. She’s describing her own view of men, NOT vice versa. A more truthful statement could be obtained by reinstalling the appropriate personal pronouns.
“Because I don’t know what I want, so I’ll end up chasing nothing. It’s the dilemma of the overcrowded buffet. There are too many options so I choose an empty plate… or something I don’t even like to begin with.” As long as it makes my loins feeel good!
“This leaves women making all the moves. We must tell them what they want if we’re to get anywhere close to the goals we had for ourselves.”
Ahhh… one line of satisfying truth in this whole dirge. Even a broken clock is right twice a day. So what’s your move? Griping bile on Elite Daily?
“But it will never be as we fully imagined because, in our dreams, men weren’t timid or scared little boys; in our dreams, men are the ones with the balls to ask us out.”
For the continuation of your dream, please go back to sleep in Disneywhorld, or watch Pretty Woman for the 1,359th time.
The next section is entitled, “THEY’RE SCARED OF YOU”
“They’ll never admit it, but you scare the hell out of them.”
Yes, you scare the hell out of men!
“After years of social conditioning, we’ve been duped into thinking that men are the strong ones; that they are the leaders, the protectors and the fighters; that they are the ones that see what they want and go after it.”
Men do not have delusions about who they are. No, you have delusions about yourself, and who men (and other women) are. Come back to reality sometime this year please.
“Well, TV lied to you. Men aren’t these masculine displays of strength and perseverance. They aren’t these persistent characters created by Nicholas Sparks and John Green. They aren’t going to catch your eye and spend all night convincing you why you should be with them. They aren’t Noah Calhouns. They aren’t Augustus Waters.”
Now we know who she is comparing all men to.
“Men are shy, timid and scared sh*tless of any woman with half a brain.”
That’s true, when they’re around a ball busting braggart b!tch (with half a brain) who won’t shut up and go away.
“It’s said that the male ego is as fragile as a woman’s heart and unfortunately for women, men won’t take the chance of letting it shatter. While women willingly put themselves out there, men stand back, scared of the tiniest bruise on their overinflated self-image. So yet again, women must be the strong ones. We must put ourselves out there and risk rejection.”
What she projects as “ego” is actually a man’s sense of God-ordained hierarchy. An egotistical woman who won’t submit to the hierarchy is a strong, independent demon from hell. News flash! Men want to avoid perdition.
“Because if we don’t do it, bars will soon be exactly like those middle school dances: boys on one side, girls on the other.”
That would actually be a taste of normalcy, and a semblance of innocent love – which you lost after the homecoming prom.
The next section is brandished, “THEY GOT IT FROM THEIR MAMAS”.
“Why are men like this? Well, for years they’ve been raised by their mamas, the women who told them they were the best thing God created on this earth. For years, they’ve been given everything on a silver platter — up until the end of college when they were picking up women who just threw up their jungle juice.”
Talking like that makes it obvious, she’s sucked too many wieners, and now she’s had a belly full.
“Of course, some mothers have raised great men. This isn’t to discredit the generation of mothers before us who raised the myriad of young men we’re dealing with today. But for the select few who didn’t teach them how to properly court a woman, well, shame on you.”
I can’t believe she used the word “court” in this essay. If she was interested in courtship, she would be preparing herself for marriage, and not for the dance club.
“Shame on you for not teaching them how to properly approach a woman. Shame on you for giving them the idea that women must go to them. Shame on you for making them believe all they had to do was stand at a bar and wait for a girl to appear on their arm.”
Is she really insulting mothers? Yo Mama! She’s just the right kind of caustic @ss hate b!tch you’ll want to introduce to Babushka!
The next section is called, “THEY THINK THERE’S ALWAYS SOMEONE BETTER”. Yeah, better than YOU!
“In the society in which we live today, with Gigi Hadid and Miranda Kerr’s Instagrams readily accessible, women have got a lot to compete with. Fortunately, we’re competing with women these men will never have a shot with. Unfortunately, these men don’t seem to know this.”
You have it backward. Women are competing against other women for men they will never have a shot with. Of course, men don’t know those particular women you’re trying to emulate, and we don’t really care either. All we know is that you don’t stack up to our standard threshold, which isn’t really that high these days. That’s not the same as men being ignoramuses.
“We can dream about Channing Tatum and Chris Pine all we want, but at least women are rational enough to understand that’s just not gonna happen. So we settle for the options we’ve been given and learn to work with what we have.”
No man any less fine than Brad Pitt or Richard Gere is going to slice her ham! And she says men are entitled!
“Men, on the other hand, always seem to be waiting for something better. In the age of Facebook and Instagram, there’s this constant filtered delusion that a hotter girl sits just an inbox away.”
We live in the age of the glorified slut! Swipe right on every profile, and pick through what’s left for the evening’s entertainment. A girl just as hot as YOU, and with a much better attitude, is not that hard to find.
“Men also know that if they don’t get up the nerve to ask you out, all they have to do is swipe right on Tinder to skip the date and get right to the good stuff.”
Exactly! Now you are understanding the situation.
In the next section, she claims, “THEY NEVER GREW UP”. She must be gazing in the mirror.
“In a sad, but not all that surprising, report by Nickelodeon UK, men are 11 years behind women in maturity. While women reach maturation by 32, men aren’t fully matured until 43. While this study garnered much attention, women everywhere were less than surprised. Didn’t we already know this?”
This is why we often see 43-year-old men dating 32-year-old women – they want to get a piece of that fresh maturation! Jokes aside, of course you know that women want older men, and men want younger women. Got a problem with that? Or are you going to blame the ‘oppressive patriarchy’ for the natural ontology?
“To add insult to the few dates you have yet to be asked on, men are also getting married less than ever before. According to a study by Pew Research Center, only 26 percent of Generation-Y is married.”
I hate to say it, but Why buy the cow when the milk is free?
“Compared to the 48 percent of our parents at this age, there’s no denying that men just don’t have their sh*t together.”
48% of Mom’s generation knew how to hook a man and settle into a marriage. Then Dad’s got their shit together under the motivation of daily pussy and the children’s expenses. For your generation of women, men have no such motivation.
“We’re dating less and thus, marrying less. And the downfall picks up speed with every failed attempt to ask a woman out.”
What you are describing is the typical experience of every single woman passing 30. Stop complaining and get your shit together!
But you’re right! Dating (much less “courtship”) is not at all what it’s jacked up to be. These days, women just aren’t worth the effort, stupid!